How to keep the conversation going?

NewtypeJ · 2019-12-04T08:38:04+00:00

Congrats on being good at the hardest part - opening. That takes a lot of guys a long time to be able to do. The trick to what I call fluff consists of three elements, communicating interest, negging, and progression. A common question to start off with after your opening is: What are you doing right now? Finding out what going on in her life right at that moment will help you determine if you gave to speed up the interaction or if you can take her on the ”legendary instadate”. Keep in mind, this is for cold approach, so approaching a girl who's walking down the street. Don't ask a girl in the grocery store or at the club what she is doing.

As far as having things to talk about, my best advice is just to live life. You're young so it's not too late to have great experiences. The more life experiences you have, the more you'll be able to share them with others in a genuine way. Next, realize that there's no need to be nervous. It's just talking. You don't seem like a very anxious person so I'm gonna assume you have no problem talking to guys of ugly girls. As humans, we have a natural negative response to being humiliated or shunned socially. No matter how introverted we might be, we need other people to survive. Approaching women is a battle against that natural negative response. Once you realize that none of that matters and that you'll probably never see the woman again (and if you do, who cares), you'll be able to talk to them about anything. The conversations I've had that have been successful we're the same normal, lighthearted things I talk about with any ugly girl or guy. The only difference is that I'm interested in the prior.

For this, I don't want to give too many ideas on what to say because this is something you really have to find yourself. If you want to know something about her, just ask. Things to not ask (This should be common sense but you never know): negative experiences in her life such as divorces and abuse, other guys (Never talk about another guy in front of a woman. Whether you say something positive or negative, that's beta behavior. Confident guys aren't phased by the actions of other men), and your sexual experiences. That last one is key. If a woman asks you how many people you have slept with, deflect the question and move on. Don't lie.

Anyway, this is longer than I need a post to be so I’ll wrap it up. Live life actively and gain experiences to have something to talk about. If you have a question, ask a woman confidently and sincerely. If she gives you a good answer, initiate kino (physical escalation, this can be as simple as a high five) if she doesn't, neg her and see how she responds. All in all, it's really just like having a normal conversation. A fun thing you can try, let the conversation die down to see if she’ll start it again. If she does, she likes you. Keep up the good work and happy hunting.

stokedstoic · 2019-12-04T08:01:57+00:00

If you don’t know anything about her, ask questions.

Alextryingforgrate · 2019-12-04T08:10:03+00:00

What are you doing for conversation? If you meet a chick on the street there are signs of what she is doing for that day. Schoole yoga groceries etc. You also need to observe her. Check her out but also LOOK at her and her attire what is she bringing/carrying with her the clues are small but huge and will help you with conversation.

Xazax310 · 2019-12-04T12:29:27+00:00

Some tips I picked up from Todd V's video, I found his stuff better than RSDs "Just say random shit/Free associate".

When you go up and say "Hi" to a girl your responsible for the interaction but the best way is to get them talking about themselves.

To do this it's best to make Assumptions about the girl

"You look like you're/not from around here."
"Hey I saw you, and thought you'd be cool to talk too"

She'll correct you and give you personal info which you can then pop a question or input your own cool little story.

He recently put up a video too where you create "feed-back loops" basically don't ask a question that can be answered with a straight logical answer.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2CTy504FSA&t=307s

Title	How to keep the conversation going?
Author	Killjoys13
Upvotes	16
Comments	5
Date	December 4, 2019 7:19 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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