"If not now, when?" is the wrong question to be asking yourself.

Lojak · 2010-12-07T11:25:39+00:00

"If not me, who?"

I very much like this. It seems like a corollary to the adage "Control your destiny, or someone else will."

ThrowawayPUA · 2010-12-07T16:09:48+00:00

I like this guy's writing. His question reminds me of "The Sedona Method," also known as "The Release Technique." There are audio courses floating around out there that I've listened to, it is a pretty good fundamental self-help course, intended to remove your inner roadblocks.

The basic idea is you visualize or feel your tension over an issue. Then you ask yourself these questions:

Could you let go of that?
Would you?
When?

They shorten that down to "Could you? Would you? When?" After you do this a while, it becomes a fast, easy way to kick your mind into a "release mode" and let go of tension over a problem. This seems like a good way to eliminate self-limiting beliefs, I think I'm going to try it again, I had some successes with it a few years ago when I used it. Time to work it again.

pua_thiseyepole · 2010-12-07T19:37:31+00:00

I gotta give credit where it's due. I found his blog from the Nice Guy Contract, posted by Benjamin_Wankin.

I liked this post because I always give myself excuses to put things off or to not do an approach because I'll see her tomorrow or I'll have more free time later.

You can fabricate a better situation to see yourself in, but that may or may not ever become a reality. "There's no better time than the present," is what comes to my mind.

Title	"If not now, when?" is the wrong question to be asking yourself.
Author	pua_thiseyepole
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	December 7, 2010 11:09 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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