I'm insecure because I'm not good-looking enough.

xcalibbop · 2016-03-08T13:47:53+00:00

Challenge your thoughts. Verbalise your arguments and try to process them as an impartial outsider.

For example: Why do you think you need to be the most good looking? Are looks the only thing that matter to girls? Why do you think that's the only thing that matters? What proof do you have of this?

Its an insecurity which might be warping your thoughts and its a very difficult thing to stop unless you actively make that decision.

To address your issue... Looks don't mean anything and you're making a lot of basic mistakes in that assumption:

1) you're projecting your own insecurity on others and assuming they won't find you attractive. That's pretty judgemental of you to not let them make up their own mind.

2) You forget beauty is subjective and people have different tastes

3) beauty isn't everything (in fact, its pretty low on the list for long term relationships)

4) attraction works differently for girls than they do for guys. We are very visual whereas women are more emotional. They might look at brad pitt and still be put off despite the fact that he's pretty good looking anyway.

Don't change yourself... Change the way you look at yourself and you'll realise you won't have to be more good looking. Appearance isn't everything in attraction.

Just to give you my side of things, I was horribly overweight and didn't take any pride in my appearance. I worked my ass off to get into a really good shape but I was still miserable with myself. It wasn't until I decided to change my perception of myself that i saw myself as attractive, months after my transformation was complete.

tylertime98 · 2016-03-08T03:55:01+00:00

I feel sort of the same way as you. Im thinking that why would a girl want me when there are plenty of other guys she could go for...

actionabz · 2016-03-08T10:21:17+00:00

Bro have some hubris about yourself, you gotta believe that you're the best looking guy in the town, for your own sake at least. It doesn't matter how many likes you get on your instagram pictures or how many girls find you attractive. Don't go into that thought pattern or you'll start deluding yourself into thinking you're not perfect or never will be.

niclaslive · 2016-03-08T19:22:52+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gryAloc2GQU

Bearfost43 · 2016-03-08T20:53:30+00:00

https://youtu.be/4gVX5siXhXM?t=662

Realise its illogical, and you wanting to be like a woman, like a flower

Title	I'm insecure because I'm not good-looking enough.
Author	TheRealDeal333
Upvotes	0
Comments	5
Date	March 8, 2016 3:43 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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