I'm dying to compliment/make contact with/do something for women, but I feel so unwanted it is killing me

Eunner · 2021-07-03T17:05:18+00:00

In the words of Mystery, “Keep doing what you’ve always done and you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.”

It seems like the only thing holding you back here is yourself and your limiting belief that you don’t deserve these women. You do.

You evidently purely admire women and just want to make them feel appreciated. Tell me, would you not want someone around who is like that to you? Quit doubting yourself, approach. My motto is this “Leave women better off than when you found them.” And it seems like you have all the tools to do so.

OwYouHitMeInMyWienew · 2021-07-04T00:04:05+00:00

I might not be beautiful or a woman or even gay, but I want you. :)

innergamedude · 2021-07-03T22:33:26+00:00

I like to deliver the No Pressure compliment to women, but the catch is that it only works because I genuinely have no strong intentions on the women I do it to. You compliment them, while also pacing the fact that getting a compliment from a man is typically a burden for them, because now they think they have to deal with you and your interest. Most men complimenting women are secretly demands for something. (e.g. "I like your butt. Can I have your number?") So I'll ask permission for the compliment, ask them if they'd feel vaguely uncomfortable getting a compliment right now. ESPECIALLY if they're at work, like waitressing. Some version of, "I think your eyeliner looks great on you but you don't owe me anything or have to treat me a certain way for saying that."

If you want to get into categories of compliments that work the best, are the least intimidating/threatening and least trite, choose things she has control over and made choices about e.g. make up, not her ass, earrings, not her body. Also, the less sexualized the clothing mentioned, the less intimidating the compliment. I have complimented a woman on her leggings, which looked fucking amazing on her, but first I asked if she'd feel like creeped on for a compliment on her leggings. She gave a smile and told me where she bought them.... possibly because I was accompanied by a female friend.

And actually, you can be honest and vulnerable about being attracted to them, so long as you make it clear that you're not making any demands and that it's under control. "I'm really attracted to you right now, really nervous about telling you, AND I'm totally fine if you're not into that." The problem with a compliment is it's impersonal and reveals nothing really about you.

Good luck!

Title	I'm dying to compliment/make contact with/do something for women, but I feel so unwanted it is killing me
Author	Blackmetalpenguin90
Upvotes	8
Comments	3
Date	July 3, 2021 4:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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