I need some "date game"

Pleepleus · 2011-02-22T16:02:35+00:00

I love the date game.

Your first mistake: feeling as though it should be getting physical. Enter the date with no expectation of sexual activity and she will be eating out of your hand. By no means friendzone her, always keep yourself in a sexual frame, but play hard to get. Seriously. One of my favorite lines is, when she buys a drink, tell her "you're trying to get me drunk so I put out... it's not gonna happen tonight" if you whisper that into her ears sensually, she'll want you right then.
Have a solid plan and follow it so you're always in control.
Escalate the kino slowly throughout the date. Don't make it obvious like during a pickup... a touch on the arm while making a comment, a touch on the leg to accentuate a remark. Then pull away. Never leave it there. Bounce from a bar to the dinner venue... bar crowded? Take her hand and lead her through. Or grab her hand while walking to the dinner venue, and squeeze after a few seconds. If she squeezes back, let go. Don't push the physical contact too much. Tease her with it. If she's a slut and you just want to get laid, by all means go for the f-close.
But if she's a girl you want to see again and again, put off the f-close for another time. Kiss her passionately, but bid her farewell. She'll know you're into her but not hard-up for sex. Next time you see her she'll be all yours.

senator_mendoza · 2011-02-22T16:15:30+00:00

you're gonna have to get it going in that direction immediately from the get go so it's not weird when you start abruptly. keep in mind that if she's willing to go on a date with you, she's interested so keep escalating and she'll let you know if there's a problem.

when you first meet up, give her a hug and a little peck on the cheek, noticably check her out and and tell her something like "well you certainly look lovely this afternoon" which is totally appropriate. she's on a date with you, you can drop A LITTLE BIT of the "tool cool for school" thing because you want her to feel comfortable and you want her to know that you find her attractive. it's reciprocal - people generally like people who like them. keep it going by guiding her through doors with your hand on her lower back, leaning in to whisper stuff to her with your hand on her hip or around her waist, help her with her coat and let your hands linger a little bit, give her a high five for something and touch her hands/fingers and comment on her fingers or rings or nail polish or whatever. learning a little palm reading couldn't hurt either. generally - your touches have to say that you're interested as more than a friend. as long as you keep it light and playful, she shouldn't feel uncomfortable at all with any of that.

someinterestedparty · 2011-02-23T00:25:44+00:00

i think that while it's true that it's a mistake to immediately initiate or justify physical contact, it's also true that sometimes you can't help these impulses as per your hormones, her appearance, etc. i prefer the more respectable guys who make minimal contact to the guys that are overly aggressive and/or unconcerned with personal space. not only my preference, though, as it is absolutely true that women are going to pursue what isn't given to them readily. they may want you to be physical with them immediately, but keeping that desire alive by delaying its abatement is every bit as important as their overall sexual satisfaction in terms of control over the dynamic of the situation. the most passionate pursuit by a female (read: her commitment to you, even just sexually) will be one forged in desperation to have even a taste of your physical nature.

blackdevildisco · 2011-02-23T02:52:21+00:00

This should be in r/askseddit.

Title	I need some "date game"
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Upvotes	9
Comments	10
Date	February 22, 2011 3:17 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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