I can't do it

Coffeeupthebutt · 2018-04-15T21:15:58+00:00

Socialize with everyone. Man and woman. Dance and smile. Be someone who has fun to give not someone who seems boring sitting alone.

Your not going to get approached you are the man. The man leads. It’s both male and female DNA and social conditioning for the man to lead and it works 99.9% of the time all the time.

trail22 · 2018-04-15T23:17:35+00:00

Maybe clubs arent your thing. meetups are way easier to socialize in.

DarkArtsPUA11 · 2018-04-16T03:00:27+00:00

this is basically what i do when i go to clubs. stand around with my wing while holding a water or beer. and just watching people dance while bobbing my head slightly to the music

you shouldn't feel down on yourself. this is what 90% of guys do when they go to clubs, even i do this. but i still get laid. why? because i prefer online and daygame. i hate going to clubs. clubs are horseshit. the loud music, the random crowded people bumping into me, the preppy looking douche bags, the bartenders and bouncers being obnoxious, etc. i can't stand it all. which is why i don't go to clubs, and why you shouldn't. you can get plenty of ass and titties outside of clubs. you don't NEED clubs to get women, they fucking suck

RealPimp86 · 2018-04-15T21:24:41+00:00

BE CONFIDENT. Im sure any girl would be more than happy to dance with you. Learn to let yourself go, be loose.

ALargePianist · 2018-04-15T22:45:36+00:00

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PinkPlanets · 2018-04-16T01:09:14+00:00

I was actually like that at the beginning. What time you become comfortable in the night clubs. now the night clubs for me are like my second home.

Keep exposing yourself to this environment eventually you will become comfortable. I and starting to get a lot of results thanks to this process. Trust the process. Good luck my friend

recyclablebanthas · 2018-04-16T07:34:59+00:00

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I can't do it

Take a deep breath. Seriously.

Did you?

Okay, now look at this objectively. You're saying that:

You tried.
You found out that you lack the ability to do it. It being socialize, meet your dating goals, seduce, whatever.

Let's look at your first contention, that you tried. This means you went to a place and tried to connect with people, socialize, etc.

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.....I spent like 4 or 5 hours standing alone by myself on the dance floor drinking glass water in between while watching people having fun and dancing.

So already, your actions don't match this idea that you "tried."

If I signed up for a race and then sat at the finish line with a number pinned to my back, would that qualify as trying?

Because that's kind of what you did.

Going to a club or venue with a dance floor and standing alone, drinking water, is not trying. We're talking about a club here, which consists of:

Dancing.
Socializing; at a club, mostly non-verbally to start off with. Facial expressions, eye contact, gestures, and other movements.
Drinking.

You just went to a place made for dancing, and didn't dance, stood by yourself, and didn't even drink. (Drinking is not required though.)

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i haven't been able to dance with a girl however I liked the place a lot though it's better than any other in my city it gets pretty crowded and loud but yeah.

Here's the thing: if you go into a club, putting all this pressure on yourself, with the focus on this goal of "getting the girl," then you're not going to get the girl. Because then you're approaching the whole crowd from a place of want. Like you're not having fun unless you get THEM to do a, b, and c.

If you find a way to have fun even if a girl isn't in the picture, then you'll be able to enjoy yourself and enhance other people's fun. Then they'll start coming to you. They'll at least be more open to interacting with you when you're taking care of yourself.

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I also saw this chick who was pretty much dancing with anybody and this dude was basically kissing her all over her neck and touching her legs like what.

You've got your eyes in the wrong place. You're looking at results, and not all the little subtle parts of that interaction that preceded the kissing and touching.

No one really just walks up to a girl and opens like that. There's at least some non-verbal stuff that comes before. Some sort of communication through facial expressions. Maybe a little touch to get someone's attention. Etc.

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But anyway I was basically acting like a security guard i just couldn't talk to anyone at all and you know, that's how as real as it gets and honestly, the main issue for all this is because of my hearing damage and if people lean to my ear i can't understand much.

No one hears shit in a club. Verbal conversation isn't the point anyway. You're being FORCED to rely on non-verbal communication. Body language. Facial expressions, eye contact, etc. Stuff that's most of what we communicate with anyway.

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The issue here is, you need to go to a place that's fun for you. If you don't like dancing, don't go to a club. Not if you're a newb at game. All you'll do is make yourself stand out like a sore thumb.

I'll assume for the moment that you must like dancing though, since you chose a club to go to. So just go dance. Have a beer and nurse it. Don't like the taste? Great. It'll be easier to nurse it for a long time.

The point is, when in Rome do as the Romans do. Or find a place you like to be.

SlideItGoyim · 2018-04-16T01:20:34+00:00

There is literally nothing wrong with consuming Soy.

Title	I can't do it
Author	i_need_help_bro
Upvotes	11
Comments	24
Date	April 15, 2018 8:17 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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