Using push/pull is critical to your seduction game. There are many forms of push/pull – including physical, verbal and combinations. In this post I’m going to lay out a simple framework for doing push/pull using the power of suggestion.

The Power Of Suggestion

Think about someone “telling you” to do something. The first thing you would think (before you even consider what they’re telling you to do) is: “is this person a reliable source for this information?”

Right?

You’re not going to do something you’re “told to do,” if you don’t trust that the person telling you is reliable.

Suggestions are different. Think about someone “suggesting something.” The first thing you would do is consider the idea itself (whatever the suggestion was). You wouldn’t focus on if the person giving the suggestion is reliable, because he’s not telling you to do/think anything specific. He’s just offering a possibility.

The key here is that by “suggesting” rather than “telling” you can get people to focus on the idea straightaway and bypass the part where they need to consider the source of the information first.

When it comes to women, the concept works exactly the same way. If you “tell her” to do something or think/feel a certain way, she will resist. That's because she must first decide if you’re reliable enough to be telling her those things.

However, if you suggest it, then she will just focus on the idea itself.

An important final point about suggestion is that when done correctly, it can be so subtle as to barely be noticed (or perhaps not noticed at all). Nonetheless, the seed of suggestion is still planted. When it starts to grow, she will often consider it to be her idea (which is what you want – better to be “her idea” vs you “telling her” what to do/think).

Push/Pull Framework – Using Suggestion

The framework is like this:

  1. Tell her something interesting/exciting about something you do, something you’re about, something you did recently, etc. An interesting story.
  2. At the end of the story, suggest that she would really love doing it. It would be a blast. Use descriptive words to really bring about the “feelings” of enjoying it.
  3. After the suggestion is complete, playfully disqualify her and basically say “nah..you probably wouldn’t enjoy it.”
  4. Change the subject. Don’t wait for her to refute the idea that she may not enjoy it. Just move on.

Example:

  1. You’re telling her a story about rock-climbing. Maybe you do it regularly. Maybe you did it for the first time. Maybe you’re thinking about doing it and you’re merely relaying a story that you heard/read about it. Whatever.
  2. At the end of the story you casually drop the line “It’s really so exhilarating. You’d probably really love it." [Now use words to really bring out feelings --->] “The wind flowing through your hair, the solitude, the freedom, the adrenaline, the sense of accomplishment.” Whatever ‘feeling-type’ words are applicable to the situation. Women think in feelings, so to really reinforce that she’d love it, you have to say a few things that evoke feelings.
  3. After you say all that. Pause for a second or two. Then give her a sly smile (smirk) and disqualify her. This is done playfully. “Nah…you probably would hate it.”
  4. Change the subject. “So anyway….” And then just start talking about something else.

Breakdown

What you’ve done here is describe an interesting/exciting situation, made her feel some positive emotions related to it, pulled her in by implying that she’d love it (by saying something like “you’d probably love it”) and then pushed her away by saying she really wouldn’t love it.

The suggestion that she’d love it (rather than directly stating that she’d love it) has the power that we discussed before. You’re not telling her, so she doesn’t have to consider whether you’re a reliable source to be stating whether she’d love something or not.

The push at the end has this power: When you tell people they can’t have something, or wouldn’t like something, they immediately want it. It’s like a knee-jerk reaction.

The combination of those two things can really ratchet up her desire for whatever topic you’re discussing(in this example, rock-climbing). If you’re a rock climber, then you’re the guy who can fulfill her newly found desires.

Substitute any activity that you’re about in place of rock-climbing. Kick things off with an interesting story and then apply the framework above. She’ll be super-excited to go do that activity with you (and may even think it was her idea).

Golden.

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