I’ve been reading Corey Wayne’s 3% Man and been taking it to heart. My Tinder game has already skyrocketed. I’ve got 3 dates planned within the last 3 days. I got the date set up and haven’t been messaging them so that I don’t show any signs of neediness (which has always been the hardest part for me, I’m okay looking, funny, and have a great personality, but I’ve always come off as too interested). Using Tinder the girls almost always want to Snapchat to make sure things are legit, and I have no issues trading selfies and making sure both sides are on the up and up. The issue I have is after those initial picture exchanges they usually want to keep snapping me, and I just want to go dark until the date so I don’t do what I always used to do. Should I just ignore their snaps, open them and then not reply, or send snaps back? How does this play into the “don’t talk until the date” mantra?

Additional question (this one is specific, unlike the Snapchat question which is general, I mention this because advise on specific girls is frowned upon in this subreddit): I went out with this one girl and we hit it off, but I came off needy after the first date. This was before I started reading the book and before I really started looking into seduction and dating in the first place. In any case we lost touch, which I blame fully on my overinterest. If I give it a few weeks of silence could I try reopening with her by text? And how might I go about opening without it seeming weird?