How to stop overthinking?

abstractpickupartist · 2017-04-25T06:34:14+00:00

Stop trying to get laid tonight, and just talk to people. Talk to everyone, pretty, ugly, old, young, fat, skinny, male, female.

One you get used to talking to people, you can talk to pretty women-type people, too.

IntrovertedBadass · 2017-04-25T13:44:33+00:00

What helps many men is to have a general conversation structure ready. So they have like a 3 minute conversation structure that allows them to get the nr. This not a word for word script but more like a general flow of an opener and than 3 topics to talk about and than a way to get the nr. Knowing exactly what to do is what stops most men in their overthinking behavior. In other words: "prepare" before you approach.

gregory2112 · 2017-04-25T16:45:49+00:00

This is the reason for the "3 second rule".

If you approach the very second you notice someone then you don't have time to think!

Once you have immediately opened, the next trick is to focus on the girl and the conversation and not allow yourself to analyze the situation, but rather to flow with it.

LordPoopyIV · 2017-04-25T22:03:16+00:00

I used to loop a million bits of advice from pua forums around in my mind and it made me shit at approaches. So i decide to pick one at a time to focus on that day and it helped a lot. This way the bits became natural and ingrained really quickly.

The best one for me was to deconstruct every reply i got into subjects. And then pick my favorite one of those subjects to continue the conversation with. So if if a girl said something random like'yeah i had to babysit my grandma's dog all day cause she had a funeral, so i couldn't go to the library.' That could be a bit too much info at once but in my head i go 'babysitting, dogs, funerals, grandma's, library's.' I like dogs. So i ask what kind of dog it was and tell her how bad i want a corgi. It's a super simple technique but that's the beauty of it and why it stopped me over thinking.

IWriteForGroupies · 2017-04-25T06:21:43+00:00

If you can't force yourself to do it, find a wingman to help you.

nofaprebooter · 2017-04-25T14:24:53+00:00

This is about nofap, but it can be applied to cold approach as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUm4XK99_kU

Woujo · 2017-04-25T14:57:59+00:00

The key to not overthinking is to actually have an interesting life that occupies your thoughts and emotions so you don't think about getting laid.

hashishandbeer · 2017-04-25T22:13:00+00:00

Read the power of now by eckhart tolle. After a while you'll feel normal.

Xanarxses · 2017-04-25T09:00:33+00:00

Don't make a thread about it.

The more you acknowledge it, the more you talk about it, the stronger it will get.

You are validating that thing's existence.

Title	How to stop overthinking?
Author	Naturalindo
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	April 25, 2017 5:13 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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