I get lead on a lot

Landscapedude · 2015-03-26T10:10:19+00:00

Do you know what type of girlfriend you would like to have ? If you don't, then find out what you want and come back here. If you do, then it's because you don't guide the guide, she guides you, and unfortunatly, they don't like that...

sedTAsedTA · 2015-03-26T12:16:38+00:00

I used to be just like you. I thought there was something in my nature that attracted teases towards me. I tried to justify that maybe I am a man that is deemed a worthy adversary for a tease.

After a lot of time of improving myself and seeing things for what was really going on, I realize now that teases are more present in your life for the fact that they need all the attention. When you're still not in tune with pickup, you tend to humor this kind of bs from them for too long. Even when you begin with this stuff, you can get wrapped up in trying to retaliate against the tease by throwing seduction at her and hoping she'll put out finally. Truth is, these girls just need to feel validated by being wanted. I have had more luck with teases by ignoring them than waiting for them to change their minds.

edit: spelling

WhoTheHellKnows · 2015-03-27T00:18:41+00:00

"I get led on a lot

Probably not.

This is an excuse that people who aren't reading a situation well use to blame it on the girl.

People that blame it on the girl don't get better.

People who don't get better don't get laid.

I attract teases.

More "it's not me, it's them". No.

Let me make this very clear. It's you. And you WANT it to be you, because "you" are the only person you can change. It being "you" gives you control, it being "them" makes you passive. Taking responsibility is liberating.

Two probable reasons for what is happening to you:

1) You aren't congruent.

You attract people that respond positively to the way you are behaving, and then you change the behavior. Then they aren't attracted. What would you expect?

If you want to show yourself and have them still be attracted, then start by attracting people who like who you really are. If you an indoor, introvert, don't meet girls at a tractor pull, then complain that they lose interest when you show yourself. That's not where you find girls that want an indoor, introverted guy.

Then your goal becomes how to be a good, attractive example of what you are.

The other likely is that you are expressing "yourself" in a way that is not appropriate for the situation, or in general. Come back with a concrete example of what you did (not "show myself"), and people can give you feedback.

tucci007 · 2015-03-26T10:21:33+00:00

"LED", it's led.

Rx_Love · 2015-03-26T21:50:21+00:00

Well you seem to invite that kind of girl into your life a lot, you should probably get better at conducting their shit.

I used to deal with gals like that a lot in my young 20's but I just don't have the patience to humor that anymore. Oddly enough, not biting on their BS makes them just come at me harder

Title	I get lead on a lot
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	11
Comments	30
Date	March 26, 2015 7:10 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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