Dear Seddit Community,

I've had a couple of great experiences the last few weeks (made a lot of new friends) after my breakup from a really long LTR, but somehow my feelings for the past girls won't let me go to much further.

My ex mails me that she's crying her heart out and having bad dreams and wants to get together although I already moved on and dated a girl for a week, who also cried on two of the dates because we can't be together (I'm gone for two months and also told her not to wait for me, we should start over when I'm back, and I might not stay in her country either).

So seeing and hearing those two girls cry already breaks my heart, how am I supposed to seduce other girls, with the outcome of them falling in love with me? Do I really have to - from the getgo - state, that I am in for the fun? Another girl who I had a SNL with wrote me several emails asking for dates, and I felt really bad about the excuses I had to make up to comfort her.

More and more I realize that I am not that much into the fun either. As soon as I see that they would sleep with me I am not that interested anymore actually. For me, it really somehow is about the game, and I am successful in making them fall in love with me because I don't do the classic game but am just natural and be really really nice to them and care for them which makes them get a soft spot for me, but somehow I don't get friend-zoned, but marriage-zoned.

What I really get a kick out of is if I get approached by girls (like last night, where two girls started pulling my ponytail, I pulled theirs, over the night I danced a bit with them, had a lot of fun, they tried grabbing my ass all the time and I played hard to get, almost ended up having breakfast with both of them, but I helped some guy and fell down the stairs with him - another story :) ) - that was so much fun, but I really feel empty afterwards, going home alone. Even after sex, I feel empty. Even if I make them love me, I feel empty when leaving them. When leaving them for good, I get sad, really sad. What's wrong with me?

Basically my game would be:

  • get them to pursue me
  • seduce them until they would go to bed with me
  • not pull the trigger and get friendzoned, which is the hardest thing, the more I pull back in bed the more she wants it lol...

Damn, first world problems?

Sorry for the extended rant, just needed to get it off my chest!

TLDR: I DON'T WANT SEX - I WANT TO GET FRIENDZONED, HOW?