Need a little help, possible ED issue?

PinkHairLover · 2016-03-09T12:21:01+00:00

Don't worry about it, it took me quite some time to find out it's trust, if I don't trust the woman, my dong won't work, the more i get to know her the better it gets. One night stands and such, don't work for me. Relax, mess around and enjoy the time, the rest will follow, promised.

mlgja · 2016-03-09T14:58:49+00:00

It's well documented that there's a strong link between depression/anxiety issues and all sorts of sexual dysfunctions.

I'm very prone to anxiety myself and I had the same issue with my first gf, it was driving me nuts. After a few weeks, I got a prescription for a few viagra pills which was enough to overcome the performance anxiety and then I never had any issues with her.

Since the chick you're seeing seems cool and understanding, the next few times you get intimate with her you could agree that you will only make out, and intercourse is off the table. It's hard to stick to it, but this takes a lot of pressure off your shoulders. I've done this a few times and it's very enjoyable, you'll both get turned on like crazy. More details about this approach: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensate_focusing

Psychocist · 2016-03-09T23:15:52+00:00

I had a serious problem with this with my first girlfriend, the first time having regular sex. You'll worry, but with experience you'll stop worrying. You'll find out even if you do worry and your man isn't standing to attention, he will eventually when you chill out.

when I say I dont know whats going

Instead, just say something like "don't worry about him, he'll wake up".. and carry on doing whatever turns you on. Because ya know what? He will wake up.

Women are very understanding of this! Especially if you've already eaten her out!

If it becomes a persistent problem, get some viagra. That will give you complete confidence in your erection and you'll quickly shake the pattern and not need it for long. However, when you stop worrying about this, you'll start worrying about something else.. is your penis big enough, are you lasting long enough, are you being dominant enough? Tackle the source of the problem - you feel sexually inferior/anxious for some reason. Find out why and fix it.

thepeanutbutterman · 2016-03-09T18:22:59+00:00

A lot of people on here saying it's all mental without knowing the necessary details (although, I also suspect it is). Can you get it up other times (masturbation, etc)? If so, can you get it up on alcohol and meds?

If the answer is yes to both of those, then it's almost certainly psychological. I've dealt with it by focusing on being present in the moment and silencing the voice in my head. Since you have anxiety, I would hope that you've developed (or are developing) these types of skills already. If not, you really should work on self hypnosis and meditation.

Here is a decent article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200811/the-art-now-six-steps-living-in-the-moment

I also really like Eckhart Tolle (The Power of Now, A New Earth).

jefffffffff · 2016-03-09T18:28:29+00:00

I've fucked 8 girls in the last 6 months after u finally started day game and Tinder. The last girl was a legit 9/10 and my dick was broken. Like it wouldn't work. Took me 20 min to get hard. Point is it happens allll the time. Don't be discouraged you just need to be exposed to it more. The more you do it the easier it is to get boners and keep them.

ALSO.. Kegles. Google it. And do them. I've noticed it's easier to keep my boners after I started doing them every day 3 months ago.

Big_TX · 2016-03-09T21:02:05+00:00

Don't jack off before. Doing cardio and glute exercise increases lebedo a lot. You can also take horny goat weed. I hear that works very well.

redrogue12 · 2016-03-09T12:42:46+00:00

Also stop watching porn. You are a man and you fuck girls now.

SmoothPrimal · 2016-03-09T09:19:46+00:00

Yeah its mental ED. I've had that during the first few times I've gotten laid with a random chick.

You just need to make that switch from "hey this could be happening I better make something happen," to "Hey this is totally happening, I'm just going to shut the fuck up and enjoy it."

Focus more on what you like about her. I like looking at the girl's lips making out with her and then looking at her again admiring how pretty she is, getting really into admiring her. You just get into the mood of focusing on her instead of yourself which takes the edge off. This makes you more relaxed and focus more on what feels good instead of what you could be doing wrong.

pyr0phelia · 2016-03-09T12:33:33+00:00

100% mental ED. At my first sex party I had 3 girls competing with each other to see who could get me up, the harder they tried the worse it got. I never did get it up that night. If you still think it might be related to the medication take 2 and go watch your favorite porn. If you can get it up its not the meds.

BecomingBetterMen · 2016-03-09T14:24:21+00:00

Mental.

Although it should be noted, drinking + any meds often will fuck with that, too.

Title	Need a little help, possible ED issue?
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Date	March 9, 2016 8:08 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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