i stuck at texting

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-07-10T22:08:45+00:00

Most women just use apps for validation and to fill the time when bored. Try not to make them a priority. Save them maybe for bad weather days to practice.

Connorrr5 · 2025-07-10T21:39:00+00:00

Keep the interviewing to an absolute minimal, it's boring. "hows your day" "what u been upto" etc. Keep it light and fun. You're better off bein different n a lil quirky than normal and boring

Life-Income2986 · 2025-07-10T22:46:37+00:00

You are boring and extremely socially unskilled and people don't like to socialise with people like you.

Helpful advice: Go and do things and in the course of doing those things socialise for a year or two. Constantly. In a year's time, you will have greatly improved your ability to communicate in a way that's appreciated both IRL and via text.

If you continue to be a weird creep who is self-absorbed and boring, you will never ever stop encountering this problem.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-10T23:06:13+00:00

Women text without any goal in mind, while you are trying to get a goal. That's why the imbalance works against you. They want nothing in particular although they are not closed to anything neither, and you want a date or else you wouldnt even be talking to them.

Women want to talk to see if they feel something strong and intense, the comfort of texting allows them to do that without having to invest in u or risk anything by meeting you in person. Women therefore are happy to prolong the conversation for a long time, while guys get impatient, because they don't wanna waste more time than neccesary texting if there are no guaranteed results.

Instead of trying to steer the conversation toward a clear goal, u can create intrigue and tension, making her more invested in figuring out where things could go. When a woman feels that sense of emotional engagement, she’s more likely to want to see u in person, not because u’ve pushed for it, but because the conversation has reached a point where it makes sense to take the next step.

Cuz reality is women have tons of options in dating apps, and they also value their safety and the emotional resonance. They are not gonna rush at all to meet if they are not emotiaonlly invested and that takes time. Yeah ideally you want to do that in person, btu women don't see the date as that starting point for them it's before the date, where the emotional resonance needs to happen for her to be willing to go to a date.

So you have to act like the date is the texting phase and that takes time talking without trying to push for a date as soon as possible. If you are looking for casual sex, then dating apps might not be for you. Because women only skip the long texting phase when the guy is genuinely super hot in those apps, muscular, with abs, tall... In that case they don't care about texting and emotional resonance.

I'd suggest you meet women face to face, because texting will frustrate you since it will require a lot of time and it won't always get you the result you want, making you feel like all the effort was for nothing.

Aromatic-serve-4015 · 2025-07-10T21:39:20+00:00

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Title	i stuck at texting
Author	Aromatic-serve-4015
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Date	July 10, 2025 9:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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