I have a horrible problem with ejecting early... Please Help

EtovNowd · 2011-06-10T15:41:18+00:00

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FucksWithHiveMind · 2011-06-10T17:52:07+00:00

I get this as well sometimes. It almost feels like she is only talking to you out of politeness. If you are not having fun and she is not really engaging there is nothing wrong with calling an evac. At the end of the day, you do get boring and unsociable chicks as well. On the other hand if this is something that happens to you all the time, something might be going wrong.

theawesomeone · 2011-06-11T04:28:57+00:00

If you don't see their buying temp going up, you may want to try more direct confident approaches. Seems like you may be coming in under the radar and getting stuck with boring conversation. Fun energy, confident, teasing, be direct. Try that.

2011-06-11T22:11:56+00:00

I have been reading seddit for months looking for a decent answer to this question. I open a decent number of sets and usually one of two things happen. First, the girl seems engaged but the interaction isn't moving forward. Second I get bored of her. It is rare for me to get completely blown out or to have a girl obviously into me (although both happen occasionally).

I know from my own experience that sticking around once the conversation goes stale doesn't work. I've also tried attempting to DHV by opening another set (or merging us into another set). I used to preach isolate+escalate but that hasn't worked; if the conversation was losing spark before you isolate then it doesn't suddenly gain spark once isolated. And escalating with a girl who is obviously uninterested is a one way ticket to creepy town.

My current theory is that I don't get enough initial attraction. I tend to enter the set very confidently and then I end up in a comfort conversation. My conversation skills are pretty good so I use them heavily. But then I get frustrated since although we are having a pleasant conversation it lacks spark and the connection. My wing always gets mad since I tend to bail quickly (although I don't think 30 minutes of conversation is quick) but I usually get the strong impression that I'm not going to get any further.

I've been in that sort of rut for about 3 months - tweaking my interactions with the sets I open trying to find the correct calibration. I've heard mPUAs who say they spent up to 6 months or more in field trying to get it right before they started to get consistent success.

You know the ingredients if you read seddit. You have to keep adjusting your mix of comfort, attraction and escalation until you get a breakthrough. It could take a while and a lot of work.

Title	I have a horrible problem with ejecting early... Please Help
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Date	June 10, 2011 2:36 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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