I'm ashamed and blocking myself when someone is listening close to my seduction attempt

MikepGrey · 2019-12-03T07:52:25+00:00

Try to care less and have more fun... like stand in front of the mirror before you go out and repeat "just going to have fun, I'm not getting laid" once you can accept that the pressure is off and you can chat and flirt and have fun.

for several nights as you pull in female friends, then close the deal as you are now seen having fun talking to lots of chicks which makes more chicks want you and it will just happen naturally.

Just remember you have pockets full of fuck and wont give one, but they can earn one : )

ramses_55 · 2019-12-03T10:09:42+00:00

The people listening are just bored out of their life. Think about it like this: you are giving them an interesting conversation to listen to during their boring ass day

2019-12-03T07:48:25+00:00

I feel same way as you

dickstellar · 2019-12-03T12:32:25+00:00

Imagine if you’re just sitting having a coffee and some guy starts chatting up the girl next to you. It’s curiosity more than anything. They may be judging you but they could as easily be admiring your steel balls

Woujo · 2019-12-03T15:04:08+00:00

This is actually a very good question.

Why are you worried what other people think? The main reason is probably that you are doing or saying something that you know is inauthentic. You don't feel this way when you talk to your mom and friends, so why would you feel this way when talking around women? It is because you know you are putting on some kind of creepy, manipulative act so you don't want anybody else to see it. Here is a good rule of thumb: if you wouldn't feel comfortable having the things you are saying broadcast on the evening news for everybody to see, you shouldn't be saying them.

The way to overcome this block is to speak to women like they are anybody else. There is no special demeanor or act you need to put on for women - you speak to them like they are your friend, your little sister, etc... The only difference is that you make clear at some point, through words, that you are interested in them for a romantic/sexual relationship. Out of a 2 hour conversation, that would be one line you say.

Here is a deeper, better way to look at it: speak to women with all of your emotions, not as a character that just wants sex. Most people put their entire personality, interests, and emotional experience away and just speak as an avatar for their sexual desire which makes them sound a creepy zombie.

ethical_pa · 2019-12-03T17:40:41+00:00

I was on a date the other day and this came up:

Her: "You remember when you approached me and we were walking together?"

(We were having a great chat, connecting and laughing together up until the following happened):

Her: "Those people walking close behind us and listening to our conversation. That was awkward..."

The point is that it can be uncomfortable for her too. It's natural and ok. You can work though it by working on maintaining composure and being more carefree in life. The more you work on pickup and being a cool, social guy, the more you will realize that the world is filled with boring, normal people with poor social skills, male and female. They don't matter. What matters is being clear in your intentions and earnestly going for what you want in life. Learn to treat these people with grace, and some level of understanding and patience. A lot are like children, not fully cognizant of the finer points of social dynamics. They live their lives via movies and TV shows that sublimate their secret desires. You are out there taking action and going for what you want out of life.

EDIT: This girl and I ended up connecting really nicely on the date too. It was very special to me. I felt her energy shift when those people were too close behind us. Had I let my insecurities get the better of me, all that may have never even happened. This is why negative energy is very destructive. Imagine if that moment was destroyed by the uncouth, perverse curiosity of these random people. It probably happens a lot in life. Stay positive. Remeber that most people aren't malicious; they are just ignorant.

Title	I'm ashamed and blocking myself when someone is listening close to my seduction attempt
Author	thomspinner
Upvotes	17
Comments	7
Date	December 3, 2019 6:24 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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