What’s up guys.

This is what I learned going on 15 dates in 30 days, and specifically what I learned starting to date a girl that I had true chemistry with.

This all took place in Eastern Europe, Budapest Hungary…

Which is probably the best place to practice and improve your game.

So the girl I met was literally right outside of my apartment, the first person I saw.

I wasn’t thinking, I just approached and said hi and was just vibing.

Within 5 minutes I realized that this girl was actually really cool, so I got her IG.

I was doing a date challenge that week, so I was already on date #4 that week, and I didn’t even feel like going out, but I did anyways.

And I DID NOT want to leave. And that’s the key there.

I was fulfilled, and we were vibing.

I go on so many dates and so many of them are so boring.

I feel like it’s an interview, or im trying to prove myself to the girl or see if we have chemistry. Waste of time and money.

 I leave and I don’t like how I feel after. I CANNOT stand sit down interview dates with a girl I barely know.

Big reason why I don’t do tinder. WASTE OF TIME.

And to have to spend money on a random girl I don’t know, it’s never fulfilling.

For every good experience, Ive probably had 5 bad ones..

And maybe that’s because I haven’t developed as a person yet, but the point is this:

If I’m going to waste energy to go on a date with a girl, they have to be cool, and I have to have some certainty I’m going to enjoy my time with.

SO.. The date went amazing (first one)

We later went on a second date to a thermal bath.

Now I was not as confident and on my shit on this second date.

I was just coming off a really bad fever, and hadn’t been practicing my social skills as much.

But I wasn’t scared, I knew I could break out of it.

I started the day with meditation, a work out, I went outside.

I got a hair cut (BIG CONFIDENCE BOOST).

I literally approached as many strangers as possible to re expose my self to social pressure..

I had an amazing convo with my barber.

And even though I was nervous, all of these things got me back to where my mind needed to be.

I could have just sat at home. Don’t go outside. Don’t walk. Be on my laptop.

And just go mind numb, and show up trying to turn on my brain there.

But that’s like not warming up before a race. You might not be as on point.

The ACTUAL date was so awkward at first.

LOTS of social pressure. So many people around, so many stares. I WAS NERVOUS. 

But over time I have gotten used to this feeling and I UNDERSTAND that THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

You just have to ride out the awkward waves.

BUT here is the major key:

Natural chemistry.

This is where natural chemistry really makes a difference. 

You see, if it was a girl that we didn’t have natural chemistry, it may of not been the best date, we both go home, and like I said earlier, unfulfilling.

But in this date there was enough chemistry to ride out those waves and get to a more fun space out of our heads.

Now I’m not completely evolved in my own game, but where I’m at now, I think it’s only good to go on dates with a girl that you do have that natural chemistry.

You’re always going to have dates where you’re feeling a bit off or awkward, and the only way to get through that is through chemistry.

For me, I feel like such a black sheep that it’s rare to find someone I really click with, but when I do its GG.

One thing that I like to do now: I like to do dates like a “Sit down work date”.

Because im always at coffee shops working.

That might not be the best date idea honestly, but I’m always at coffee shops working (GREAT FOR GAME BTW, but more on that in another post).

But an ideal situation is this: 

Have a weekly get together or some kind of event where you invite all the people you know, and they invite their friends.

Now you need resources to do that and a social circle, but THIS is the IDEAL SITUATION.

It’s social proof, a social environment and MOST IMPORTANTLY.

You’re not wasting a bunch of time to see if you guys have “chemistry”, compared to a boring sit down date.

It’s fun, win win, and no time lost.

OKAY… 

When do you kiss?
This is a big question.

I like to establish physical intimacy fast.

This is something I’ve struggled with growing up.

I always felt awkward and scared to show my physicality.

One thing that’s helped major is this:
Testosterone levels ^^

Put simply, the higher your T, the more horny you are, and it just happens naturally. This is honestly the basic answer.

It should just happen naturally, and I noticed whenever I am under slept or I haven’t been working out, getting sunlight etc,

It’s harder for me to be more physical without feeling awkward.

KEY: It should always feel natural, you should always be smiling, and it should be fun.

Now, any male who has been going on enough dates knows that sometimes as a guy, we read the situation wrong and we try to escalate at the wrong time.

That’s okay, just back off. And sometimes there’s just not enough chemistry for it to happen, accept it and move on.

But here is a strategy for you:

Try the kiss or escalation on an emotional high point.

Back to my awkward date. The moment the date got unawkward was when we did an ice bath together.

It was exciting, painful but also felt good after. A rush of emotions and endorphins.

Me cheering her on and her trying that for the first time.

After we jumped into the hot bath (another rush of endorphins) and we were no longer in our heads. 

I pulled her in, smiled and said “This was a great date idea” (it was hers), and we kissed, naturally.

But in my head, LOGICALLY, I understood that if there was a time to do it, the TIME WAS NOW.

I’ve been on enough dates to get a feel for it now, it’s like a muscle in the brain, a skill, but before it was hard for me to pinpoint the right time.

Every date is like a roller coaster. Every conversation, interaction. There are low points and high points.

When you’re on a low, you have to work your way up to a high, and don’t try to escalate before then.

And honestly, if a girl ism’t trying to kiss on the first date, and its the right timing and everything is perfect…

I kind of take it that the girl isn’t into me.

I’m more of a Brazilian when it comes to this, I don’t see kissing as a big deal Haha.

Sometimes I’ll be honest, I don’t know if a girl is interested or not.

And I just go for a kiss to see.

And sometimes im surprised, she’s super happy and into it completely, and it made me realize that maybe they’re just in their head, and it shows.

But sometimes it doesn’t work and it clarifies, she isn’t interested, then I move on.

So key points:

  1. Have natural chemistry.
  2. ASK YOURSELF how do you feel after? Even if there is intimacy, are you feeling drained from this girl.
  3. Do something that is low investment on your part for the first date if you’re not sure if you have chemistry..
  4. Sit down dates and intimate dates with a girl that you know will make your life better.
  5. Another thing… ITS A NUMBERS GAME. I personally have to date a lot of girls before I find one I have chemistry with.
  6. Ride the awkward waves
  7. Escalate on emotional high points.

The last thing I’ll leave you with, because this is so important:

IMAGINE your best FRIEND.

IT DOESNT matter what you guys do. No matter what, you’re having fun and enjoying it.

Work out, chill on the beach, go to a bar, or work at home.

EITHER way you’ll have fun.

It should be the same way with a girl you’re dating.

Peace guys.

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