TL;DR: We never met (21m20f). Been in an online LDR (call me out, whatever) for some time, but couldn't meet. Broke up. I'll be staying at her place in a month for quite a while. We are almost best friends sharing everything, but then there is our past...

She lost her V-card during "pause" and "breakup" a few times. As I got it, due to family moral values, and guilt towards me, and one regretable experience, she does not want to have sex nor anythig similar with anybody. She is a nerdy not-sleep-around-y type, and trust me when I say it's not just with me. We both are quite horny and desire eachother very much. We still got crush on eachother and can't let it go so we might give it a go in a (I guess strictly) romantic way.

Now my question is: Is it better not to talk about it until we meet? Would that increase my chances the most?

Or if we should talk, what do I say to show support, make her not feel guilty, and open her up, to some fun?

If your answer was yes, not to talk before, then what's better: To forget about it and let it go it's own flow while I am there, or to try to seduce her subtly?

Maybe we really should not talk about it beforehand, because she was clear about the boundaries. No is no. Either way, the best would be not to force anything, and respect her. But deep down I don't want to let it go because of what we used to have, promise, and dream about.

Disclaimer: I know I sound like a needy, selfish dickhead. I know most of you judge online relationships. But, please, help a brother in need. Thank you.