Alright, so this is my situation. I'm 41M , recently (5 weeks ago) separated after a 12 year long relationship and have a young kid.

My experience so far, and not trying to "humble brag" but getting laid is super easy for me, been at a dozen of dates last weeks and over half ended in ONS. Im a bit surprised coz I don't consider myself very good looking or anything but seems being a single dad thats financially well off and a surfer is a 'winning combo' for single women in their 30s 🤷‍♂️

As much as it did boost my ego a little bit I don't find myself in a happy place right now. Not sure what to do next and how to step it up further or evolve as a single guy..

First of all the the ONS sex has been pretty lame to be honest , some better than others but non of them have been 'amazing' good .. feel like there is so much focus on just penetration and getting it done. Its probably my own mental blockage that doesn't allow me to experiment to the same degree as I would in a relationship. So how do I have better sex with new partners... ? do i need to introduce some more kinky stuff..

Does anyone here actually find happiness in just dating and sex? Also started to get paranoid about pregnancy now and I do consider a vasectomy (or just improve my condom useage that has been so so..)

I know this forum is mostly for the pickup phase .. but where is the knowledge and discussion of what comes next and how to improve your single life in general.. I have plenty friends but all are married and in relationships which kinda sucks now coz no one to talk about this too.