I don't understand this.

Zoidberg22 · 2018-02-01T04:28:12+00:00

This will sound harsh, but : relationships at your age rarely last, try to have some fun

The_Succatron · 2018-02-01T05:09:20+00:00

Watch craig ferguson, his youtube videos are online (retired talk show host and womanizer), the dude is a legend at conversation. He practices what we call "conversational steering" or "verbal monkey branching" where he deliberately takes a conversation where he wants it to more interesting topics by asking questions that slowly lead to that topic and making jokes as well. try to learn from him.

Also, dont feel bad man. This type of shit is hard for guys to do especially with girls. Many guys ten years older than you still have trouble with it. Just do what I said and try to learn.

whatsaflashbang · 2018-02-01T05:17:10+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, girls will always be flaky like this sometimes. But there's always more fish in the sea, remember that. Also, don't be afraid to be direct with her (if you want to). A lot of guys get caught up with not wanting to be rude or go too far and of course you shoudnt be rude or anything, but don't be afraid to be honest about what you feel or your intentions with her. Start by being honest about other things. Mention something youre legit worried about, a school subject you aren't so hot in, a sport you suck at etc. Things that you might not even bring up for fear it might seem like a "weakness". You'll be surprised but when you're honest about something you're dealing with like that but in a calm way, it can go a long way towards making her feel comfortable with you; then she'll probably mention something she's dealing with too and look at that you just had a bonding moment. And don't feel bad if nothing comes of it. I know you've probably heard this a million times but you're still young, figuring things out etc. and so is she. So don't be surprised if girls drop off randomly sometimes- just use it as a motivation to try again. Even if you do everything perfectly there could still be some random reason she stops talking to you that you don't even know about and have no control over anyways. As I said before, more fish in the sea. Good luck! It may seem confusing and crazy and it is, but it's worth it to find someone awesome :)

Arbi619 · 2018-02-01T12:19:11+00:00

You should also focus on giving statements instead of asking questions.

CharlesDarwin59 · 2018-02-01T03:44:44+00:00

So it's going to be a bit hard since you can't drive but the best conversations with people you don't know are in person.

If possible your goal should be to secure an in person date within 30 to 45 minutes when doing consistent back and forth.

Maybe 20 to 30 total messages from you to her.

Doesn't have to be anything major, just confirm with a parent that you can say. ..go to the mall on the weekend, then tell the girl you need to run to the mall this weekend and ask if she wants to help you shop.

Try to pose it as a favor so she isn't "going out" with you, she's doing you a favor.

If you don't secure in person soon enough then you eventually out run the new interesting person attraction period and have no in person attraction to hang back on.

Title	I don't understand this.
Author	befriends1234
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	February 1, 2018 3:35 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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