As someone who also focus on dating while travelling, hostels are a very good playground.

But there is a cut throat compitition in wooeing a girl there(mainly party hostels). All the success I have received is when some kind of "group travel" happen albeit 10 people go on hiking tour etc. But when it comes to closing a girl in a pub crawl or hostel bar or common room, I have till now fumbled atleast 10 women with zero successes.

Each girl gets approached by 10 dudes but as soon as the girl you are trying to woo sees you trying to get close to another girl, your cover gets blown and you go straight into friendzone (that is what I feel)

But since the time is short, I also need to hedge my bets but more often I have noticed girls lose interest as soon as they see you mingling with other girls as well.

What I am doing wrong or failing to understand. Please help.