This is something I hear over and over again. I've heard it four times in the past 6 months. Twice, it was practically immediately after we agreed to be in a relationship. One of those was just now. Those really hurt. Both of those girls appear to be over the moon about me for the first month, then suddenly after it gets "serious" they get cold feet.

Why? Is one month of dating really too fast to move to relationship territory?

Should I change my venue? All four of these girls were met on OKCupid, which is where I find a lot of my dates. But I have found a couple of relationships that lasted 3 or 4 months each on that site and I'm sure some of you have found success with it too.

I'm just guessing that this is all too big of a coincidence and I might need to make some big inner game change. Perhaps I'm unwittingly being too needy.

I could give more detail for each time if it helps, but it pains me to think about and I doubt it would help very much.

Any help or tips or advice, especially those from personal experience, would be greatly appreciated.