I need an advice:

JackSquirts · 2025-06-24T18:36:16+00:00

If you see a girl every day, there's no need to rush. Don't interrupt her workout. Catch her at a time when she's not in the middle of shit or if interrupting her makes sense (don't go out of your way - even then, it better be a good reason to interrupt). Say hi, introduce yourself, excuse yourself.

Guys fuck up in these situations by jumping the gun. Unless you have an instant conversation and vibe, relax, you'll see her again. Make her wonder why you didn't hit on her. "This guy came up to me at the gym and just said hi, then walked away - was he hitting on me?"

If she's receptive, talk to her the next time you see her, but again, don't go out of your way. Each time, add a little something - "doing good today?" "gonna really get after it or are you going light today?" "I see youre motivated today killer!" "nails on point!"

Look for an opportunity to flirt. Make a fun, teasing comment. Give her a slight (very slight) compliment about something she says, does, or something she controls (if her eyes are pretty, she's been told that since she was 4 years old - if she cut her hair or dyed it, that's something SHE controls and the compliment is on her decision more than her appearance). Flirting is the difference between wanting to be a bro and wanting more. You want her to start engaging in conversation and be receptive to flirting. That should start happening by the 3rd time you talk to her - if not, you done fucked up and/or she's just not interested.

Maybe it takes a few interactions, but you should be escalating. Use the flirty small talk to guide her to a date - talk about schedules, weekend plans, etc. Of course, this can all happen the first time you speak to her, but don't put the pressure on yourself - it really doesn't have to be immediate.

Chiiiicckkeeennn · 2025-06-24T19:22:22+00:00

How long have u been staring at her like a creep with out going up to her and saying something?

COMPEWTER_adminisp · 2025-06-24T20:04:21+00:00

since she is a regular at the gym don't hit on her yet, try to convey an interesting personality and demonstrate some value, use opinion openers, use whatever but just open all you have to is get her talking to you, but oh boy there is so much ot it, talk to more women in other settings lol, the fact that you are asking how to ask her out, just show you are probably making an entire movie in your head already.

ratfooshi · 2025-06-24T23:48:49+00:00

It depends on the type of seducer you are.

But for the most part, the indirect approach is easily the more effective one.
It shows you can be patient, clever, and seduce them right under their nose.
You really can't create love out of thin air in any other way.

Title	I need an advice:
Author	Realistic-Concert-21
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	June 24, 2025 6:17 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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