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| 1 | Trying to change myself as much as possible in the next two months - how to prepare?How far you can go in two months is entirely up to you and how hard you want to push yourself. Chances are, you won't make any dramatic changes in your personality / confidence over the course of two months, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try. If you wanted to make the biggest change in your confidence, I would suggest you start approaching women on a regular basis, and start right now. | /r/seduction | 14/04/16 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Potential of short guys - what is possible?If you're going up with otherwise comparable men to you, then women will typically pick a taller guy. That said, most women would pick a shorter guy with a high degree of confidence over a tall guy with low confidence. Yes it's something women will perceive as negative, but it's not a complete deal breaker for most women as long as you possess other attractive qualities. Fuck yes, there's no reason why you can't get very attractive women at your height. You just need to make sure you're fucking … | /r/seduction | 14/04/16 09:26 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop chasing women?Yes, it sounds like you're seeking validation from women to some degree. Your perception about yourself and your level of confidence should be completely independent from your level of success with women. You need to find a bigger goal in life. Are you pursuing these hobbies and making yourself a better man to get laid, or are you truly doing it for you? You need to find a purpose in life, build yourself up and pursue your dreams for YOU. This is what builds confidence and what makes you live li… | /r/seduction | 14/04/16 08:58 PM |
| 0 | New way to beat shit tests textingI fucking hate that posts like these need to be made. Texting game is by far my least favorite aspect of dating, yet it's crucial for anyone who wants to be successful with women (especially younger ones). I really struggle with this shit when it matters. If I'm interested in a woman, I can't reliably fake this shit because I will always accidentally slip up and show some neediness, ruining everything. Ironically, the only time I do great at texting is when I legitimately don't care about a woma… | /r/seduction | 12/04/16 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Seriously! How To Eye Contact With A Girl You Like When She's Talking?This is a great guide, especially making a habit of making strong eye contact with women you're attracted to. It's a hell of a lot of fun too. When I go to the mall or anywhere in public with lots of attractive women, I love just making crazy strong eye contact and seeing how long I can go for. At first it's like staring into the sun, but as you build confidence it gets easier. Most women break contact pretty quickly, but sometimes you get into really intense 5-10 second staring contests with wo… | /r/seduction | 08/04/16 05:03 PM |
| 14 | Jealous of the Guy Who's Better Than You? Here's a ThoughtYeah, exactly this. If she decides to pick the "better guy", he might not necessarily have been a higher quality man than you (more attractive / confident) but he might have just been the better match for her. Always remember that. If you get rejected for another man, don't take it personally. She's just chosen a better match for herself. | /r/seduction | 08/04/16 04:17 PM |
| 2 | A Girl’s Guide to Getting Responses on OKCupidAre there any short PUAs who started off being horrible with women? What do you mean? I'm sure all PUA's started off being horrible with women. I don't believe any man was born with the innate ability to pick up women. | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 11:56 PM |
| 3 | A Girl’s Guide to Getting Responses on OKCupidWomen are so fucking shallow. Humans are shallow. Hell, every animal on earth is extremely shallow. There are certain attributes we're all genetically wired to find attractive. That's just a fact of life. She's right, though. Online dating is extremely superficial, and if you aren't at least above average in the looks department, you aren't going to do well. But that sure as hell doesn't mean you won't ever have luck with women. There are plenty of short PUA's who do exceptionally well with wome… | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Quick question about resuming contact after 3 weeks of travelThe first few dates is a crucial time to keep momentum going and keep interest high. If she's acting not interested while you're on vacation, it's not a good sign. Regardless, just pursue her as you normally would. Ask her out and go on a date with her. Also, don't say "I've been waiting a long time to do that". Just kiss her, then talk about something else. Catch her off guard and then act like nothing happened. | /r/seduction | 29/03/16 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way for a fat guy to have a chance on a hookup website.I would choose an escort from a reputable agency over some slut from a hook-up site any day of the year. Again, I'm talking about professional agencies that care about their reputation. Yes, you pay a premium for these women, but you know they're being tested regularly. Of course it's still risky, but it's far less risk than banging some chick from a hook-up site, or some slut you pick up at the bar. I can't believe how many women I've hooked up with who try to tell me I don't need to use a cond… | /r/seduction | 28/03/16 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way for a fat guy to have a chance on a hookup website.Hookup websites have probably a 100:1 ratio of men to women. This means that even the most unattractive women will have a shit-ton of men to pick from, and they're always going to pick the most attractive ones they can get. Unless you're willing to scrape the absolute bottom of the barrel (for the love of god, don't do that) then you'll be SOL. Obviously, losing weight should be your #1 priority. You don't have a lot of options when you're fat. In the meantime, if you really want to get laid, ju… | /r/seduction | 28/03/16 03:19 AM |
| 2 | I know how to improve my looks, but how do I improve my personality?This has always been my problem. I know everything there is to know about a few subjects, and next to nothing about mostly everything else. If I'm in a social situation and the conversation goes to sports.. I'm fucked. I know absolutely nothing. Same goes for world politics and religion. My problem is I genuinely have zero interest in some things, so it's really difficult to learn about politics or sports when I just can't get into them. | /r/seduction | 24/03/16 04:02 PM |
| 11 | Why Nice Guys Always Get Friend-Zoned. And How To Get The Girl.I like this post, but this doesn't really have to do much with friend-zone, more to do with rejection due to a man not possessing the qualities women are looking for to pursue anything romantic with them. In my mind, friend-zone means that a man might possess these qualities (they 'score' high enough), and there might have been some initial attraction, but his lack of action or inability to ask her out / make it sexual has caused her to lose interest. | /r/seduction | 22/03/16 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Where are the guys with everything stacked against them?Lack of accomplishments, lack of full independence in my 30s, difficulty socializing, ADD You didn't answer the question. You've simply identified the deficiencies in your life as it stands right now, but what's preventing you from fixing these things? You lack accomplishments, so why not set goals and accomplish things? Why not achieve independence? Why not practice socialization? Why not get treatment for your ADD? These things are simply hurdles. Your problem is your defeatist attitude. You t… | /r/seduction | 11/03/16 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Do your recommend losing your virginity to a ONS?I would suggest you actually get a higher end prostitute. If it's not legal where you live, then you should consider visiting a brothel in Vegas. It's all very professional and these women are fucking gorgeous. Prostitutes are pretty much guaranteed to be clean, since they get tested regularly, unlike random tinder chicks. You can also be honest with them, tell them it's your first time, and they will know exactly how to treat you. Plus you don't have to worry about things like accidental pregna… | /r/seduction | 10/03/16 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Where are the guys with everything stacked against them?Because I'm not going to become great Well no, not with that attitude. Tell me, why couldn't you become great? What single thing is preventing you from working towards being a confident, attractive man? I AM pretty much socially impaired So fix it. Social impairment comes from lack of exposure to social situations. Unless you are in fact mentally challenged and have some form of autism, you have the ability to become socially competent. In fact, look at Daniel Wendler. This guy has asperger's sy… | /r/seduction | 10/03/16 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Should I get tested for STDs if I show no symptoms?It's not a bad idea, but you're probably in the clear. The vast majority of STI's would show symptoms after a couple weeks of being infected. One exception is HPV which might not be symptomatic for months (if ever) but you've probably already got that if you've had unprotected sex with more than a couple women. STI testing is a good idea in theory, but it's not very reliable, at least not in my experience. A couple years ago, a girl I was dating wanted us to both get tested before having unprote… | /r/seduction | 09/03/16 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Need a little help, possible ED issue?This was huge for me. I never realized how good sex could be until I quit. | /r/seduction | 09/03/16 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Where are the guys with everything stacked against them?The difference between guys like you and guys who have "made it" is that they have decided to make a change in their lives, and have committed to that change by refusing to accept anything less. Almost everything that you list out as a negative aspect in your life is fully within your control to change. You seem to have an extremely negative view about yourself, and you are using the wrong motivations for wanting to make your life better. I think your main problem right now is you're in the mind… | /r/seduction | 09/03/16 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Seduction begins with your weightFor an overweight guy, losing weight is the single easiest thing that they can do to dramatically increase their confidence, self-esteem, energy, mood, sex drive, sex appeal, etc. The best thing is actually looking awesome in nice clothes, and looking forward to the prospect of shopping rather than dreading it. In modern dating, being a normal weight is almost a minimum requirement. Woman almost exclusively prefer men who are lean and slightly muscular. You're putting a huge handicap on yourself… | /r/seduction | 07/03/16 10:02 PM |
| 2 | If you're struggling in college, calm down and don't act like this is about as good as it gets for guys, it really isn't and the ceiling is much higher as an adult!Big city, population over 1mil. | /r/seduction | 07/03/16 05:46 PM |
| 7 | If you're struggling in college, calm down and don't act like this is about as good as it gets for guys, it really isn't and the ceiling is much higher as an adult!I've slept with far more college girls ten years after I graduated than I ever did in College. It's funny, when I turned 30, I thought my love life was over. It was fucking depressing. Nothing but downhill from here, right? Fuck that. I'm 34, I'm finally getting my shit together, and finally seeing what everyone's talking about. Nothing hotter to young, beautiful women than an older guy who's got his shit together. I'm far happier and more fulfilled in my 30's than I ever was in my 20's. Being o… | /r/seduction | 07/03/16 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Dating tip for menKnow that womens state of mind meaning thoughts in their head changes constantly and the way to make connection with em is to imagine yourself in her position and to ask em the right questions, that way she feels certainty Reading this made my ears bleed | /r/seduction | 05/03/16 09:32 PM |
| 1 | She was seeking validation. I ignored and fired on everything in sight. Next step?So what's the problem? Neither of you are seeking a relationship, you just want to date casually, and she's shown that she wants to hang out with you. Who cares what she's got going on with her ex, or what her reasons are for seeing you. Nothing wrong with validation sex when you don't see any relationship potential with a woman. | /r/seduction | 05/03/16 09:00 PM |
| 2 | How the fuck did she lose interest this quick?Who knows. Maybe she got busy. Maybe she doesn't want to date a student. Maybe she didn't like how you responded to her. Maybe she's interested but playing games. It could be a million things. The fact that this bothers you enough to make a post about it shows that you're way too invested in her. If you're sitting there thinking "why isn't she responding" and questioning your responses to her, then you're already screwed with this one. | /r/seduction | 05/03/16 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Do Pheromone Based Products Work? Any Experiences?Pheromones are absolute bullshit, I don't believe there has been any legitimate research that shows these work whatsoever. The reason people believe they work is almost certainly from the placebo effect and from confirmation bias. Your time and money is much better spent on finding a good cologne. Smelling good is very important. The nice thing about cologne also is some scents might incite pleasant memories for women (an ex boyfriend, cologne her dad used to wear, a special place from her past,… | /r/seduction | 04/03/16 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Maybe wrong sub, am I just broken?Eye contact was a problem for me too. It just takes practice. When a woman meets your eyes, don't break contact until she does, and even when she does, keep looking at her another second before you break. I love practicing at malls when I'm walking around shopping. When I see an attractive woman, I make eye contact with her and force myself not to break it. When you stare at a woman for 5-10 seconds, it can get really intense, but it's a ton of fun and actually goes a long way towards building c… | /r/seduction | 04/03/16 08:01 PM |
| 5 | Should I call NASA? I am an orbiterThere's absolutely no question about it, she's seeking attention and using you for validation. Every time you show interest and ask her out, she gets the validation, and she loses interest in you. You NEED to get out of this NOW. I went through this really bad with a woman last year, before I knew what the fuck I was doing or what was happening. She told me she wanted me, wanted to fuck me, wanted all this, and when I asked her to meet up, she would make up excuses, saying she can't date anyone … | /r/seduction | 03/03/16 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Anyone had actual success with this stuff?Pickup absolutely works, but I would wager the overall failure rate is extremely high. The vast majority of guys who get into seduction will drop out after a couple months because it's too difficult / uncomfortable, or they just lack the willpower and strength to push themselves to make fundamental changes. This shit is not easy. It's a long, arduous and emotionally trying journey. You can't just watch a couple videos and read a couple books then go out and apply it and get laid immediately, con… | /r/seduction | 02/03/16 08:32 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]This is great, man.. Actually it is super inspiring as a guy who doesn't really have a lot of friends. I find that I spend a lot of time making up excuses for why I do things alone, and the prospect of being honest with people never even crossed my mind. I've always convinced myself that being a loner in situations makes me boring, weird and unlikable. | /r/seduction | 02/03/16 08:21 PM |
| 23 | I am a coward. Never realized how big my approach anxiety really is.I recently popped my approach cherry a few weeks ago. I spent a few months trying to psyche myself up to it, so don't worry if you don't get it on your first try. I wasn't even thinking about approach at the moment; a girl I was attracted to at the gym was working out beside me, and in a split second I just thought "fuck it" and went for it. Don't put so much pressure on yourself and try not to build it up as a huge deal. Are you taking baby steps? Have you practiced making strong eye-contact wi… | /r/seduction | 02/03/16 07:02 PM |
| 1 | I asked out 100 women in real life and got 14 numbers and 4 dates. I asked out 100 women online and got 0 responses. Online dating is a fail.Online dating success is highly dependent on your level of physical attractiveness and texting game. I've personally had excellent luck with online dating. I get maybe a 30-40% response rate, and of those who respond, the majority agree to date me. This is with OKC; tinder has been significantly less successful because I have shit texting game. It really depends on your goals and your strengths. I'm great at fucking up dates, so my online success doesn't help me much, but I wouldn't say day game… | /r/seduction | 02/03/16 06:49 PM |
| 1 | You were never really attracted to her, it was just validation.Oh.. Yeah.. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 02/03/16 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Talking to women..ughI have to accept im an introvert and to not try and act like an extrovert. The important thing to remember is that making a shift isn't about acting like an extrovert, it's about trying to make a fundamental change and actually become extroverted. Trying to fake a high-energy guy would actually make things even worse, and you would become even more exhausted with the whole ordeal. When you really think about it though, social endurance is contextual, is it not? I mean, have you never been in soc… | /r/seduction | 01/03/16 10:47 PM |
| 2 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.Had sex with her for a 2-hour duration? | /r/seduction | 01/03/16 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Talking to women..ughI've always identified as an introvert, and sort of used it as an excuse to not push myself into stressful / difficult social situations. I'm finding out more and more than the whole concept of being introverted / extroverted is complete bullshit, and identifying as an introvert is essentially just adopting a defeatist attitude and giving up on being a social person. I believe that everybody starts out more or less the same, but due to upbringing and life experiences, some people develop far mor… | /r/seduction | 01/03/16 07:55 PM |
| 2 | You were never really attracted to her, it was just validation.This is the story of my life. I've noticed that my level of overall attraction / desire for women I am interested in is directly proportional to how much they like me back. Even when I start dating someone I'm initially very interested in, when I start seeing that they're getting obsessed about me, sending me lots of texts and being needy, I fucking need out. It's interesting how most of the women I've fallen head-over-heels for haven't really been incredibly attractive. They just didn't like me… | /r/seduction | 01/03/16 07:33 PM |
| 7 | What are some interesting hobbies that have a higher concentration of women?Check out indoor climbing. I tried this out on a whim with a friend and was amazed by how many women were there. The best thing is they're mostly in very good shape and quite attractive. | /r/seduction | 26/02/16 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Where should I start to get beginner fashion advice?Man, thanks again for suggesting cladwell. I signed up last night and absolutely love what it's suggesting. For once in my life, I'm actually excited to start shopping and picking out clothes. It's a lot easier to go shopping with "okay, I need to buy a white t-shirt, dark blue jeans and a brown belt" as opposed to "fuck, I need a new wardrobe, I'm just gonna wander around and hope something inspires me.." I'm really stoked to done all my old clothes and start fresh. I can see this really saving… | /r/seduction | 26/02/16 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Where should I start to get beginner fashion advice?This is great.. I took a good hard look at my wardrobe and I wouldn't be willing to pay much of anything for at least 95% of my wardrobe. As much as it hurts and as much money I spent on these clothes, I need to purge them. | /r/seduction | 26/02/16 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Going out when you feel shit?How often do you feel 100% ready to go out and approach girls? Probably rarely, if ever. You're sitting there, feeling anxious about doing something that might end up being unpleasant, can cause negative emotions, and is something your instincts perceive as threatening. Of course you're not going to feel great about it. You'll be amazed by how quickly your mood changes when you're out there doing it, though. You really need to push yourself, even when you have to drag your ass. You keep forcing … | /r/seduction | 25/02/16 11:50 PM |
| 4 | Is their anything wrong with approaching and not closing ?Approaching is like 90% of the battle for most guys. Just being able to walk up and say "hi" is something that a ton of guys struggle with. You should be focused on goals, not results. Setting the goal to approach say one woman every day is realistic. Having the goal of closing one girl a day is not, because you have no control over the outcome. | /r/seduction | 24/02/16 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Some advice and insight for a guy that broke up with a gf of almost 6 years?I'll never forget how shitty I felt after breaking up with my first serious girlfriend when I was your age. It took me months to get over her, but it got easier every day. I know how you feel man. It's not fun, but going through this type of thing will make you much stronger when you come out on the other end. I know the thought of being with anyone else is the farthest thing from your mind. You're still focused on her. You need to stop that. Block ALL contact with her. Delete any pictures you m… | /r/seduction | 24/02/16 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Thanks, Seddit. [27M Virginity Close]Congrats! This is something a lot of guys build up in their mind, and they expect it to be this big incredible life-changing thing.. Then it happens, and you realize it wasn't that big of a deal, and you've put way too much emphasis on it's importance. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Where should I start to get beginner fashion advice?These are awesome, thanks man! I actually look a lot like the 'iamgalla' guy so it's good to know his styles would likely work well for me. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Where should I start to get beginner fashion advice?You're right, I really need to just do this. I've got a negative association with clothes shopping, since it used to be a very negative experience when I was fat. I just need to take an entire day and go visit every store. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Where should I start to get beginner fashion advice?Thanks man. I tend to wear baggier jeans because I have larger thighs and calves, but I am going to go try 511 again. I love how they look on other guys so I should just find a size that fits and force myself to wear them until they stretch. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Tinder and you: a brief guide to successlol, I was about to post the same thing. Women lose interest in me pretty quickly when I don't ask them out. I think the trick to all this is you don't want to come across as lacking the confidence to ask her out. You need to appear disinterested, but also clearly express that you're a confident, high-value man. Women who seek validation have hundreds of guys that will tell her she's beautiful and do/say whatever to get her, but she will only be interested in a confident guy who doesn't give her… | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Tinder and you: a brief guide to successI got this a few times.. Met a woman who ended up looking 10-15 years older than her pictures. I just don't understand this, it's such a fucking waste of time for everyone. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 03:49 PM |
| 15 | Tinder and you: a brief guide to successMy experience exactly. I get plenty of matches, plenty of interesting conversations, but it's like pulling teeth getting women to actually meet up with you. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but I personally had way more luck with other online dating methods like okcupid. Seems like tinder is just "I'm hot" validation for a lot of people (men and women alike). | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Where should I start to get beginner fashion advice?I threw out my whole wardrobe 3 years ago and rebuilt it from scratch. Feels good man. I'm at that point right now.. 90% of my clothes are too big for me (fat clothes) but can't bring myself to throw them out because of how much money I spent. I just need to do this and fucking start over. Thanks for the info man, I'm going to give this a shot. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Where should I start to get beginner fashion advice?This sounds exactly like what I have been looking for.. Do you use this yourself? | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 08:28 PM |
| 2 | Where should I start to get beginner fashion advice?Hey, thanks a lot man, I really appreciate the thought you put into this reply. This is very helpful to get me started. Curious, what types of jeans do you buy? I've always struggled with finding a really nice pair of jeans. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 08:28 PM |
| 1 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.honestly I've been rejected a good amount of times but I never really cared so I'm not sure what's stopping me. Dude, this question has been going through my mind for years. I think it's more the fear of the unknown. When you meet a woman online, you've already got a good idea of what she's about, you know she's somewhat interested in you, and you know she's single. If she rejects you, whatever, it sucks but you just weren't right for her. Whatever, you can move on. But approaching a random woma… | /r/seduction | 17/02/16 12:39 AM |
| 1 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.1 in 1000 sounds really low. I mean I can't imagine that a reasonably attractive man doing cold approaches couldn't get a phone number at least 1 out of 50 times. I realize that my experience of one warm approach doesn't make me anything resembling an expert on this, but that sounds pretty low to me. Maybe I'm just biased though. But I totally agree; if results were even anything close to being that abysmal, it would be a complete waste of time doing it. Way better to choose your targets more ca… | /r/seduction | 17/02/16 12:14 AM |
| 2 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.Thanks a ton man, it really means a lot that people found this inspiring to them. | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 11:49 PM |
| 4 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.The same seems to go for a lot of introverted guys, or those who have dealt with social anxiety or just lacking in social skills. We are too tuned-in to how people perceive us. We try so fucking hard to not be perceived negatively that we end up over-thinking everything, and rarely act or speak up unless we're fairly confident it's a 'normal' or 'safe' thing to say. In reality, we're all capable of being how we want all the time. It's just that we've spend our lives neglecting that piece of ours… | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 11:32 PM |
| 2 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.What's your definition of success though? I touched on this in my post, but success to me was approaching, talking to a woman and asking her out. That was my only goal, and it was entirely in my control. The end result (rejection or sex) is completely inconsequential to success. If I had been rejected, I would still be extremely happy with myself. I don't know, many guys don't agree with this and will measure their success by the number of times they've gotten a positive response or gotten laid,… | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 11:25 PM |
| 2 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.I didn't even know it was a thing until yesterday.. | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 11:18 PM |
| 3 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.Funny, that did cross my mind.. Actually after she gave me an answer about her tattoo, I said "well thanks for your time, don't let me take you from your workout" and she came back and said "no it's fine, I'm pretty much done anyway!" I think as long as you time your approach correctly (like between sets) and don't continually pester her if she's not interested in talking, there's no issue with approaching women at the gym. I think you'll get some pretty clear "go the fuck away" signs if she's n… | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 11:15 PM |
| 1 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.You know what man, whatever works for you. Online dating used to work really well for me, then for some reason, it stopped. I can't make anything happen with women I meet online for the life of me. I just suddenly got some confidence curse that kills me on dates. If you're making good things happen through tinder and meeting great women, why question your methods? If it ain't broke, don't fix it! | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 11:11 PM |
| 0 | Mental trick to talk to girls I find attractiveOP, maybe read the post I submitted earlier, but this is exactly it. Even if you approach a woman and she acts annoyed and doesn't want you bothering her, she's going to feel flattered about being approached. | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 04:03 AM |
| 23 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.Glad you enjoyed it. My biggest problem is I'm too fucking analytical. I search for that perfect piece of advice or a perfect book that will just magically turn off my fear and let me approach without a single worry. I guess the trick to all of this is just shut off your brain and run on auto-pilot for a bit and see what happens. I've spent too much time thinking with my brain and not with my gut. | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 03:58 AM |
| 4 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.Good point, you're right! I'm still somewhat new to all this, but I'm guessing a cold approach would be just walking up to a woman the first time you lay eyes on her and chatting her up? | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 03:54 AM |
| 8 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.That was written very eloquently and I completely believe this to be the case. The extent of what I've discussed with women is the creepy dudes that approach them or try to date them, but I've never once had a discussion with a woman about what they want and what turns them on. It was very eye opening to hear it from the horses mouth, so to speak. | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 03:53 AM |
| 3 | I finally did it. My very first cold approach ever, at the age of 34.I didn't really elaborate on that much because the post was already long enough but let me clarify: I've never cold/warm approached a woman before, but been with plenty of women before. Prior to today, I would say over 90% of them were met online, the rest either introduced through friends or at work. | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 03:51 AM |
| 14 | To the guy that cold approached my girlfriend last Friday night right in front of me..We need more people like you, OP. Most men are so fucking insecure about themselves that they will freak out at any other guy approaching their women. I don't know why so many guys need to view other men as threats / competition. | /r/seduction | 09/02/16 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Valentine's Gift?Why haven't you met her yet after talking to her for two weeks? You want to give her a Valentine's gift, give her you. If she lives near you and you haven't asked her out yet, get on that shit. | /r/seduction | 08/02/16 11:48 PM |
| 1 | What are you supposed to do when you have made over 100 approaches and still have no success?Make sure you're taking a very objective view at yourself, your approach, how you present yourself to women, and the message you're bringing to them. I don't usually like to focus on looks, but is there anything obvious about your physical appearance that might be hurting your chances? When I started into PUA, I never really thought much about how I looked, but some friends gave me some really honest advice about some shortcomings in my style that seem to have helped quite dramatically. | /r/seduction | 08/02/16 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Drying up during dates?lip stick I hope you mean chap stick.. | /r/seduction | 06/02/16 11:32 PM |
| 1 | I avoid going out and talking to girls because I fear humiliation...There's nothing wrong with your looks man, I would put you at slightly above average. Looks don't really matter that much anyway; I've seen very unattractive guys pick up some amazing woman. That said, I would suggest you hit the gym and cut down your weight a little. You're a good looking guy, but I think you could be upgraded to very attractive if you leaned out and put on some muscle mass. This isn't going to magically make you super confident, but it helps a lot when you're super comfortable… | /r/seduction | 06/02/16 11:29 PM |
| 1 | How To Stand Like A Man: Body LanguageIt's practice though. At first you're going to look like you're forcing it, but when you practice enough, these things just become habit and natural. | /r/seduction | 05/02/16 11:22 PM |
| 4 | Are there limits?Limits only exist in your mind. If you want to bang the queen of England, nothing should stop you from chasing your dreams. | /r/seduction | 05/02/16 11:20 PM |
| 1 | How To Improve Your Social Skills, Without Talking To AnyoneDude, this is absolute gold, I love this post. I've always been incredibly jealous of people that can just instantly reply with something witty or perceptive without even thinking about it. I always walk away from conversations / dates saying to myself: "why the fuck didn't you say this?". I spend a lot of time wishing I could pause time during my social interactions so that I could come up with some better responses. Your explanation of how you react to when social situations go bad is spot-on … | /r/seduction | 05/02/16 10:41 PM |
| 3 | Girl said no to date, now what?That's the type of no where you should just end pursuit. I've gotten these in the past. If she was really into you, she wouldn't give a fuck about her free YMCA membership, or she would make time for you. Move on. | /r/seduction | 02/02/16 06:47 PM |
| 2 | im a giant vagI'm actually somewhat in the same position. A couple years ago, I was going out, meeting and fucking a bunch of women. Then I got a gf, got complacent, let myself go, and after we broke up I was a shell of what I used to be. I turned into a pussy without any motivation. You don't necessarily get shyer as you get older, but you start being more careful, less inclined to take risks, and tend to stick with what's comfortable and safe rather than going out and doing new things. Don't put too much em… | /r/seduction | 29/01/16 05:15 PM |
| 2 | The Book ThreadEveryone should read "How to win friend and influence people." Even though this isn't about seduction, it's been a huge help for me in all social interactions. Another great book is "No more Mr nice guy", and I think it complements Models quite well. | /r/seduction | 29/01/16 04:49 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]You didn't really give enough context, but I'm guessing she broke up with you and you want to either get back together with her or fuck her, yes? You sound like you're trying waaaaay too hard. You come across as desperate / attention seeking. Don't say things like "Daaaahling", that comes across as childish and immature. You're trying too hard to tell her your value (hey, look at all this money I have, I'll buy you stuff, etc.). Don't do that unless you want to be an orbiter who buys her things … | /r/seduction | 28/01/16 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Can an introvert make a true, fundamental change to an extrovert?This is basically exactly what Julian says in SHIFT. I really like how you put it, because that makes a lot of sense to me. When I go out, especially when I'm in a new place or with new people, I don't feel very comfortable. That's exhausting to me. I feel like I need to be on guard, watch what I say, I can't let loose and fart and laugh and say whatever comes to mind like when I'm at home by myself. I do have some close friends who I feel like this with, though. When I'm in a well-known place w… | /r/seduction | 28/01/16 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Can an introvert make a true, fundamental change to an extrovert?tells you to not talk about introvert hobbies that you have with girls Funny, other PUA's say that you should be completely comfortable with your hobbies / passions and tell women about them with enthusiasm. PUA is confusing. There are so many different perspectives on it. Everybody claims to have the right answer, but so much of the information is contradictory. It's frustrating as fuck sometimes. | /r/seduction | 28/01/16 09:18 PM |
| 2 | "Only use texts for logistics"tl;dr: Only use texts for logistics | /r/seduction | 28/01/16 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Anyone that implemented vulnerability successfully can help me?I don't think this is at all what OP is looking for.. Maybe I'm missing the point, but how does crying by yourself make you more vulnerable to women? | /r/seduction | 28/01/16 12:46 AM |
| 1 | tinder questionKeep it super casual and not very serious. Something random. I think mine says something like "I run on gummy worms and love waterslides. Talk at me if you have a dog." Tinder is just about the most casual way to meet someone, so don't make yourself look too serious by thinking a lot about what you put in there. If you look like an attractive person in your pictures, you're gonna get matches regardless of what you put in. | /r/seduction | 28/01/16 12:42 AM |
| 2 | How do you fake confidence?Isn't confidence more than this, though? I mean everything I read says being confident means to trust in your abilities, have strong beliefs, stand up for yourself, etc. Is the end result the same as if I just didn't give a fuck about the outcome anymore? | /r/seduction | 28/01/16 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Should I fuck this chick?Who gives a shit what other people are going to think about you. If you're attracted to her and want to try something different, go for it. | /r/seduction | 26/01/16 04:41 PM |
| 1 | I Need Advice Guys From A Men To A MenWhat do you mean kind of heavy? Are you overweight? Women are usually very put off by overweight dudes, so you should consider hitting the gym. Get some muscle definition, and it will help your confidence and overall attraction tremendously. | /r/seduction | 25/01/16 07:47 PM |
| 2 | I'm a below average looking guy. How to get rid of this mental masturbation ?Here's the thing. Your looks will always be a deal breaker to some women. I've got a bit of a fucked up smile too, and some women need a guy with a great smile. Oh well, who cares. I've still got hundreds of millions of other women who don't care. Looks aren't that important to women. But don't misconstrue that as an excuse to be sloppy. Regardless of how genetically gifted you are in the looks department, you need to dress well, groom yourself well, smell nice, stand tall, and so on. Get braces… | /r/seduction | 25/01/16 05:05 PM |
| -1 | To put height or not in a Tinder profile?Put it in. Some women absolutely will not date someone shorter than themselves, so it's best you are honest about it up front so you don't waste your time. You only have to worry about this being an issue when you've dated the hundreds of millions of women this isn't a deal breaker for. | /r/seduction | 25/01/16 04:58 PM |
| 5 | How many of you have no friends?You'll find as you get older that it's more and more difficult to make friends, and to have deep, meaningful connections with people. It doesn't come as naturally as it did when you were younger. Also, another thing is that as you approach 30, you will find people you were friends with slowly drift away, as they get married and have kids and so on. Being a single 34 year old is fucking brutal on my social life. I've only got a handful of friends that are actually single, and most already have ki… | /r/seduction | 24/01/16 06:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with the frustration of failure and rejection?Sweet, thanks again dude! I'll put you in my will for when I drown in pussy. | /r/seduction | 23/01/16 04:06 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with the frustration of failure and rejection?I need a mindset change, this is what I'm struggling to get to. Would this be suitable for someone who has absolute zero gaming experience? Like an introvert who doesn't like going to clubs? I'm willing to give this a shot, thanks for the advice man. | /r/seduction | 23/01/16 03:33 AM |
| 10 | A simple trick to get people to like you (x-post from /r/socialskillsThis is such a simple thing and I believe it 100%. A couple years ago while walking out of the gym, some guy said "hey man, I love that t-shirt!" It was just a really innocent comment, but literally every time I put that damn shirt on, I thought of how awesome that guy was and put me in a good mood. It's such a simple thing, but I can't really think of any other single time when some random person made a comment like that towards me. | /r/seduction | 23/01/16 03:30 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with the frustration of failure and rejection?Yeah, I agree this is definitely what's happening. Just getting to that mindset fundamentally is easier said than done. I'm working on it.. | /r/seduction | 23/01/16 03:24 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with the frustration of failure and rejection?That's actually a really good insight.. What would you typically say as a first text after you date someone? | /r/seduction | 23/01/16 03:23 AM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with the frustration of failure and rejection?First of all. I can tell by how you react to rejection that A. You are a people pleaser and B. You are ONLY in this game for the validation. Well you're bang-on right there. I checked out shift, it looks very interesting.. Is it like an online course or something? What types of things does it have you doing, and how quickly did you see changes? | /r/seduction | 23/01/16 03:19 AM |
| 18 | Here's how to start a conversation on TinderTinder is an awful way to meet women. In my experience, the vast majority of women on there are seeking validation, and the same probably goes for guys as well. In my experience, more than 90% of the time this is what happens: You match with someone You make a clever opener, and get their attention After some conversation, you ask them out on a date. They agree enthusiastically You try to set up a time / place, and then they flake for absolutely no reason It's like pulling teeth getting women to… | /r/seduction | 22/01/16 06:39 PM |
| 4 | For those of you who may not think you're the best looking guy, look who Brian Baumgartner (Kevin from The Office) scooped up and married.Picking up women is easier when you're a somewhat famous actor worth millions of dollars. The average guy who looks like that isn't going to land a woman like this. Who knows, they might legitimately be in love, but when I see attractive women with rich old fat guys like that, it's hard to believe that they're not just banging them for their money / fame. | /r/seduction | 21/01/16 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Once you've confessed your feelings and you are stuck in the friendzone - is there any way of coming back? How to establish kino now?When a woman has made up her mind about you one way or another, there is very little that will change it. Any attempt you make to change her mind will just make you come off as more and more needy / desperate, which is just another nail in the coffin. The only chance you have of her coming around is you moving on with your life, and onto other women. If she sees you happy, pursuing your goals and loving life, dating women, there's a chance she might change her mind about you. But even then, it's… | /r/seduction | 21/01/16 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys even go out?Remember, you're in a sub full of people who struggle with seduction, and also likely social interaction in general. More people in this sub will be introverted and more analytical in their approach to the situation. But I agree to some extent that this sub can be bad in ways. Visiting here gets addictive, since I am constantly on the search of someone's insight, or some article that tells me exactly what I need to know to get over my fears and to give me confidence. I would say the vast majorit… | /r/seduction | 21/01/16 07:36 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when a girl texts you back after a substantial period of time even though she is online on facebook?Don't think twice about it and do shit that you should be doing with your life, like hitting the gym, pursuing hobbies, pursuing your career, etc. She's just not into you. Who gives a shit. Move on with your life. | /r/seduction | 19/01/16 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Just recently ended my first long term relationship. How do all of you sake off the cobwebs and get your groove back?The fact that being in a relationship resulted in you being an introverted couch potato is a problem. That's not good. A relationship should never be an end to your social life and your pursuit of personal goals and hobbies. Relationships should always complement your lifestyle, and your partner should encourage you to pursue your social life, goals, etc. You need to re-focus on those things. Find some passions in life and pursue them emphatically. If you aren't already, start hitting the gym. I… | /r/seduction | 19/01/16 05:38 PM |
| 1 | For all those introverts out there who can't talk to girls. Here's my success story.That's awesome to hear, congrats on making a move. But I don't really understand what this has to do with being introverted? My introvert qualities haven't ever really stopped me from being able to approach women or to talk to them, since that's something that all people (even extroverted guys) struggle with. In fact, I think being introverted helps me feel more comfortable approaching women in situations where they're alone. | /r/seduction | 19/01/16 04:00 PM |
| 2 | According to OkCupid, These Are the Emojis That’ll Most Likely Get a Message ResponseIf I need to use an Emoji to get a response from a woman, this is not a woman I want to date. | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 07:47 PM |
| 26 | 12 Action Oriented Tips That Will Instantly Raise Your Social SkillsI stopped reading at "deliberate over-apologizing". Over-apologizing is a great way to come off as insincere. One genuine, heartfelt apology is worth a hundred fake ones. | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Why the hell can't I just be myself on dates? For the love of god, someone please help me.I've been on probably 200 dates in my life. Exposure isn't making things any better, unfortunately. But you're right, I probably don't have the right mindset. My mindset is basically "don't fuck up or else you'll feel shitty about failing". | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Why the hell can't I just be myself on dates? For the love of god, someone please help me.I think this is something I never did in my life. I don't feel like I've really found myself by going on a big trip somewhere. I really wish I did. Unfortunately, I'm 34, have a mortgage, a career, a dog, and I can't really up and leave, even though often I feel like I should. I wonder if I could clear my mind and find myself in a weekend.. | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Why the hell can't I just be myself on dates? For the love of god, someone please help me.Very good advice, I just bought that book and will put it on my list of things to read, along with The Confidence Gap as suggested by another user. I've been on probably 200 dates in my life. Repeated exposure and practice isn't making things better. But possibly, altering my perspective and making failure more of a point of a learning experience could be what I need. | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Why the hell can't I just be myself on dates? For the love of god, someone please help me.This is great advice, thanks so much, this really puts things into perspective for me. Just curious about your last point, how does cutting out fapping reduce my need for sex? I'll admit, my desire for sex with women plays a role in my failure on dates, and can lead to feelings of desperation. To cut that out of the equation would probably help a lot. But I would expect cutting out fapping would make me more desperate for sex? | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Why the hell can't I just be myself on dates? For the love of god, someone please help me.I've already read a ton of books and wasn't looking for another one as a fix, but I check this out and it really seems interesting, and might be exactly what I need. I've always learned that you should fight to change your emotions, to think positive and ignore negative thoughts. I'm finding that this isn't working too well, so I think a different approach would be in order. Thanks a lot man. | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Why the hell can't I just be myself on dates? For the love of god, someone please help me.This isn't really it, because I act the same even on dates with women I'm not attracted to. I think it more stems from just being uncomfortable with new people in general. | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 04:09 PM |
| 3 | I'm over my panic attacks(for now), but still afraid it might happen if I ask a girl out.......and it will be embarrassing This is why why you can't get over it. When you approach women, you are afraid of panicking, then getting embarrassed. The fear of your fear is what's causing you to panic. You won't stop panicking until you stop giving a shit about being embarrassed. Really, what's the worst that can happen? You approach a woman, ask her out awkwardly and nervously. Worst case, she rejects you. Just like how every other guy on earth gets rejected all the fucking time. If she could… | /r/seduction | 14/01/16 04:39 PM |
| 2 | 5 Reasons Why 99% of Men Fail With Women and How to Succeed99% of men fail with women? I think the vast majority of men have some success with women. When I used to be a fat lazy nerd with no job and played video games 24/7, I still managed to get laid from time to time. | /r/seduction | 14/01/16 04:29 PM |
| 2 | OverweightWhy waste time trying to get comfortable with something that's completely within your control to change? You could lose 15 pounds in a month or two. Eat at a slight deficit, maybe hit the gym a bit, and your problem is solved. | /r/seduction | 14/01/16 04:20 AM |
| 0 | When a girl says "I don't know what I want" what does that mean?Pretty fucking clear that she's not into you. She might not know what she wants, but when she tells you that, she's being pretty straight about what she doesn't want. | /r/seduction | 12/01/16 11:37 PM |
| 3 | Which attractive qualities in women are very underrated?But the real question is, would you trade her for a really sexy girl who smelled bad? | /r/seduction | 12/01/16 11:34 PM |
| 5 | Which attractive qualities in women are very underrated?I know exactly what you mean, it's sort of hard to describe it, but you know it when you hear it. I used to date a woman like this, she wasn't very physically attractive but I was crazy about her because of her voice. It was really weird. | /r/seduction | 12/01/16 10:29 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys do it?I've been in a similar situation as you are for much of my life, and I'm just now starting to break out of it. I started last year by focusing on one thing - fitness. I made some small but consistent changes to my diet, and forced myself to go to the gym 3 times a week, even if I felt like shit. It sucked for a while.. and then after around a month, it became habit. It's easy now. I work out and track my calories like it's just part of my day. I don't even think about it any more. I'm getting ri… | /r/seduction | 12/01/16 09:28 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys do it?How are your shits? Do you shit water, or do you even shit at all? | /r/seduction | 12/01/16 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Work confidence or self-esteem first?Both. Self-esteem builds confidence. They aren't things you choose to work on. You don't sit down and go "I'm going to make myself more confident". Both of these things are the end result of taking action and taking risks in life. | /r/seduction | 12/01/16 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Has disappearing ever worked for you guys?It really depends on the situation. If the girl is attention seeking, but just playing games and hard-to-get and has some interest in you, disappearing will usually work and she will start messaging you again for attention. But this doesn't really work in the sense that she will suddenly beg you to fuck her, she just wants your attention again. Bad news is, if she rarely responds and doesn't initiate conversation, chances are she's just not interested in you. In my experience, disappearing almos… | /r/seduction | 12/01/16 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Why can unattractive men get girls without being attractive but unattractive women can't really get attractive men?No reason to feel bad, it's a result of evolution and it's just how things are. All men have preferences, but the vast majority of men will find the same things attractive in a women. It's baked into us from birth. I'll put it this way though, unattractive women do far better than unattractive men, generally speaking. | /r/seduction | 10/01/16 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Why can unattractive men get girls without being attractive but unattractive women can't really get attractive men?Men are more attracted to physical beauty, women are more attracted to status, wealth, personality and confidence. Attractive men who lack confidence rarely land hot women. I know this because I'm one of them. The thing about male attraction is if you're even slightly above average, you've passed the 'looks' threshold for probably 90% of women. A less than average looking guy (especially guys who don't groom well and dress sloppy) is going to struggle to get women regardless of confidence. | /r/seduction | 09/01/16 09:08 PM |
| 1 | how NoFap Can make you have more success with women and in lifeI also read that people that don't cum regularly have a higher risk of prostate cancer. Well, it's more than men who ejaculate regularly might lower their prostate cancer risk, most guys don't have to worry about that until their 60's. | /r/seduction | 09/01/16 09:04 PM |
| 1 | What are reasons girls flake even after everything goes right?Could be literally anything, and it's a complete waste of your time to try and figure it out. Shit like this happens to me all the time. Always keep your expectations at zero until you are actually penetrating her, then it's okay to get your hopes up. | /r/seduction | 09/01/16 09:01 PM |
| 1 | What do you smell like/suggest others smell like?I've tried dozens of deodorants and scents. I personally find most cologne to be a bit too overpowering, and like to rely on designer deodorant for most of my scent. It's much more subtle and usually lasts the whole day. My personal favorites are the Lacoste ones (L!VE and Essential). They run around $20/stick, but they usually last me a couple months. Well worth the price. I've had dozens of random complements on these. If you can afford it, Gucci Guilty deodorants are fantastic as well. | /r/seduction | 06/01/16 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Just broke up with gf.. It's unreal how differently things changeI've visited trp with an open mind and I can't do it. Many guys there have a ridiculous superiority complex, and seem to consider women to be lesser than them, think of them as fuckable objects and nothing more. I suppose if your only goal is to get laid without drama, trp would be good for you, but most people in /r/seduction are looking for more of a connection with women. It's far, far more fulfilling having a strong emotional connection with a few woman than it is to have meaningless sex wit… | /r/seduction | 06/01/16 04:25 PM |
| 4 | Girls reject meTrue confidence isn't something you can muster with conscious effort, or anything that you can fake. You could be the best actor in the world and eventually, something in your behavior or body language would give away the fact that you aren't really confident. Models will explain things, but getting confident can take time. I only wish I had Models when I was your age. I'm 34 and have just learned this shit recently, so consider yourself lucky you've got such a good resource available at your ag… | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 07:14 PM |
| 15 | Had a great interaction, she didn't answer my call. Where did I go wrong?I'm going to hit on your friend for a few minutes Dude, nice. You didn't do anything wrong. Maybe she's busy or out of town? Maybe she changed her mind about you. Who knows. You might still hear from her, but sometimes things just go to shit for no reason. Move on and keep doin' your thing. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Girls reject meI can't get why girls reject me I guess it's my lack of confidence and shyness There's your answer there, dude. You lack confidence and all you do is think about failing. Your fear of failure is ruining your interaction with women, and you're just shooting yourself in the foot over and over. If you haven't already, read Models by Mark Manson. That should give you all the answers you need. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Need help implementing Mark Manson's ModelsI was in a heartbroken overcompensating pick up artist fake alpha state when I read it Dude, so was I. This book came so highly recommended, I picked it up expecting to get some new tips on how to alpha-douchebag my way into women's panties, because (surprise) nothing I was doing was working. It was such a sobering read that brought me back down to reality again. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 06:10 PM |
| 1 | [21M] I have most other areas of my life in check, but feel completely undateable due to my appearance. What is so wrong?As everyone else here is telling you, you aren't a bad looking dude. Unless you're missing the lower half of your body, there's nothing obviously wrong with how you look based on your photo. I would look more closely at things like body language and posture. How are you approaching women? You might be giving off creepy vibes without knowing it. There could be a bunch of different things wrong. You really gotta remember that looks aren't that important to women. I learned this the hard way after … | /r/seduction | 29/12/15 11:36 PM |
| 4 | Approached a girl while she was with friends during the day. What's your excuse?My first approach was a girl sitting next to me at the doctor's office. And two words into my icebreaker, she got called up to see the doctor. It wouldn't have been so bad if there wasn't a room full of bored people who saw the whole thing. Feels good though, don't it? I'm having way more fun failing miserably than I was doing fucking nothing. | /r/seduction | 29/12/15 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Any guys terrified of accidental pregnancy?You know, I used to balk at this notion, but as I get older and more 'experienced' (I use that term loosely as I still have a very long way to go) I am starting to come around to it. I would love to be able to save sex until I'm in a committed relationship. It's just unfortunate that the majority of women don't feel the same. It fucking sucks to date a women I really like and take things slowly, only to learn that she's banging other dudes that she's dating. It's a shitty feeling. And the only w… | /r/seduction | 28/12/15 05:27 PM |
| 9 | Any guys terrified of accidental pregnancy?I.e no kids for 3-5 more years and therefore they would want an abortion too Good plan, but don't ever rely on this. It's amazing how quickly a woman's mind can change when she actually gets pregnant, and all her female friends start telling her all the reasons why she should have a kid. | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 10:01 PM |
| 12 | Any guys terrified of accidental pregnancy?What does scare me is sabotage. Yeah.. this is something a lot of guys don't even consider, and I'm willing to bet it accounts for a lot of unintended pregnancies. There are a few things I do to minimize the risk of this. I ALWAYS use my own condoms, and I feel the package with my fingernail to make sure there aren't any pin-holes in it. Second, if I'm at her house, I will either tie the used condom and bring it home with me for disposal, or I will rinse it out with some hot water and a little h… | /r/seduction | 26/12/15 09:58 PM |
| 1 | "Models" has given me clarity with an ex-girlfriend. Has it given you insight with an ex too?Did you also read models? Did you find no more mr nice guy was as helpful? | /r/seduction | 17/11/15 05:42 PM |
| 1 | The more I hear to be confident, the less confident I get...Do you have any tips on doing this? Any specific behaviors you would suggest to focus on? This is something I've been trying to get better at. | /r/seduction | 08/11/15 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Do you think Tinder is worth it?Tinder is probably worth a try for anyone, as long as you don't take it too seriously. Don't even expect to get a date out of it, just think of it as a way to practice your texting game. I'm a fairly good looking man, probably a solid 7.5 or 8/10, and I had a really tough time getting women to actually meet with me. I got a ton of matches and talked to a lot of women, but it's really hard to keep their attention and actually get them to follow through with meeting you. | /r/seduction | 16/09/15 04:43 PM |
| 8 | Why do I care what other people think about me?Read this: http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/06/taming-mammoth-let-peoples-opinions-run-life.html | /r/seduction | 10/09/15 07:01 PM |
| 2 | I get girls but I have no friends?This probably isn't the best sub for this, but the fact that people in university bully you tells me that there's something major 'wrong' with you, or with the way you act. You must have some idea of why they are bullying you. What do they pick on you for? This is really unusual. I was a fat nerd with zero social skills in uni, and nobody ever picked on me. There must be some obvious reason for this. | /r/seduction | 10/09/15 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Things were not supposed to go this way... (Now I am falling for her. What should I do?)You gave it a shot and she quite clearly rejected you. This means you need to move on. She seems like the type who likes the attention of guys chasing her. Don't give her that attention and validation. Don't ignore her or be rude to her, but don't show any interest any more. If you keep pursuing and trying different things while getting repeatedly rejected, you're going to end up with oneitis, which is a bad thing to have when you are forced to see someone regularly. | /r/seduction | 09/09/15 11:19 PM |
| 1 | What are some hobbies you guys have?I have zero interest in the franchise or TV show whatsoever, but the models are incredibly enjoyable if you're into very detailed / intricate work. I love it as therapeutic 'me' time, where I'm doing something somewhat creative and have something cool to show for it. I always work on them while watching TV. I just bought this guy. They are cheap too (usually less than $20) and all snap-together, so you don't need special tools or glue. I enjoy meticulously sanding / cleaning pieces, then doing a… | /r/seduction | 09/09/15 10:18 PM |
| 19 | What are some hobbies you guys have?Mountain biking, archery, rock climbing, weight lifting, guitar, music production, philosophy. Lately I've gotten into Gundam model kits which are the fucking coolest things ever. I proudly display them in my living room and don't ever hide them when I have a woman over. | /r/seduction | 09/09/15 06:57 PM |
| 43 | [deleted by user]You're right, it's not healthy. You need to have other shit going on in your life. Hobbies, goals, passions, etc. You should always be looking for ways to improve yourself and to get the things you want out of life. Your #1 priority should ALWAYS be yourself. If you need intimacy with another person to feel good about yourself, then you need to work on your confidence and work on loving yourself more than anything else on earth. | /r/seduction | 06/09/15 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Introvert's Take on SeductionI'm an introvert and am learning how powerfully sexy it can be to women. I imagine someone like Don Draper from Mad Men. He speaks slowly, deliberately, and with balls. He's mysterious as hell, a little intimidating, doesn't show a lot of emotion, but everybody wants to fuck him. This is the type of person I aim to be like. I used to always force myself to be extroverted and energetic / aggressive, which sometimes works, but I more want to be true to myself and be who I am. I think an extremely … | /r/seduction | 06/09/15 06:37 PM |
| 7 | If any ex-girlfriend wants to "catch up" what does that mean?Oh god she's preggers, fucking run! Mexico is your new home now! | /r/seduction | 02/09/15 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever chosen to be in the friend zone?Friend zone is not the same as being friends with a female. Friend zone means you want to be with a woman but she doesn't reciprocate and just wants to be friends with you. Friendship is a mutual want to be friends with one another. Fuck yes, have female friends. Lots of them. I've been introduced to many women through female friends. | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 07:14 PM |
| 15 | Struggling to get the second dateWhen you meet a woman on tinder/okc, you need to realize she's almost certainly going to have a lot of other suitors and is probably dating other men. She's probably used going on very average 'pleasant' dates, and is bored out of her fucking mind with them. I'm guessing you're in that category of providing 'pleasant' dates. You're nice, courteous, polite, offer good conversation, but you aren't anything special. You're not showing her that you're different from the other guys, and she is desper… | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 06:41 PM |
| 1 | What you did to become from most boring to most interesting person?I did nothing but learn how to be better at conversation. Sell yourself. Sound passionate about who you are and what you do. You NEED to have some things you're actually passionate about. Even if it's sorta nerdy. I just had a date tonight and talked about how I build Gundam models. We kissed and are seeing each other again tomorrow night. Fucking OWN YOUR SHIT. Here's an example of being boring: Her: So what do you do for work? Me: Oh.. I'm a ninja astronaut brain surgeon.. and yeah. It's fun..… | /r/seduction | 29/08/15 12:34 AM |
| 3 | What kind of body language should I look for if I think a girl likes me?This is the correct answer. Always assume a woman is interested in you, or has the potential to be, unless she shows clear signs that she isn't. Things like fidgeting, looking at her watch / phone constantly, looking towards the exit, not asking you questions, pointing her feet towards the exit. These are pretty universal and obvious signs. Even if she's throwing out these not-interested signs, don't give up. I like to go for broke in these situations. Start saying some ridiculous or challenging… | /r/seduction | 29/08/15 12:20 AM |
| 5 | Need advice on how to gain confidence!You're completely right, regret is a massive confidence killer. Regret is that shitty feeling you get when you don't feel like you'r capable of handling something. Don't do that. Remember, regret is ALWAYS worse than rejection. You can be rejected and still feel awesome about yourself because you fucking went for it. | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Sedditors! I met this girl on tinder few months ago and yesterday i asked her out. I'm nervous !It's cool man, everyone has got to start somewhere. You might not be trying to get laid per say, but you are romantically interested in her. Especially during the early courting process, women generally do not respond well to anything that's clingy or needy. Women want a man who is confident and does not need a woman's affection to feel good about himself and what he's doing in his life. I suggest you read the book Models by Mark Manson as a good starting point to learning these types of princip… | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 10:48 PM |
| 15 | Need advice on how to gain confidence!I suggest you slowly wean yourself into it. Start out by making solid eye contact with attractive women. When they look at you, don't break eye contact until they do. When you're comfortable with doing this, smile at them after you've made eye contact. It seems simple, but this is a huge display of confidence, and you might even get a woman's attention enough for her to say hi to you. After you're good with that, start saying some shit. Nothing wrong with "hi, how's your day going?" or "do you k… | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Sedditors! I met this girl on tinder few months ago and yesterday i asked her out. I'm nervous !Dude you need to chill the fuck out. You're obviously putting this woman up on a pedestal by saying things like shes the prettiest girl you ever met, and wanting to give her a special moment to cherish. Also, NEVER try to put a label on things by saying something like "so is this a date?". It comes off as needy and desperate. Don't say more things like that for the love of god. You got her to agree to see you, so that's awesome. Conversation can stop there, unless you need to firm up plans of wh… | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 10:25 PM |
| 1 | How many times did you get rejected before you stopped caring?I'm tall, attractive, dress well and have a solid group of friends and am in a great career. I'm a fairly fucking impressive man objectively. But I have zero game. I come off as awkward and under confident when dating attractive women. And I'm getting my ass handed to me. You seem to live in a black or white world there. Nobody is saying PUA is a guaranteed thing for every man. Of course you need to have decent looks and status in order to be extremely successful and banging 10/10's. But there's… | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Seddit a tip on how to not give a fuck!Eating an apple might make you appear like you don't give a fuck, but it doesn't do much to actually make you not give a fuck. And apples give me terrible gas and make me have to poop. And not pooping myself is something I really give a fuck about. Little tricks like this don't work long-term. Not giving a fuck means you care about what's important, not stupid shit that we have convinced are important things, like dating and being successful with women. If you're actually interested in this mind… | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 05:48 PM |
| 2 | How do you all keep busy?Primarily stoicism, though I'm interested in learning about others as well. Being stoic has a lot of practical applications in modern life, and has really helped me tremendously in everything I do, especially dating. It helps a lot of with the "I don't give a fuck" aspect of things, and has really helped me to handle rejection. It really puts life into perspective. If you're interested, I suggest you start out with the book "Stoicism and the Art of Happiness". It gives you the foundations that y… | /r/seduction | 23/08/15 04:37 PM |
| 3 | Should I tell potential hookups/dates that I have depression?No. Unfortunately depression is still very stigmatized in society, so chances are it will come off as a very unattractive quality. Are you treating your depression or seeking counselling? I would suggest you hold off on dating until you've got it under control. It's going to be a really big barrier in being successful with women. | /r/seduction | 23/08/15 02:16 AM |
| 3 | How do you all keep busy?Every man needs something he's passionate about. Ideally it's gonna be something you do socially with other people, but at the very least it needs to be something. A person with zero hobbies or interests is boring as hell and probably isn't getting laid. I play guitar, build models, dabble in music production (EDM), read, study some philosophy, getting into painting. You always need to be willing to try new things. I thought I would never in a million years be interested in something like philos… | /r/seduction | 23/08/15 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Tips on how to fill out an okcupid profile?Dude, I owe you. I switched up my profile to roughly match what you outlined here.. I went from having one or two messages a week to having FIVE women message me in one day. Over the course of the week I've had about twenty women messaging me. It's absolutely insane how much attention this has gotten me. Thanks again, seriously. This has helped tremendously. | /r/seduction | 22/08/15 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Going for broke and polarizing the hell out of a non-receptive girl. Am I doing this right?She texted me back (small talk) but that doesn't make me any less rejected. She's trying to get my attention and affection. I'm deleting her number and moving on.. And you're damn right I need to re-read models. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 21/08/15 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Going for broke and polarizing the hell out of a non-receptive girl. Am I doing this right?Yeah.. Sort of a sobering look at what I've been doing here. I give friends shit for doing this, and yet I've been doing it myself out of desperation and frustration. I'm trying to show her I don't care and don't need her... and doing that by saying I want to be with her and need her. And being a dick about it too. She texted me back like nothing happened, normal small talk. I'm realizing that trying to 'play' someone who has already rejected me is pathetic, and just makes me feel like shit. It'… | /r/seduction | 21/08/15 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Going for broke and polarizing the hell out of a non-receptive girl. Am I doing this right?Maybe I didn't include enough context here.. I've asked her out several times, with plenty of notice. She's agrees, but then backs out at the last minute. Before this conversation, she told me she was doing nothing, but then suddenly had plans when I asked her out. But you're completely fucking right, and I missed the main point of Models. She's rejected me already (though is leading me on with sexting and dirty pictures), and I'm trying desperately to make something happen with her. That's need… | /r/seduction | 21/08/15 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Going for broke and polarizing the hell out of a non-receptive girl. Am I doing this right?Well I fucked up. I think I need to read it again.. a couple more times. I'm glad to hear, because this isn't fucking working, and I feel like a tool acting like this. | /r/seduction | 21/08/15 07:45 PM |
| 1 | 610 cold approaches. Part 1 : A life Changing JourneyCurious, how did you go about learning how to play piano? I dabble in electronic music production but have never really gotten into it solidly. I feel if I had stronger piano skills with some basic music theory, I would do a lot better. | /r/seduction | 20/08/15 07:33 PM |
| 1 | *Repost* Does height matter?Yes, it matters. Just like how dozens of other physical qualities matter. What's important to realize is that height is not all that matters. Height is one of the more important things to women, so shorter men need to make sure they are paying attention to the things that they can actually control. Make sure you're hitting the gym and dressing as well as you are able. Make sure you've got a rockin' hair style, stand fucking tall and confidently, hold your head up, and look women straight in the … | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 03:41 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I want you to be my motivational speaker. | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Having confidence problems? Look at yourself objectively and make sure you've got style.I actually tried these a few months ago and they didn't work at all for me, the thighs were too baggy and looked worse than the straight jeans. I might try them again though because a lot of guys like them. | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Having confidence problems? Look at yourself objectively and make sure you've got style.Exactly! And to be clear, I am far from a fashion aficionado. I just focus on the basics and make sure I do them really well. The majority of women won't care what brands you are wearing, as long as you look good in the clothes that you're wearing. If you're wearing something that doesn't fit you, women notice this immediately, and it's a massive turn-off. There's really no option here. If you look stupid in your clothes, you're not going to get anywhere. No matter how much game you have. | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Having confidence problems? Look at yourself objectively and make sure you've got style.You can absolutely achieve a great look on a budget. If you're not really sure of the style you're going for, just focus on the basics. Put together the essentials for one really good outfit, and work from there. The most basic outfit to start out with is shoes, jeans, t-shirt and any accessories (belt, watch, etc.). If you want to keep cheap, go for some low-top vans for shoes, some dark Levi's (straight fit, stay away from boot cuts) and a simple gap t-shirt. Doesn't sound very remarkable, but… | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Tinder-Used Auto-liker-nearly no matchesHonestly, I wouldn't even bother with Tinder. I'm a fairly good looking dude and get plenty of matches, but rarely have conversations that last more than a couple minutes. I've only had a handful of dates result from the dozens of matches I've had, and even those took a LOT of work. Even moderately attractive women get a ridiculous amount of matches on there, so they can be as picky as they like. If you match, it doesn't mean shit, because she's getting dozens of matches all the time. You need t… | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 07:01 PM |
| 4 | Cannot overcome Anxiety - no confidence at allI have approach anxiety also. Have you read Mark Manson's Models yet? If not, do it. Mark suggests slow exposure is the best way to get used to things that scare the shit out of you. Start out by approaching a woman and asking her the time, or something else 'innocent' depending on the context. If you're getting food, ask if she knows what's good here. If you're at a book store, ask if she could recommend a book in the current section. If you're trying on sunglasses, ask a woman how she thinks t… | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Tips on how to fill out an okcupid profile?Shit, I LOVE this! Mind if I steal some of it? | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Is models designed to get a girlfriend or to get laid?Unfortunately no, I am solidly in the Models camp and don't bother with the other PUA techniques. I would read through the sidebar, since it's going to contain pretty much everything you need to get started. | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Is models designed to get a girlfriend or to get laid?It's sort of for both, depending on what you're looking for. It's more a quality over quantity thing, which will help you get laid or into a relationship with higher quality women. it will also help you establish a stronger connection with women you meet, which leads to much more fulfilling sex or relationships. If you're looking to get laid by as many women as possible, this book is not for you. If you are new to PUA, this book will help tremendously overall with improving yourself and your int… | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 08:47 PM |
| 1 | 30 years of lonelinessI hate myself This is a huge part of the problem, if not the core reason. Women don't want men who hate themselves. There are very strong evolutionary reasons for this. You should fucking love yourself more than anyone else on this planet, even if you end up being rejected by every single woman on the planet and die a virgin. You've got some fundamental issues you need to deal with before you can be successful at dating. | /r/seduction | 16/08/15 04:04 AM |
| 2 | My wife and I are getting divorced. I'm a 29 year old, 5'4" guy who doesn't have any real dating, or seduction experience. Is all hope lost, or can I still be a PUA?Yeah, a lot of people avoid lifting weights in fear of becoming too bulky. Being a big bulky muscular dude doesn't happen by accident. Most of those guys use gear, or they have been at it for 5+ years. | /r/seduction | 13/08/15 03:39 PM |
| 2 | My wife and I are getting divorced. I'm a 29 year old, 5'4" guy who doesn't have any real dating, or seduction experience. Is all hope lost, or can I still be a PUA?I'm not the best example, because when I started I had quite a bit of body fat and was benefiting from noob gains, so I was able to simultaneously lose fat and put on a lot of muscle. However, now I'm at the point where my body fat is too low and longer sustains muscle growth, so my gains are basically at a standstill while I keep cutting. It's important to only eat at a slight deficit (200-300 calories under TDEE) so that you limit muscle loss due to catabolism, even though your fat loss will b… | /r/seduction | 13/08/15 03:32 PM |
| 6 | My wife and I are getting divorced. I'm a 29 year old, 5'4" guy who doesn't have any real dating, or seduction experience. Is all hope lost, or can I still be a PUA?Six packs are 100% a result of diet. You need to cut your body fat down to around 10-12% before you start seeing any definition. If you're sitting higher than that, you won't see your abs no matter how many crunches you do. If you're looking to cut fat, I would recommend looking into Intermittent Fasting (IF). You can find lots of info at /r/leangains Contrary to myth, getting your bodyfat that low doesn't require starving yourself or only eating super clean. I did it at a very slight caloric de… | /r/seduction | 13/08/15 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Just finished Models and realized I need to get my shit together. Should I completely forget about dating for now?No worries, not at all. I totally agree with you, I think my biggest problem at the moment is I'm not exposing myself to women enough, and doing it through mediums like Tinder are absolutely not ideal. Still some confidence issues I need to figure out, but I'm on my way. Thanks for your response. | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Looks Definitely Do Matter. Stop Blaming Only Your Game For Lack of Success.I think the reason so many people get confused about the importance of physical attraction (getting into shape, dressing well, presenting yourself well, etc) is because they miss a really fundamental aspect of it, which is the reason why they're presenting themselves the way they do. Imagine a guy who has a very low opinion of himself, low self-esteem and not much going on in his life. He gets fed up with striking out with women, so he goes and works out, buys great new clothes, a new hairstyle … | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Just finished Models and realized I need to get my shit together. Should I completely forget about dating for now?Okay, "wicked shape" is relative, since a year ago I was out of shape and flabby. I still have a ways to go, but have my body fat down low enough to see some really decent definition. I think in another 3-4 months I'll be at the point where I'm in actual wicked shape. | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 07:30 PM |
| 5 | Just finished Models and realized I need to get my shit together. Should I completely forget about dating for now?Okay.. I think I needed that kick in the balls.. edit: or should I say kick in the pokeballs ;) | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 07:24 PM |
| 29 | My wife and I are getting divorced. I'm a 29 year old, 5'4" guy who doesn't have any real dating, or seduction experience. Is all hope lost, or can I still be a PUA?The vast majority of men have at least one physical quality that hurts them in the looks department. What you need to remember is that this doesn't define you, doesn't mean you're unattractive overall, and absolutely doesn't mean that you can't have beautiful women. Accept that it's reality and that you can't change it, and focus on things that you can change. One benefit that shorter guys have is they generally look better with muscles. If you aren't already working out, do it. I am almost 34 a… | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Just finished Models and realized I need to get my shit together. Should I completely forget about dating for now?Thanks man, best of luck to you too! I'm glad to hear that Models is helping other men see the light also. I've read dozens of self-help books and nothing has come close to affecting me as much as Models did. | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Just finished Models and realized I need to get my shit together. Should I completely forget about dating for now?I stopped worrying about what I could do to make myself attractive and instead I've tried to become my own best friend I fucking love this. My whole life up to this point has been "what changes should I make in my life to make myself more attractive to women" where it should be "what changes should I make to make myself a better person and to become happier and love myself". Your mom sounds cool too. Great post, thank you! | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Just finished Models and realized I need to get my shit together. Should I completely forget about dating for now?This is a really good response, thank you. You're right, there's no problem with approaching women innocently and striking up a conversation just to get used to being vulnerable. That's still something I need to work on. I'm incredibly disheartened.. I might take a few weeks or a month off just to get my life back on track. I'm definitely continuing to get into shape and buying new clothes. It's often underestimated how much a new wardrobe can help with overall confidence. | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 06:39 PM |
| 1 | How do I send a good first message on online dating?Find a single thing to talk about, either in the body of their profile or in one of their pictures. Say something interesting or humorous about it. Then end with an invitation to get coffee some time. Don't make it any longer than a few shorts sentences. Remember, most attractive women get dozens of messages every day, and she doesn't want to read through a novel from you. I always ask women out on the first message and it works really well for me. It shows you're confident and want to meet them… | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Should I 'own' nerdy things, or try to hide them from women?Love this.. I hid all my self-help books in a box and made sure women don't see them. Why the fuck do I do that? I'm going to take them all out tonight. | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 03:26 PM |
| 7 | Should I 'own' nerdy things, or try to hide them from women?Oh.. I need to go shave a thing completely unrelated to your comment.. | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 01:05 AM |
| 5 | 50 Takeaways from ModelsMeditation gets you out of your head and into the now. What does that mean though? I find it helps to keep myself calm and centered, and also helps tremendously when I'm interacting with people, especially women. When I talk to a new woman, my mind is going a mile a minute, worrying about shit, not listening to her, over-thinking what to say, reading into things she says, making sure my posture is correct, trying to read her body language, etc. It's impossible to act natural like that. Meditatio… | /r/seduction | 10/08/15 11:35 PM |
| 1 | 50 Takeaways from ModelsOP, did you find that reading Models for a 2nd and 3rd time was worth it? Did you pick up quite a bit more each subsequent read through? | /r/seduction | 10/08/15 11:31 PM |
| 6 | 50 Takeaways from ModelsI've just finished this book, and I've basically done a complete 180 in my mindset about myself and dating. Just reading this book and not even applying anything has made me feel much more confident and focused on what I want, and much more able to handle rejection. This is an awesome list, I was sort of pissed I didn't take notes while reading it, but this is exactly what I needed. Thanks a ton. | /r/seduction | 09/08/15 06:32 PM |
| 29 | 50 Takeaways from ModelsEven if it's not an approach, I sort of agree, this one is weird. I have been using more of a contextual thing. If you're downtown, ask for directions. If you're at a pub/restaurant, ask if they know what's good. If you're at the gym, ask how long they will be on that machine. Asking someone for the time when everyone has a smartphone and usually there are clocks everywhere is just weird. | /r/seduction | 09/08/15 06:31 PM |
| 2 | What is the best way to learn conversation with girls?So something I've learned.. Good conversation has 90% to do with how comfortable and confident you are, and maybe 10% to do with coming up with interesting and clever things to say. Do you have some friends you are really confident and comfortable around? Notice how well conversation flows, how you can come up with interesting insights and remain interesting? It's because you're not trying to impress these people. Work on the confidence thing with women. Ironically, when you stop worrying about … | /r/seduction | 08/08/15 03:15 AM |
| 3 | How do rich guys get a lot of hot girls?What are you basing this observation on? This is for the most part not true. The only exception would be, they may get more women who are extremely superficial and shallow, but even that is a bit of a stretch from what I've seen. I've known several rich men who can't get a date to save their lives. One of them goes to bars, flashes his Rolex, wears thousand dollar suits, brags to women about his Mercedes, expensive imported African hardwood floors in his lavish downtown condo, and gets shot down… | /r/seduction | 06/08/15 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Fighting the Fear of PregnancyThere were some studies done on pre-cum and it was shown to not contain any viable sperm. In the instances where sperm was found in pre-cum, it was picked up from a previous ejaculation. This is why it's important to urinate and wash your junk after you have sex if you're planning to go again. | /r/seduction | 06/08/15 01:47 AM |
| 1 | What Can I Do To Improve My Appearance? (Pictures Included)Nothing at all wrong with how you look. You're definitely average (5-6/10) but not unattractive or ugly by any means. Your eyebrows look like they could use a little taming and thinning out. Also, is this how your hair looks when you go out? It looks messy / oily, and not in a good way. It's hard to say what hair style would suit you more, but I would suggest letting it grow out, then spend some good money on a skilled stylist and ask them to do what they think looks best for your head and face … | /r/seduction | 06/08/15 12:59 AM |
| 2 | Fighting the Fear of PregnancyI have the same fear as well, while it's unlikely, it's always a possibility. I use this as a reason to only go after higher quality women, and not waste my time on women who I couldn't stand having as a mother to my kid if the unspeakable were to happen. I don't lower my standards just to get sex any more. Often it means I go without sex for a long time; that's fine with me. I used to withdrawal all the time, even without condom use. It's not the smartest birth control method, but it works, arg… | /r/seduction | 06/08/15 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Resort GameIt really depends on the type of resort you're going to, but if it's an 18+ one, good chance there will be a lot of single women there. I've been to resorts twice in my life. Both times I had ZERO game whatsoever, and both times I was approached by several women looking to hook up. Most of them were older women and married, but I was also approached by some younger women who were there on their own. I couldn't believe how easy it was. In my experience, resorts are the easiest place to pick up wo… | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Resort GameUmm why target females who are there with their parents? Better to target women who are clearly there with a group of friends. It's going to be much more difficult to pick up someone who's there with her family. | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 03:22 PM |
| 1 | I want to improve my looksYou need to change your hair style, shave your beard thing, and get better glasses or wear contacts. But before you even think of any of that, you NEED to lose weight. It's going to be very difficult for you to have any success with women while being overweight. Women often see overweight men as lacking discipline and lacking respect for their own bodies. Even if you have high confidence, you're making things way harder on yourself with this. Go over to /r/fitness and read everything on the side… | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 12:53 AM |
| -1 | Could an average guy pick up supermodels?Providing she's single and willing to date men, absolutely. An average man with superhuman level confidence and charisma could pick up basically any woman he wants if he says the right things. | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 12:36 AM |
| 2 | Uphill battle against looks.The whole body type thing (endo, meso, ecto) has been debunked. It's bullshit. Just because you're skinny right now doesn't mean you can't become ripped. Genetics only play a role in how quickly you build muscle and the upper limit of how muscular you can get (like after 10 years of dedicated body building). Don't even think about it. Go to /r/fitness and learn how to do it right. You will get impressive results. Also just to add, If you're thinking of getting fit just to attract women, it's pro… | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 12:19 AM |
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