So you learn how to flirt, you learn how to seduce people and the various tactics required. But how do you implement that into your everyday life. For me this has been something I do in my alone time on the side, that isn't part of my social circle. So every time I like a girl in a friend group, I act different, because I'm not used to being passionate about people in my circle.

Essentially I don't know how to get out of the "polite-friend" mindset. I either get along with a persons personality or their body. And when you get along with their personality the fire fades and I no longer have any sexual tension to work off.

The thing is being intellectually stimulated is very important for me, and so is being intimate. I just don't know how to make that romantic.

Also, I'm sorry if I'm posting in the wrong place. This is my first post here.