20/m/s

So I've been on a journey of self development and self awareness for the past few months (going to gym, focusing on my career, changing up my wardrobe etc). This stuff has helped me become slightly more confident and given me some extra purpose.

I've spent alot of time reflecting on the kind of mindsets that I have as well as my behavior. Through this I realised how insecure I am. This manifests through me trying to impress people (telling stories, occasionally bragging, in severe cases even lying about stuff).

This behavior obviously comes down to me feeling inadequate and I feel the need to prove that I'm cool and can fit in. So this kind of behavior doesn't exactly help in attracting women since it's needy and insecure. I don't tend to cling on to people as I have other interests that keep me busy however it's through trying to impress people that my neediness reveals itself.

I also have somewhat a mentality of scarcity, since I don't meet many girls.

I really just feel the need to vent and express this, if anybody has any advice it would be appreciated