I don’t drive

zaryaguy · 2020-03-26T16:34:14+00:00

Do you live in a city with good public transport?

Imperator_Pyra · 2020-03-26T17:03:02+00:00

LOL.

I'm 33, I don't have a drivers license either, and it changes nothing when it comes to my dating life. Sure, having a car might be more convenient, would make logistics of getting a girl back to my place easier perhaps, but that's about it.

One of the girls I hooked up with last year I will fondly remember for a long time, not only because she was gorgeous, but also because... I pretty much told her right off the bat that I don't have a drivers license (because I was feeling bad about it, like you are now), and in response she told me that, by some weird coincidence, none of the guys she was ever with had a drivers license.

She was also 10 cm taller than me, so if you follow mainstream thinking about dating, there's no way in hell I should have been able to get her back home with me - height is another thing, of course, but I'll address it here as well, because I think those things are related in that people think they are a problem, but they're really not unless you believe that they are. See, that girl told me an interesting thing: she usually avoids guys that are shorter than her... but only because they usually act weird and are quite visibly uncomfortable around her. I didn't care about the height difference, though, so neither did she.

In other words, in my experience: it's only a problem if you think it is.

ApostleOfBabylon · 2020-03-26T19:18:57+00:00

I'm 20 I have my license but I don't use it. When you go out you usually drink so you aren't supposed to drive anyway :D You won't even need to mention you don't have a driver's license just act like you took a cab because you thought you were going to "drink tonight."

edit: Drinking age is 18 where I live.

heyjude84 · 2020-03-27T03:53:01+00:00

There's no judgement here friend but i think unless theres a physical reason why you can not drive to consider getting a license. I do think (in general) woman look at you different and you miss some opportunities and the ability to control certain situations in your favor (i dont mean that in a creepy way) but most if not all women like to be submissive if you show traits that indicate you are in control. Literally "being in the drivers seat" seems to do this. Not to mention if you play songs with enough bass the vibrations get them horny if its its shitty music. You dont have to be a bad boy or try to be something that youre not but having a drivers license is in some ways like having freedom. It also is an indicator to the woman that you have (what many believe to be) a necessary piece in the puzzle of life. If you dont want to drive for certain reasons you can state those reasons to them, but i recommend doing so in a way that sparks their empathy. I was a late bloomer myself and got my license at 20 , obviously your a much later bloomer and thats just fine, but dont assume you cant drive (unless again physically you cant, or you have some weird vision problems) its just that some people get more opportunities to gain confidence and feel it out than others. I live in a very small town so it was easy to learn, not alot of stress and i still fucked up a little due to nerves. It depends on your teacher (my grandfather was a terrible instructor but my friend who had a license was able to communicate with me effectively and ease my worries if there was a tricky location). Most people arent very smart yet they still have a license, that should tell you that you are plenty capable as well. Perhaps you should put out an ad on craigslist or somewhere saying youd pay to have someone instruct them and let you drive thier car once you get a permit ?? Or maybe you have a friend or family member who would be willing? In any event although i think you should probably get a license and a car, theres someone out there thats willing to date you and if shes any kind of decent lady then if you do ever get back on your feet financially or just take steps up on the ladder of confidence then you know youve got someone whos not with you just because you have assets. So im not sure what your scenario is, if youre just afraid or if you dont make much money or both, but humans have been around for a while, before cars and money, so even though that greatly helps your odds of getting a lady, it in no way means you need them to be happy or get a nice gal. Hope this helps.

Dyaz7 · 2020-03-27T08:22:29+00:00

I found to be a bigger issue in small towns.

smoothmax · 2020-03-27T17:10:45+00:00

Logistics are really important. The closer you live to where you meet women and take them for dates, the easier your dating life will be.

There is a video (I think it's on youtube) by Adam Lyons aka AFC Adam where he discusses logistics at length. He discusses how he had an apartment 5 min walk from the clubs where he did game. When some of his clients complained that it was "too easy" for him he came up with techniques for getting a number then having day 2 dates at the girl's place. Just to show them it was possible.

For any guy, whether your logistics involve walking, cars, uber, scooter, bus or subway you have to figure out the most easy and logical way to handle it.

Title	I don’t drive
Author	McKeoneJames
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	March 26, 2020 4:18 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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