How to sext?

DamienDieckeSOA · 2014-03-31T21:36:06+00:00

Hey buddy,

Couple of rules for making text messages sexual (which is what I presume you are talking about rather than sending naked images of yourself which is a big no no).

You can generally only be as sexual in a text as you were verbally when you talked to her. You also have to avoid being too graphic. Women love subtlety and double entendre. You also need to start low on the sexual banter, and work your way up if she sees to enjoy it. Sexual texting is VERY much about calibration. Good calibration comes form making mistakes due to bad calibration. But here is an example of a series of texts I sent to a girl myself if you'd like to see what I mean.

A pre-amble, we had a 5 minute conversation. The only part of the conversation you need to know about is that she complimented me on the vest I was wearing, then I told her that her shoes were really incredible and totally made her boobs stand out. She laughed at that, and I got her number since my friends were leaving the club.

DJ: Hey there miss hat stealer, did those magnificent um.. shoes of your get any more compliments?

I used the key pieces of flirting/sexual information from our interaction to show her that I remembered her well, to let her know who I was without having to spell it out, and to enable me to pick up where we left off

HB: Haha, hey there, NO! You were the only one observant enough of my great “shoes”

DJ: Well good thing for you I didn’t have more time in the club with you… the mind boggles at what might have happened

Here I begin pushing her towards the sexual spectrum again to see how she responds

HB: Is that so? Well we wouldn’t want that now would we?

She didn’t change the topic, so I can push harder

DJ: That almost sounds like a challenge! That could get you into a lot of trouble.

HB: Me?? I never get into trouble! I’m a good girl… an Angel if you will…

DJ: Of course, that’s the first thing I noticed about you. I’m totally a virgin myself, I wouldn’t know what crazy sex was if it came up and spanked me on the ass

I use some sexual terms and see how she responds

HB: O rite, you just walk up to random girls in clubs in order to help preserve their virginity?

DJ: Yeah you know, guys really never think about sex… Okay I’m bad at lying, now stop teasing me and making me think naughty thoughts

HB: I somehow think that you need no assistance what so ever thinking naughty thoughts!

She is staying on the right topic, so I can push further

DJ: True.. I pretty much go there on autopilot these days

HB: So what movie reel is playing in that imagination of yours at the moment?

HOOKED! I know I have her on my wavelength, because she’s now curious to hear my sexy thoughts

DJ: Well, it’s very dark, your not wearing much clothing, and you’re using the lord’s name in vain a lot.

Try to avoid giving explicit sexual details to women unless you are already dirty talking to them in bed. Women have AMAZING imaginations, so leaving things subtle is always the best way to go

HB: Damn.. Well if I’m being grateful I’m not using it in vain am I?

DJ: Valid Point. I like the way you think

HB: I suspect you’d like the way I do a few things

I loved this response, it told me everything I needed to know to start challenging her to sex. I love challenging women to have sex with me, it makes the whole thing seem like their idea and makes me look a lot less needy

DJ: Prove it

HB: Is that a challenge?

DJ: Yes

HB: Ok

And that’s the answer I was after, no more sexual talk required

DJ: Will you be out and about in the city tonight?

HB: Indeed I will be with a bunch of friends at Hotel Chambers. You?

DJ: I’ll be at a friend’s part at Ivy until midnight. Perhaps we can cross paths after that?

HB: Maybe… Tho I can’t make promises about tonight as I’m the one who organized the outing, so I might not be able to leave early. But we’ll see.

DJ: Well, that’s no big drama, it’s more fun to just wing it and see where the night takes us (with some gentle prodding in a certain direction)

HB: I like the sound of that

slut_sauce01 · 2014-04-01T02:40:08+00:00

skip the dick pic.

dduckg0 · 2014-03-31T18:56:53+00:00

Simply interpret 50 shades of grey to her bro.....

giallojello · 2014-04-01T05:02:28+00:00

If you are in the territory of trying something new, here is a great article discussing the ancient art of phone sex. Warning you may need rotator cuff surgery from all the high fives your gonna get from your bros.

How to have phone sex

SingAlong_Original · 2014-03-31T22:21:58+00:00

Be a tease.

Dont just keep doing dick pic after dick pic, show her your face, mix it up.

BlackChoco · 2014-03-31T19:24:50+00:00

Be as pervert as you can be. <<Case closed>>

SW1 · 2014-03-31T19:26:24+00:00

Escalate slowly and leave them wanting more

HappyJerk · 2014-03-31T21:18:09+00:00

Why are you even texting her? Just ask her out and hang out with her in person. If you text her to hang out and she bullshits, guess what, she's not into you, she's just using you for attention. Also, you can't say that "the kinkiest girl I've ever talked to" unless you've actually fucked her. A lot of girls will say kinky shit for attention but then not actually hang out with you.

TimPartendale · 2014-03-31T20:44:18+00:00

Don't sext
If you have to sext then don't send anything you wouldn't want your mom/dad, best friends, and future employer to see.

That's my rule of thumb. You can say something to a girl and unless it's recorded then words come and words go, but text messaging conversations remain for days, months, years after it has been typed. Some guys like to get really descriptive and then forget that it requires 2 parties to delete a conversation. I would even stray away from sexting your girlfriend because you may trust her now but if/when the relationship breaks, then what?

Title	How to sext?
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Date	March 31, 2014 6:30 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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