I need some advice

skatinislife446 · 2019-05-18T03:01:45+00:00

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She needs to reach out at this point, in which time she will hopefully have her feelings sorted. Right now, she's stringing you along as a backup option while she gets fucked by another dude and thinks about her ex.

skatinislife446 · 2019-05-18T03:02:00+00:00

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She needs to reach out at this point, in which time she will hopefully have her feelings sorted. Right now, she's stringing you along as a backup option while she gets fucked by another dude and thinks about her ex.

skatinislife446 · 2019-05-18T03:02:33+00:00

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She needs to reach out at this point, in which time she will hopefully have her feelings sorted. Right now, she's stringing you along as a backup option while she gets fucked by another dude and thinks about her ex.

dailymanup · 2019-05-18T03:08:16+00:00

Hard to say. What's your goal in all this?

dailymanup · 2019-05-18T03:11:07+00:00

Hard to say, what’s your goal in all this?

uptimex · 2019-05-18T05:32:16+00:00

Sure. But if you haven't had sex, it is better to aim sex now. Because it is obvious she wants to know you more without romantic relationships.

She shit-tested you actually. I don't know how you responded, but thesys is always must be the same from your side "I like you, but if it doesn't work, it is okay too, there are a lot of other people I can meet."

StupidFeller · 2019-05-18T05:37:32+00:00

I feel remaking the context could help. For example: any way to run into her again to gauge interest? Or can you ask her out to do something but not make it appear like a date- perhaps a thing she likes or volunteering. Be bold, she won't find it creepy because she s comfortable with you and yolo.

StupidFeller · 2019-05-18T05:37:58+00:00

I feel remaking the context could help. For example: any way to run into her again to gauge interest? Or can you ask her out to do something but not make it appear like a date- perhaps a thing she likes or volunteering. Be bold, she won't find it creepy because she s comfortable with you and yolo.

the_druggle_is_real1 · 2019-05-18T06:00:16+00:00

Her 'that was a mistake, sorry,' may have been genuine, but also may have been testing the waters. You want to send the message that you understand and accept her desire not to have a thing with you, but also that you're open to a thing, in case that's what she's doing.
"I understand. We all make mistakes. I had a good time anyway."

Definitely neutral. No "Please don't confuse me like that,' no "Make a decision already." You liked it. You're open to it happening again. You're also okay if it doesn't (and if this is the direction you take, it will). You aren't needy, but accepting of the niceties of life.

You need to maintain the confidence that you would do fine with or without her. You can't make her think you are upset that it wasn't genuine... nor can you make her think that you need it. "Don't let it happen again," and "Look, are you into me or not," both suggest reliance on her to make a decision.
You make your decisions. You chose to enjoy her company. You choose to maintain a friendly relationship. You choose to pursue other relationships, but choose to let her in if that's the direction it goes.

PeithoPan · 2019-05-18T09:16:41+00:00

To me it seems like you werent able to push her buttons enough to make her want sex. She might have been in a state that would make it difficult for her, but trust me: she wanted to want it.

Practice escalating towards sex. Make it your life mission to be sexual with women. Dont apologize for being sexual. Women want you to be. Want you to take control.

After she realized you wont be able to make her want sex, she was looking for a «friend». Emotional support. She wants this because she knows you dont dare escalate on her, and will always wait for cues, which she will play with some times, but always leave you hanging.

Id leave her alone for a while. Practice escalating. When ready, see her, alone, and go through your routine. If it fails again. Its a dead end. Move on.

Title	I need some advice
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Date	May 18, 2019 2:17 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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