Hey everyone !

First post here , been swimming through this sub and it's very intimidating. I've had ups and down with woman , I've had 9's and 10's and girlfriends , I've been able to approach and meet girls online and was pretty successful up until recently. Not sure what happened , after my last relationship which ended in her cheating on me , I think I lost all my confidence .

I started this new job about a year ago , and I am one of the top sales people. So I make good money , but I'm not happy . I feel like I suck with woman now , I'm nervous , I gained weight since I work so many hours and I make excuses not to hit the gym and eat right . I know girls find me attractive , I can feel it , I know there looking . The problem is , I'm a fucking pussy , I'm so scared that they won't like me that I never take the risk . I've read through similar post and the comments are usually the same , like your going to miss opportunities , you need to build confidence , focus on yourself first ...etc...etc.

I Feel like I've gotten more shy as I got older , I'm started to hit the gym more and get back in the shape I was in , I'm only about 10 pounds over weight , still look muscular . I make the excuse oh this is why I don't approach because I don't feel confident about my looks. The problem is my best friend from work is overweight , drinks heavily , and whenever we go out he has no problem approaching and getting girls .

How the fuck can I get over being shy ? I hate this shit, are there workshops? Or seminars I can go to? Reading forums are nice , but I have a feeling that some people like myself just read this shit all day and get trapped in the rabbit hole even more .

This all probably didn't make sense , but can anyone give me some advice please ?