Ive seen a lot of posts videos and I’ve noticed a trend that tends to help you newbies (it helped me). Now if you need direction on how to get started thats what i want to show you. I come from a back ground in sales and was married for a while but never had game in the past. I went through a divorce and started to date again. Thats when i took my long walk with all the bumps and bruises you will get as well. Weather its making mistakes or losing dates based off of what you may have said. So lets get started.

Personal Key Philosophies:

1) You must have a structured method. this will quantify (give you the ability to measure) your whole dating process. This is crucial to even be able to get better or improve your results.

2) You must run head in to any fear you feel. This is because in life we see things that appear scary or daunting. When we expose ourselves enough times to the fear we develop a resistance to it.

Example:So next time you see a girl and a guy out in public go up and say “hi are you two together?” And weather they say yes or no you say “well i thought you looked cute” then walk away. The point is to address fear.

3) Document in a notebook or on your phone. after a day of approaching you want to be able to reflect on how each situation went so you can see where you might have gone wrong or what you can improve to get that 10/10. This goes back to having a process!! No point in reflecting if you just wing it all the time!!

4) Take care of your health and try to look nice. Realize that every hot guy or girl you see that you want to look like can be you. You are more than capable of looking really good if you eat well and take care of your body.

5) Keep your pipeline full! A pipeline is the process that you put each i individual through.

6) Always keep it upbeat and flirty. This may sound hard to do but you can come up with or use some of my examples down below and after using these for a while you’ll find it easier to come up with more.

7) if you just want sex or you want to date and build a relationship you must always see as many people as you can! Let me ask you this: if you were seeing 6 other people and you had been on a few dates with each. Wouldn’t it be easier to pick who you want to get serious with rather than having one person or at most two who may not fit your needs or desires?

THE PROCESS Ok, so first we will address having a process. The easiest for me (and what I’ve seen a lot of videos use) is Approach, Qualify/Present, and Close. You will also want a logistic plan of a few types of dates in order to achieve your desired goal more on this later.

APPROACH:

The approach consists of: 1) Greeting/compliment on looks. 2) Flirty compliment and question.

1) Greeting/Compliment on looks - The key is to stop that good looking person and say “Hi, i saw you and thought you looked really cute.” The purpose of this is to just start the approach her up.

2)Flirty compliment and question. - This is where you complement something about them like this: “I couldn’t help but notice your shoes look really nice they make me think of you in a law office doing legal work. Is that what you do?” The purpose of this is to generate a conversation in a flirty way. This will open her up to talk about her self and allow you to move to qualification.

QUALIFICATION/PRESENTATION:

The Qualification/Presentation consists of seeing if they match your needs in a dating partner or just sexual. This will also give you a chance to learn more about then while answering questions they may have about you. Your needs are obviously dependent on you but there are some basic ones you might need to know below.

1) Is there a relationship already? 2) What area do they live? 3) What do they do for work?

A key thing to remember is every one loves talking about them selves and after too long of listening to some one talk about themselves they will get bored. So when they ask a question about you try to make it pretty short and sweet then move right back on the topic of them.

Once they start asking questions that means they are interested in you. Let the line of questioning go on for a while to build Rapport (familiarity and comfort) then go for the close!

CLOSE:

Ok so this is where you obtain a commitment! They have to do something here for you. Weather it is giving you their number or going on a insta date right there. If you leave without anything you wasted your time and probably wont run in to them again (maybe). Here are a few closes to help. Remember this comes after building rapport

close: 1) “Well, it was nice talking to you but i have to meet with my friends. I want to keep talking can i get your phone number?” 2) ”I’m going out of town in a few days. So if you’re free now do you want to come with me to get some coffee?” 3) “I’ve gotta be somewhere soon can i get your number so we can keep talking?”

LOGISTICS: Ok, finally logistics. So you want to plan the entire date out for these people you’re going to try and day game. The reason you do this is so you have s somewhat consistency to measure against and you’re not shooting in the dark trying to once together an end game in the middle of a random date just to come up empty handed because there were no good moves to get them home to your place or theirs.

1) Location for you day gammers looking for one night stands this is crucial you want to find a place within 5-10minutes away from your place. That way while on the date you can come up with a cool reason to come back by your place.

2) have a plan if they say no to your first suggested date location.

3)for you guys out there looking for relationships; keep the first date talkative. No movies or sporting events. Some where you can face each other and talk. Plan multiple dates because you are looking to develop something with these people.

4) when you get them home have a solid plan you use to move it in a sexual direction. Feel out the person their body language will tell you what to do and how to do it.

OBJECTIONS: An objection is a reason they claim they can not move forward with your conversation with them. Objections fall in to two categories; real and fake. They can and will appear multiple times in almost every part of the process.

A real objection is legitimate and a real reason they feel they cant continue talking too you. For example: “I have a boyfriend.”

Fake objections are them trying to get rid of you by saying anything they think will get you to leave. This doesn’t mean they don’t like you sometimes people just do this out of reflex or they are nervous and shy. An example of a fake objection: “I have a boyfriend”.

Any objection can be overcame and used as a reason to close or move forward with the conversation.

The process of overcoming an objection is acknowledge, validate, isolate, then rebuttal (a response that is intended to overcome the objection).

ACKNOWLEDGE: First thing first. You always agree (acknowledge) even when you don’t feel like you agree. When you do this you take away the ability for the objection to turn in to an argument. For example: Her: “sorry i have a boyfriend” You: “thats fine, i understand. Thank you, however.....”

Her: “sorry i don’t have time to talk.” You: “thats ok, i understand your in a rush however i will only be a few seconds.”

VALIDATE: So i know what you’re thinking. Both the real and fake examples are the same (above in objections summary)! Thats because they are!! So how do you tell if you are dealing with a real or fake objection?

You have to validate it! Simply ask: “will that really keep you from talking to me for a few seconds?” Or (if you don’t like that phrasing) “i promise i just want to for a second the fact you have a boyfriend wont stop that will it?”

Ok, so you can phrase it any way you want the whole goal is to get them to 1) say that it wont stop them from talking too you 2) see if they give you another excuse because that means they are giving you fake objections most likely. Or 3) determine its a real objection.

If they keep giving you fake objections you can straight up ask “whats really keeping you from talking to me right now?” They might just tell you the real one right there!

Heres the best part. Even if the objection is real or fake you can overcome it!!

ISOLATE: Follow up the validation step with a “is there any other reason you wouldn’t talk to me?” Always ask this before you handle the first objection because you want to uncover any other possible objections. Once they say no there isn’t any other reason you doing good. Over come that one objection and they effectively have given you permission to continue.

REBUTTAL: This is where the gold happens! A rebuttal is a response to a objection (real or fake). I like the ju-jitsu mind set of handling these: use the objection as the reason to continue. For example: Her: “sorry i don’t have time to talk.” Your rebuttal: “ok thats fine i don’t have much time either. So ill make it quick....” then go in to your approach step or whatever step is next.

Her: “sorry i don’t give out my phone number” Your rebuttal: “I understand, you know whats better? How about we trade social media accounts?”

An exercise i like to do is try to think of as many objections i can get then come up with three responses to them. So when they use the same one more than once i don’t respond the same way sounding like a robot.

While out day gaming make sure you write down every objection you get and come up with at least three responses. The goal is improvement not consistency or stagnation.

Looking for relationships and not just one might stands? Your end goal obviously will be different from some one who’s just trying to play the lay game.

I like to use this model of what i believe sets a healthy foundation for a relationship and eventually love. Now this is just my opinions and what I’ve gathered from my past relationships. Feel free to use it if you find it useful.

1)physical attraction - purely sexual.

2)emotional/physiological attraction - here is where you start developing feelings.

3)constitution - i believe you should do this step twice. Once when you start dating by setting small ground rules. Then the second time after you really get serious (moving in or marriage) these ground rules are more operational like finance and how you spend your free time. Ive lost a lot of relationships for not doing this.

4)development and reflection - this is where you take a step back to see how the ground rules you set are working out and what direction you are moving in with your partner financially and emotionally. Taking the time to do this can create to s of opportunity to make you both happier in the future.

IMPORTANT!!!! This method is simply to get you started you will change this to fit your personality and style. But this gets you considering the important elements of day game. Let me know if it helps at all and anything you think i can add!

The only reason you don’t day game now will be because you haven’t made the time to address the fear. I just gave you a answer on how to start! Go get those bumps and bruises and become better!