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| 147 | Know how to smile | sharkacolypse | /r/seduction | 01/10/13 11:17 PM | |
| 131 | The Pedestal | sharkacolypse | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 05:39 PM | |
| 51 | How to Keep a Conversation | sharkacolypse | /r/seduction | 08/01/14 05:57 PM | |
| 7 | The Religion of the Self | sharkacolypse | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 11:12 PM | |
| 0 | Stop Being You and Start Being Someone Else | sharkacolypse | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 04:23 AM |
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| 1 | Spontaneous "canned" openers.Situational openers are my go-to because they're always on topic and immediately show women you have the ability to talk to them like a human (which most like). I stay away from canned lines because its likely a woman will know it and she will write you off as a "gross pua". | /r/seduction | 27/12/14 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Need some advice for texting. Inexperienced.Reply at long intervals. Texting is fine, no matter what people on this sub say, as long as it isn't constant. What women want from texting is your attention, and one of the things that attract women most is not getting attention. So limit the attention you give to maintain attraction and it ensures that she won't lose interest from lack of communication. | /r/seduction | 27/12/14 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Daygame rejection fears and inner thoughtsOvercoming your fear is a result of facing it. You can talk yourself up as much as you want but it won't necessarily work. Assume attraction, make eye contact, and start walking. Momentum can do the rest. The best opener is "hi". | /r/seduction | 27/12/14 10:14 PM |
| 1 | How? Step-By-Step. From Approaching To Getting HER NumberGetting numbers doesn't mean shit, which is why I have a problem with this article. You make that the goal, even if you convince yourself you're "just in it for the conversation". You can get a girl's number just as easily by making her uncomfortable and then being persistent until she gives you something so you'll leave. | /r/seduction | 27/10/14 07:23 PM |
| 2 | How? Step-By-Step. From Approaching To Getting HER NumberYeah but this isn't an article on how to thread a conversation, it's not even about becoming more confident approaching, really. It's a stock "try this and sometimes it works" approach that isn't conducive to actual learning. The only people who are going to get better with women using this method are the ones that realize it's bunk. | /r/seduction | 22/10/14 06:22 PM |
| 3 | How? Step-By-Step. From Approaching To Getting HER NumberYou're telling people to use the same canned openers that pua's have been using for decades. There's no originality, so of course your results are bad. I also think cold approaching on the street is a waste of time. Get some girl friends and have them introduce you to women. Way more attractive than being some dude off the street. | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 06:39 AM |
| 3 | How? Step-By-Step. From Approaching To Getting HER NumberI think this is some really stock advice. You said it yourself it has a low success rate, and it won't make you a more interesting person. Having the same (boring) conversation over and over won't score many dates, and it certainly won't prepare anyone for a date. | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 06:30 AM |
| 1 | How? Step-By-Step. From Approaching To Getting HER NumberYou said it yourself, you don't think you're attractive. When a woman says you're hot it freaks you out because it sounds like lying to you, so you're off put. | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 06:26 AM |
| 1 | How? Step-By-Step. From Approaching To Getting HER NumberIf you're getting flakes it's because you haven't built enough rapport. Have better conversations, be more interesting. | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Stop Being You and Start Being Someone ElseFirst off, "improving" and "being someone else" are the same thing. Being a better version of yourself necessarily means that you are not the worse version of yourself, which is someone else. Once you change your response to a certain situation, you are NOT acting like yourself, and thus you are NOT that same self. I'm not saying to stop doing things. Have hobbies, things you like and all that, but don't make it your identity. You can list all the things you do, but if your identity is only a li… | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 06:16 PM |
| 0 | Stop Being You and Start Being Someone ElseThis is inner game 101 what are you talking about? | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Inner game, confidence, and self-doubtGo talk to more girls, embarrass yourself, and try again. One day you won't be embarrassing. That's it. You know what you have to do. Go do it. | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 04:33 AM |
| 3 | Being inexperienced sexually with an experienced other. How to do it?Just show your inexperience and do your best. Chances are that if she's experienced, she'll guide you to do what she wants. You just have to learn, and making mistakes along the way is not only ok, but an expected and vital part of eventual success. | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Just dropped out of University, have this year to better myself before going back, help me!I just wrote this post, I think it's what you need to hear. | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 04:27 AM |
| 1 | Cant stop putting people pedestal, fucks up life.Start disagreeing with people more. Even if you're just playing devil's advocate, make opinions and share them. Be wrong, and defend yourself. Your problem is that you aren't participatory, and you won't be able to change your mindset until you start behaving differently. Just watching and reading won't get you there. | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 04:04 AM |
| 8 | I don't feel like girls can be attracted to meYou have to go fail more. Seriously. You have to escalate and show attraction. And sometimes it will be thrown back in your face, and it'll feel horrible, but you'll be a better person for it. Then one day someone won't reject you and you'll realize that your failures were the only road to your success. | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 03:36 AM |
| 2 | Would you still do pickup if... [Thought Experiment]Yes. Meeting real people is an important part of life and pickup is all about meeting real people. | /r/seduction | 18/10/14 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Whats the best way to find out how the average person perceives me?Totally in agreement with SirByron. I have a friend that pushes me to be more judgy and in return I'm judged more too, which is a great feedback system. You could be polling everyone and taking the average. | /r/seduction | 09/10/14 11:40 PM |
| 1 | What is a charming way to start a conversation on tinder?"You look too cute not to talk to" or be clever and make a statement about their pictures in some way. | /r/seduction | 09/10/14 06:07 PM |
| 1 | What to do when girl wants to have texting convos days before date?Ask her if she's looking for a relationship or just hooking up. You'll get points for being direct, and you'll keep the conversation focused on you and her. | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Im really unexperienced, starting University in 2 weeks. If you could give me one advice, what would it be?My one piece of advice is to let yourself fail. Fail and fail and fail, and look back on those failures and change your actions. Failure is the only route to success, and if you cannot accept that then you will never be successful. For more, I just wrote this article. | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 11:15 PM |
| 6 | Should you shake hands?Handshakes are generally fine, but if you can you should go for the hug. | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 11:13 PM |
| 1 | how do I find one night stands / fwbs / hookups in college?Dance classes of all kinds are generally full of attractive women, and social dances are a really easy way to do a lot of kino. | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 07:33 PM |
| 10 | Pick-up is boringIf the conversations are always boring it's probably on you. Are you asking personal questions and sharing personal stories? You have to open up and create an interesting conversation. | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 07:59 PM |
| 1 | FeelingsKino is a great way to convey romantic feelings, especially in intimate but not necessarily sexual places like the small of the back. You can be overt in the right way and also engage a response. | /r/seduction | 23/09/14 07:51 AM |
| 2 | Establishing more than friendsHave you tried reading the sidebar material? | /r/seduction | 22/09/14 04:26 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Why didn't anyone tell me how useful conversation threading is?!A good lead should be able to get a follow to do a lot of dance moves she doesn't know. Of course there are some moves where you both should really know what your'e doing, but a lot of simple dips from closed position can be done safely. | /r/seduction | 21/09/14 12:06 AM |
| 3 | This stuff works. . . now I feel bad. AKA post AFC guilt.As long as you set clear expectations it's fine. What you've become is genuinely attractive, so it's natural for some women to have strong, genuine emotions for you. | /r/seduction | 20/09/14 08:26 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Why didn't anyone tell me how useful conversation threading is?!The great thing about dancing is that it's just the base for more kino. I've done some ballroom (mostly swing, though), and a girl will not only be impressed by a good lead, but you also are continuously doing kino. To escalate more, like making out on the dance floor, I suggest you learn a few blues moves. There are a few dips that end with you bringing the girl right up to your face. With dips though be careful, it's better to do it really slow and have control because some women will throw th… | /r/seduction | 20/09/14 08:21 PM |
| 1 | My first rejectionYou may feel defeated but you didn't fail. Sometimes you'll just get written off, and it doesn't necessarily mean anything about you. There are countless factors that go into whether or not someone will be receptive to you that you can't control, and far fewer that you can. | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Falling for a girl too quicklyI've been there. We have a beachside apartment and Ikea furniture. But it's just a fantasy, and I realize that. A conscious recognition of your fantasy as just that will allow you dissociate the idea of this girl from the real one. Knowing the difference between the two will let you put yourself in the correct state of mind to attract her because you know she isn't the grand prize you pretend for yourself. The fantasy will always be there. But it's your fantasy, and in the real world you have to… | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 06:58 AM |
| 0 | Talking about sex? I've never been comfortable about it. How can I improve?Short answer: don't talk about sex. You don't need to. | /r/seduction | 15/09/14 11:45 PM |
| 6 | Regarding being on a party and knowing no one.Wow. Ok. So my experience at parties has been WAY different. First off, if it's a bunch of teenagers you don't need expensive booze. People will be just as happy if you show up with a plastic handle of vodka and some cranberry juice rather than a $30 bottle of scotch. You shouldn't have to blow big bucks to make friends. You don't even need to contribute booze most of the time I've found, as parties are generally well stocked or people pre-game. What you do have to contribute, and you were right… | /r/seduction | 15/09/14 05:03 PM |
| 2 | I always get off the topic of conversation by making a stupid joke. Does anybody else get side-tracked very easily?Talk a little slower and you'll learn how to "feel" what you're saying. | /r/seduction | 14/09/14 05:37 PM |
| 2 | So how am I supposed to do this?Ok so here's the thing: first you should read the guides on the sidebar, especially the ones about how to touch a girl. It'll give you some frame of reference, even if it is only theoretical. Watching videos could help, but you'll never do it if you don't try. Once you have an understanding of how to talk to people and touch them as part of the conversation (which you can read about here, or...) go out and do it. Talk to classmates, neighbors, whoever. Kino appropriately. | /r/seduction | 11/09/14 07:45 AM |
| 5 | Advice On Loneliness and Breaking OutOk, there's definitely time for all 3. In any given day, you can work out for 2 hours, do homework for 5, chase girls for 3 and still have 6 waking hours to shit and eat and go to class. Time management. Anyway. Ask that girl out. The worst she'll say is no, and I'll tell you why you won't fear a yes. You're going to talk to her first and ask about her hobbies, and then you can suggest a date around that. Now you have something to talk about, possibly be playfully competitive about, and as long … | /r/seduction | 11/09/14 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Just looking for opinions and advice for an absolute beginnerHey, so here's the thing about growing as a person: it's not easy. It can't be. That's the point. Something so incredibly stark has to happen in your life that your entire mind changes a little, and you start thinking in a different way. So the only thing you can do is go out and try to talk to people. Go fail. Then do it again, and think about what happened. Sit in a bar and casually observe other people approach strangers, and see what works. Then do it yourself. Soon you'll find confidence be… | /r/seduction | 11/09/14 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Innocent WomenStart by actually touching her. Read a kino guide on the sidebar. Just because your emotions are more intense for this girl doesn't mean the fundamentals change. | /r/seduction | 19/08/14 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Having trouble being clear in my intentions.Any time before you start leading them on. | /r/seduction | 17/08/14 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Having trouble being clear in my intentions.Just be verbal about what you want. "Hey I'm not looking for anything serious out of this." | /r/seduction | 15/08/14 08:30 PM |
| 6 | How do you show enough interest with body language, but not come off as over invested?Over invested is more like you're always texting her, you respond right away, you talk about your future together, etc. It's things you do to show how emotionally involved you are. It's how bad she thinks you're going to take it when she says it's not going to happen. Showing interest with body language is different. It shows intent, not investment. It shows that you want something and you're going to do something about it where you can, not over the phone hoping that your emotions match hers. T… | /r/seduction | 12/08/14 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Tips on hosting a party?Make sure you have a good playlist or station or something. Nothing with commercials, it totally kills the mood of the party. Variety is generally good, even if you just randomly skip genres - few people will care (if any). Keep an eye out for vultures who will unplug your iPhone and start their own playlist. If things are getting slow, start rounding up people to play a large group drinking game like rage cage, King's Cup, Cheers Gov'nor. If you can, have some open space for dancing. | /r/seduction | 09/08/14 10:30 PM |
| 1 | How did you get laid recently?Length of time isn't as important as building attraction, and that's what I was doing while I messaged. I also specifically did not get her number simply because I didn't want her to have mine in case she was a nut. Mostly the acting fast mindset is because you'll quickly lose attraction of you don't work to keep it up, which is hard to do over messaging. | /r/seduction | 01/08/14 07:35 PM |
| 1 | 18 Rules To Raise Your Status without Being Rich Or FamousThose seem to likely be accounts made by the blogger to help promote a positive response to his article. | /r/seduction | 01/08/14 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Promising first date - driving too far?I endorse this answer. | /r/seduction | 01/08/14 07:57 AM |
| 1 | How did you get laid recently?Nah she was pretty active. She would match my physicality and energy but never escalate, so I always had to escalate. | /r/seduction | 01/08/14 07:26 AM |
| 3 | Anyone got tips for initiating convos on Tinder?I like to make some witty comment based around their bio or pics. Generally warmly received. | /r/seduction | 31/07/14 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Sleeping with multiple women vs. Long term relationshipsYou may want relationship, but you probably do not know the kind of person you actually want a relationship with. This is a problem for many people, even people who think they do know what they want. I was in the latter category, and I got burned because of it. My advice is to date for a while, be as sexual as you are comfortable with, and start to find out the kind of person you actually want to date before being serious. | /r/seduction | 31/07/14 06:00 PM |
| 1 | How did you get laid recently?Hey, I recently had some success on Tinder and I'll walk you through the whole thing. First, though, I want to say that this came after a lot of failure with Tinder, and online tools are certainly not what you should be prioritizing. Anyway, I matched with this girl and I started the conversation. I usually try to say something witty that relates to their bio or pictures. It has a pretty good success rate of getting a response. She responded, and I kept conversation playful, letting it progress … | /r/seduction | 31/07/14 05:52 PM |
| 2 | How to fight feeling of panic at parties and social gatherings, and to stay cool even when not in conversation?I've dealt a lot with high anxiety and situations that feel like you have no control. What I've found is that it helps to focus on your breathing, and make sure you are taking slow, easy breaths. When you have composed yourself, go get a drink, not because you need to drink more, but because it will give you something to do. Now you're at the drink table, and guess what? There are other people there too! Talk to them, as there are likely other people there that also are looking for people to tal… | /r/seduction | 11/07/14 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Getting the girl to bed.Lay down some blankets and pillows on the floor! | /r/seduction | 25/06/14 11:05 PM |
| 1 | How do I enjoy interactions more?Try to relax during a conversation - you may not be able to at first, but that just means you have to get used to talking to people. Which means talking to people a lot. After every conversation you have, instead of focusing on what you could have messed up, try to remember things in the conversation that were interesting or that you otherwise liked. This will help you recall conversations in a positive way, which will make them seem more enjoyable. | /r/seduction | 24/06/14 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Im getting 'teased' for trying to learn?They're 18, they don't know anything. | /r/seduction | 19/06/14 06:27 PM |
| 2 | What would be included in a seduction guide for college students going back in the fall?Join clubs => making new friends => bigger social circles. Once you have a few good circles you run in, start taking your friends from one circle and bring them to parties/events at another. People from both circles will see how popular you are and you'll increase in social value because of it. From there, use what you've learned from the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 18/06/14 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Meeting new people?I wrote a post a while back about how to keep a conversation going that you can read here. | /r/seduction | 08/06/14 04:21 AM |
| 3 | Improvements I've made in the past year and things I still need to do.Seddit, like any large community on Reddit, does have a hivemind so no it's not weird. I'm glad you found that spark that got you started on this journey of self-realization, it seems that the things you learned are spot on. Just remember that you're still on that journey, and while recognizing success is important, it is no reason to stop or even slow down. | /r/seduction | 30/05/14 12:03 AM |
| 1 | My OWN opinion/theoryAre you kidding? I see posts like this almost daily on this sub. | /r/seduction | 23/05/14 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Dance Floor Seduction - A Beginner's GuideAs someone with ballroom dancing experience, dipping can be dangerous. Many women don't know that they're supposed to be holding up much of their weight in a dip, and will proceed to make you hold up their entire body weight, which, if you aren't properly based, will make both of you fall. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 10:22 PM |
| 1 | My OWN opinion/theoryThis is pretty in line with seddit's opinion of inner game. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 10:20 PM |
| 2 | [FR]Kissed a girl I met the other day, and a commentary about this community in generalLurking here doesn't mean you aren't new. Just because you know the lingo doesn't make a veteran member, either. What makes you new is your obvious lack of experience, and I know this because you talk about your crippling AA. Someone actually experienced has gotten past AA, not just some master sedditor. I think its absolute bullshit that you assume that just because I'm not about promoting my inner game that I have no interest in becoming a better version of myself. That's literally what promot… | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 09:27 PM |
| 5 | Daytime approaches for most women is close to 0. They also do not warm up to cold approaches. What is a social engineering tactic that capitalizes on the opportunity by creating 'warm cold approaches'?Social Engineering lesson 1: If you want something from someone, give them something they want first. Social Engineering lesson 2: Be a positive experience in someone's life. If you do either of those things, people will warm up to you. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 05:32 PM |
| 1 | [FR]Kissed a girl I met the other day, and a commentary about this community in generalThis sub teaching you to think promiscuously is to get you into an abundance mindset. It's not because one night stands are the right way to have sex all the time, just to remind you that if one girl rejects you, there will be someone else you like. The material on this sub shouldn't make you not like people. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 05:29 PM |
| 10 | [FR]Kissed a girl I met the other day, and a commentary about this community in generalLike pretty much everyone else alive who has some sort of awareness of how other people think and feel, I have massive AA. This is called a generalization, and it's likely very wrong. Being aware of how you think others perceive you shouldn't be a reason you have AA as you implied. That's a bad mindset to be in ever because it shows a total lack of confidence. On the last day before leaving you decide, "now's my chance!", and go in for the kiss? And then you even said you botched it, making it a… | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 05:24 PM |
| 1 | How can I transition from the opener to talking about something else, like a couple of interesting stories that I have?I wrote a post about fluid conversations you can read here. | /r/seduction | 21/05/14 08:24 PM |
| 2 | online dating frustration.Online dating should just be an extension of your real life dating. Yes, it's shallow to an extent, but people still find hookups and relationships on those sites. If you're having a lot of difficulty with online dating, change up what you do. Not being photogenic is not an excuse, you can learn to be photogenic. Practice smiling in the mirror, and look up how to take a picture of yourself in good light (because good lighting really does make all the difference). | /r/seduction | 21/05/14 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Whenever I meet a girl I like, I treat her nicely and she leaves me. When I meet a girl I don't like I treat her like shit and she won't leave me alone. Do I really have to be a dick to women I genuinely like just to keep them around? *Story*Did you ever ask Kate out on another date? If all you're doing is talking over the phone and not asking to meet up in person, it's likely that she thinks you aren't REALLY interested in her. | /r/seduction | 21/05/14 04:21 AM |
| 1 | mini [FR] - daygame - 12th of May 2014 - mondayIf you're going to write an FR, it should good no matter your level. This means there's something to take away from the experience - if there isn't, you wasted your time. Personally, I don't think most beginners should be writing FRs because there's nothing that will be said that hasn't been said before better. But you did, and for a good enough reason. If your day game isn't any good, start changing how you do things. Are you smiling when you approach? Does the woman see you approaching, or do … | /r/seduction | 13/05/14 01:13 AM |
| 2 | mini [FR] - daygame - 12th of May 2014 - mondayBefore anything else, this isn't a good FR. You didn't seem to learn anything of unique value, you don't have a imposing question to be answered, and you aren't spreading any good advice. With that said, it is still good that you went out. You seem to have a few concepts in your head that can be toxic. First, your distinction between "cute" and "beautiful" girls. This seems like a distinction that will hold you back from approaching women you are really attracted to. It's the same reason the HB … | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Is it ever good to share your feelings?Again, it depends on the situation, but often a needy response will include you saying something that implies you had expectations with her that weren't met. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Seduction as a foreigner ?From what I can tell, this is a pretty common phenomena. I think it has to do partly with foreigners being kind of unicorns, and the attitude people get when they're in another place they don't consider home. Being removed from people you expect to see again can cause that "no fucks given" attitude this sub always talks about. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 08:59 PM |
| 0 | Is it ever good to share your feelings?The answer to this, like most questions on here, is "it depends". Are you telling a girl you've talked to twice that you love her? Probably a bad idea. In most cases, you should be genuine with how you feel and express it appropriately with words over actions. Being direct is often a good idea. For example, if a woman flakes on you, you could say you're disappointed and she likely won't think you're some kind chump clinger. Instead, she might realize that you really are interested (women can be … | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 08:41 PM |
| 1 | People quit because it takes too long to see results, because they can't figure out that the process is the resultI think people need to redefine success for themselves. Often, success is "I reached the goal". This is especially true in games we play - the only way to succeed in the game is to win it. But in real life that breaks down sometimes, and success doesn't have to be "I won" because there is no point where that happens. Sure, getting laid could mean you were successful, but does it mean you "won" forever? No, because you aren't constantly having sex. I think a better way for people on this sub to l… | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Is there anything wrong with always being dressed up?Generally you want to dress to the occasion. Going to school? Probably no need for a suit. Over dressing can work against you. | /r/seduction | 04/05/14 07:31 PM |
| 9 | I think we need to be reminded of every once in a while..That's number 2. | /r/seduction | 15/04/14 07:30 AM |
| 1 | Where did the good ones go?You're in a college town and not looking for college-aged women, so it seems to me like you're just barking up the wrong tree. Go to your nearest (not college town) city one night and see if there are any late '20s, single women there. I bet there will be. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 09:48 PM |
| 1 | How does escalating look like for more quiet, low-energy, intellectual guys?After a few minutes of intellectual explanation, ask her a question almost or totally unrelated to the subject and touch her hand/forearm when you ask. This will get you to start escalating and keep the conversation moving, especially if she starts to look bored. Being low energy is fine, and not talking about sex is fine, just make sure you're escalating physically. | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 04:02 PM |
| 2 | How to meet attractive women on a college campus that are looking for more than a hookup?Sign up for GEs in non-STEM fields. Seriously. Take a few blow off classes where you can just meet girls and knock out a requirement for your degree. | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Help dealing with kino directed towards me.Pay attention to how the girl is touching you. If it's a high five, it's probably not an IOI. But, if she touches you unnecessarily on the hands/forearm or lingers her hand on you then that's probably a good sign. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea?Yeah, if you don't simply step closer to her and kiss her, you can take her hands and literally pull her to you, or step in and whisper in her ear. | /r/seduction | 24/03/14 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea?Make sure there's a next time and go for it then. An easy way to not pussy out is to build to the kiss. Make an excuse to get close to her, move your face in close and now you're 99% of the way there. Everyone misses opportunities. | /r/seduction | 24/03/14 04:51 PM |
| 2 | How to F-Close on vacation?Seriously just invite her back to your room. | /r/seduction | 24/03/14 04:42 AM |
| 7 | Had an epiphany today I thought I'd share: Women don't want a guy who gets them, they want a man who is attractive and exciting.I disagree that the "manly" option is always the more correct one, and I think the problem you thought you solved is simpler than you think. Attracting women is an emotional game, by "understanding" women it seems like you're trying to use logic to game. I think it's only really important that you have a strong, positive initial emotional connection with a woman to get her to be attracted to you. | /r/seduction | 24/03/14 04:25 AM |
| 1 | I keep getting rejected more often than I get accepted for dateYour body language is a huge part of flirting (I personally think most of it), so try to use some. That honestly could be why a girl that seems interested will turn you down: maybe YOU don't seem genuinely interested because you aren't fully flirting. Give it a shot. | /r/seduction | 22/03/14 05:44 AM |
| 2 | I need a date to my senior prom in 2 months and I don't want to go with a friend.There's no club you can go to that's full of only moderately attractive girls that you think are in your league. If you believe girls are in or out of your league, then every girl is out of your league because you don't have confidence. Go ask a girl that you want to take to prom instead of the girl you think will say yes. | /r/seduction | 22/03/14 05:10 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with adults?Keep this in mind: You ARE ALSO an adult. Yes, the professor is older than you and has a real adult life, and they know more about your field of study than you do. But that doesn't make you uninteresting. If you're having dinner with the professor, it's unlikely you'll be talking about work the whole time, and I've noticed many professors take at least a surface level interest in the lives of the students that they work with. Find a middle ground between how you would talk to your friends and a … | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Why do you do it?It's not like modern culture is the only one concerned about sex. It's an innate urge that most every living organism has, and one of the most powerful. It makes perfect sense that people spend their free time with their friends going out meeting new people (read: potential sex partners). Yes, pretty much everyone wants to fuck. It's part of being alive. Women are still women no matter the context you meet them in. There's no "right place" to talk to a girl you're interested in, because it can b… | /r/seduction | 18/03/14 09:16 PM |
| 1 | How do I get a girl who doesn't want to be gotten?Ask her to drinks, be charming, tell her what you want. | /r/seduction | 18/03/14 09:05 PM |
| 1 | How to strike up conversations with girls?http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/157l54/billys_guide_to_approaches/ That's from the sidebar, scroll down to the section on "How To Get Their Attention" and "The Actual Line". | /r/seduction | 12/03/14 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Advice on how to be more fun/spontaneous/laid-back?On letting loose: If you drink, do so in moderation. This will help at first because alcohol is a depressant, so it will help relax you. Don't go overboard, or, as I'm sure most everyone over sixteen knows, you'll ruin yourself for the night. If alcohol or other mild drugs to take the edge off aren't your thing, play some music before you go out or even when you're out. Listen to something that makes you want to dance. Then dance to it. Let yourself cut loose in your room in front of a mirror an… | /r/seduction | 27/02/14 04:49 PM |
| 1 | 7 Reasons Why You Will Never Do Anything Amazing With Your Life — Life LearningSomething important to note is when he talks about what he reads, he mentions quantum mechanics and string theory. Just because he reads on these topics does not mean, in an way, that he understands them. Thinking and knowing are two different worlds and the author would be well off remembering that. | /r/seduction | 25/02/14 11:13 PM |
| 4 | How to be upfront/forward in college?No matter how popular you are, if you go to a university with more than a few thousand people in it there's no way you're going to get a reputation unless you only hang out with the same 10 people. | /r/seduction | 24/02/14 05:19 PM |
| 2 | 18 Years old, recent single, can't seem to be interesting around ladies.Talk about a detail you like about whatever it is you like. If it's too detailed for someone to just understand, explain and you'll sound knowledgeable. Ask her specific questions and follow up questions. | /r/seduction | 12/02/14 04:33 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with academic/life confidence killers?Something that may help: before you go out, while you're getting ready, pump some party tunes. Not top 40 stuff necessarily, just stuff that's upbeat that you really like to get you in the mood to have fun. Sing along and dance with the door closed. If you can't make a fool of yourself by yourself, you're going to have a hard time being loose around other people. | /r/seduction | 11/02/14 04:53 AM |
| 1 | seducing or actually just meet people with personality disorder and beeing to polite aka. not valuing myself enoughtI think this is a good place to come for help. What you want is to be better at social interactions, and that's what this sub's for. First off, I'm not sure what you mean by "drove me into psychiatry" but I am assuming that means you're seeing a mental health professional. If that's the case, and you're still seeing them, please talk to them about this as well because I'm sure they have a much better understanding of you than any stranger on this website could after reading one post you made. Yo… | /r/seduction | 10/02/14 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Example of max level PUA. Worth the read. No seriously I can't stress this enough, fucking read it.Most of the time I saw the comments supporting them, encouraging the group think that women are less than men. I saw more people empathize with examples of women cheating on them than any real counter response. | /r/seduction | 08/02/14 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Example of max level PUA. Worth the read. No seriously I can't stress this enough, fucking read it.At it's absolute core, it is partially evolutionary psychology, however because the majority of the community seems to be these "angry and spiteful" redditors, it turns the entire subreddit into something rather atrocious. There are gems of wisdom there, but they are few and far between besides being buried beneath the philosophies on there about women being inferior or untrustworthy. I can't take the subreddit seriously because they treat women like they are actually a different species and not… | /r/seduction | 07/02/14 11:13 PM |
| 7 | Made early mistake, will I recover?My advice is to shut the fuck up until the day of. If she bails, she'll tell you. If not, you've got a date. | /r/seduction | 31/01/14 11:19 PM |
| 1 | [FR] College Frat Party, any advice for intermediate PUA?Isolation in frat party (or any house party) is easy. Take her to the backyard, or over in the more empty, open room, or a balcony. Hell, I moved from a hallway five steps into the kitchen and kissed her there, and it was an open kitchen. | /r/seduction | 26/01/14 07:58 PM |
| 1 | 7 Emotions Men Need to ControlI agree, listening is half of a conversation. But the question was basically how to talk more. | /r/seduction | 25/01/14 12:42 AM |
| 1 | It's church, but I still want to get to know her.Just talk to her. And if you fuck it up, there are other girls. Really. | /r/seduction | 24/01/14 07:25 AM |
| 2 | Go for insta-date or number?Your phone does this thing where instead of writing text, you can use your voice. Call her. As has been mentioned many, many times in the last few days, getting a number means next to nothing. | /r/seduction | 23/01/14 05:34 AM |
| 33 | 7 Emotions Men Need to ControlYeah, start being more vocal. Instead of just nodding your head, verbally comment on the things she says. Then take the next step, which is taking something she said and use it to change the topic. Example: She says something about someone at work and how the act blank way. You, instead of nodding your head, comment back that it reminds you of how blank character on blank show acts and has she ever seen that show? Boom, topic changed, and you changed it. Go be the fucking jungle cruise captain o… | /r/seduction | 23/01/14 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Question on the best way to ask girls outI did say almost as good as a no, not a definite rejection. I do mean forget. A few weeks of not seeing a girl, sometimes even a few days can be enough for a girl to stop caring and move on. Not that you can't do anything to win her back, but the idea is to make a move while you're still fresh in her mind. Or she could find someone else that she's willing to make time for. | /r/seduction | 22/01/14 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Question on the best way to ask girls outIf you get something as vague as "another time", it's almost as good as a no. You can spin the "what's your schedule" line to not feel robotic. This is merely about making sure you get a date with a girl who is interested before she forgets why she's interested in you. | /r/seduction | 22/01/14 12:32 AM |
| 1 | I live in a small community and it makes it rely hard to sargeYour honesty is an emotional commitment, not just how you feel. If you tell a girl you really like her, there are deep implications that you want more than casual sex. For her, she may just want casual sex (even if she doesn't explicitly say it) and not full-blown relationship. And that's what you're implying. You can be genuine in other ways, and you shouldn't have to tell a girl how you feel about her with words. | /r/seduction | 22/01/14 12:28 AM |
| 4 | Seddit, can you guys help me get a prom date?Start talking to her. Ask her out on a date. Take to prom. If any of those three steps don't make sense to you, feel free to read everything on the sidebar. If you have questions after that, feel free to ask me. | /r/seduction | 22/01/14 12:24 AM |
| 43 | If a girl shit tests you, does ignoring pass the test?Pretty sure she was telling you to kiss her. | /r/seduction | 22/01/14 12:22 AM |
| 8 | What do people talk about at parties?"What do you do outside of classes and partying?" - Try to find a mutual interest by asking about the things they like. People are good at talking about things they like. "Who do you know at the party?" - Find people that are common ground, share experiences you had with your mutual friend. "What're you drinking?" Followed by "That's a good drink...for a girl" - Talking about drink is topical and can lead to other, more interesting topics. You can definitely get to know a girl at a party, and no… | /r/seduction | 21/01/14 01:47 AM |
| 2 | Long time lurker, how do I develop a relationship with someone I only met onceAsk her to coffee over facebook messenger or something and say something clever to get her number. "Hey I feel like we have a lot in common, we should grab coffee tomorrow afternoon." | /r/seduction | 13/01/14 04:50 PM |
| 1 | I need helpAs much as you like this girl, you aren't missing anything by not being in a high school relationship. | /r/seduction | 13/01/14 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Help me put together a checklist for my wingmanIs this feedback he's giving you or are these things you expect from him? | /r/seduction | 13/01/14 04:38 PM |
| 3 | How to Keep a ConversationIt seems that that doesn't come naturally to a lot of people, hence the post. | /r/seduction | 13/01/14 04:29 PM |
| 4 | 10 observations from banging 100 girlsSo all you want is a sub that does slut shaming? Go to the red pill, they love slut shaming and manipulating women. | /r/seduction | 11/01/14 06:34 PM |
| 1 | About defenseConfrontation is about confidence, knowing how to argue, knowing how to compromise and knowing how to solve problems. | /r/seduction | 11/01/14 01:16 AM |
| 2 | About defenseIt sounds like you need to learn how to deal with confrontation, which isn't something I feel I can teach you in a reddit post. If your friend is stealing money from you, you have a friend problem and a money problem. The money problem in particular can escalate very quickly, so whatever path you choose to resolve that problem I'd recommend you exercise caution. A step you can take to resolve this is to tell your friend you don't want to hang around with him if he's going to steal from you. If h… | /r/seduction | 11/01/14 12:25 AM |
| 0 | [FR] New colleague, #-closeGreat that you've got your energy and you're in a good state of mind. Those are really important. You're on the right track and I want to say that first so what I say next doesn't totally derail you or make you think you're bad at this. In future FRs, try to stay away from using 'HB_' because it really doesn't matter and your use of 'cute brunette' got the point across. Otherwise your use of terms was really good in this post, you told us what seduction techniques you actually used. Try to stay … | /r/seduction | 10/01/14 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Out of a long term relationship, my text game is weak.No, there isn't. You can tease her a little over text, but you're going to build most of the attraction through actually seeing here. Texting is like spark, if used right you can build a fire, but if you just sit there throwing sparks you won't get anywhere. If you want to ask her out via text, you don't have to build up to it much. A few texts catching up, then ask to go out for coffee or whatever your casual first date idea is. | /r/seduction | 10/01/14 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Mevolution 2016This was really poorly written. Format your post, cut the crap at the beginning, and try to point out the things YOU did to attract this girl. It sounds like she wanted someone to lay and she chose you, and you just strung yourself along until she was ready. You didn't do a thing except be present. And seriously, dude, "Vas Legas, Devana"? This isn't a fucking Capitol Steps song. | /r/seduction | 10/01/14 05:21 PM |
| 1 | About defenseHandling a six year old and an adult are very, very different things. The key difference is that a six year old still may not know better, an adult should. Can you give me a little more information on your situation? Are you in high school or college or neither? If you can, try to take a conflict-resolution course because you'll learn to communicate in a very different way. | /r/seduction | 10/01/14 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Taking a girl out on a dateAsk her to coffee, it's your interview date. Just ask if she'd like to get coffee with you __day this week, and get her number. I wrote a post earlier today on maintaining conversation: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1uq4bn/how_to_keep_a_conversation/ | /r/seduction | 09/01/14 07:11 AM |
| 1 | what the do you talk about?I wrote a post about this literally today. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1uq4bn/how_to_keep_a_conversation/ | /r/seduction | 09/01/14 04:08 AM |
| 3 | Touching is easy, unless I like the girl. [help]Go ahead and risk fucking it up. If you do, give it some time and things should stop being awkward. I've never fucked up so badly that things were always awkward after, and I've fucked up really badly. | /r/seduction | 09/01/14 02:40 AM |
| 55 | How to treat girls who start to show interest only after you stop trying?Give it a shot, play coy, make her feel like there's still a chase. If you see her in person, escalate only with kino. Don't tell her how you feel, show her. | /r/seduction | 09/01/14 02:38 AM |
| 3 | How do you escalate in social circle situations?The compliance will come from a few things: how much she trusts you, how it'll affect her relationship with her group/friend, and how much she's interested in you. Gain group trust by being a positive part of the conversation. Gaining her trust is mostly the same - prove you're a likable person through conversation. Gain her interest in you sexually by also initiating and escalating kino. If she's responding well to your kino by reciprocating (and possibly escalating, herself), then she also pro… | /r/seduction | 08/01/14 11:56 PM |
| 7 | How do you escalate in social circle situations?There's a term: escalate and isolate. Make some excuse to get away from the group. At a party, this could be "hey let's grab another drink" or even "come with me while I grab another drink". I even once said at a party, "Hey let's go to the kitchen" where the kitchen was four steps away and completely open. | /r/seduction | 08/01/14 04:51 PM |
| 5 | Does anyone know how to go from the playful joking touch stage to the intimate touch stage?You can transition by making your joking touches last a little longer than normal. Leave your hand on her shoulder for a few seconds and see how she responds. If she starts touching you for the same lengths of time, that's your signal to escalate. | /r/seduction | 08/01/14 06:31 AM |
| 10 | I'm not a dick...Get her phone number, leave her with a kiss, tell her you'll find her when she sobers up. DON'T fuck her. Don't. Really. | /r/seduction | 07/01/14 01:33 AM |
| 7 | AMOG telling me to fuck off. How to deal?It's often best to try and friend the other guy(s) in a group early on. If that's not possible or intuitive to the situation (all sitting together but one is obviously not part of a conversation with the rest of the group), I like to put on a friendly face and hold my ground. I'd ask her if the two of them were dating, or I'd calmly ask the guy to calm down and I'd introduce myself cordially. It's unlikely that a fight will happen instantly, there are levels of progression towards physical viole… | /r/seduction | 07/01/14 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Completely bombed, while seducing a girl who is in a not-so-great relationship. How to fix?If she's not ready to give up her LTR or cheat then you shouldn't be pushing her to do either. You can always find another girl. Give her space and wait for her to actually leave the relationship because if she's still in it then she still has some feelings for this other guy. Possible, yet unlikely alternative: she made up the LTR and just doesn't want to have sex with you. In which case, move on. | /r/seduction | 07/01/14 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Requesting advice from other Paralyzed peopleSome girls just aren't that into PIV sex, this girl may be one of them and she may feel like she isn't missing anything by being with you. You can always talk to her about it. | /r/seduction | 07/01/14 01:19 AM |
| 1 | ChokeThe key to conversations is to find common ground. Be at least mildly observant and look for something she's wearing/doing that you have some interest in. Start talking about this thing, then if she mentions something else, follow that tangent to a new topic of conversation. Repeat as necessary. | /r/seduction | 07/01/14 01:15 AM |
| 1 | What is your game plan once you're back at her/his place?Sorry, that was a little ambiguous. Sit where your legs/arms are touching on one side, so you aren't scooting towards here slowly but noticeably. | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 11:31 PM |
| 1 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillIt wasn't half assed. Maybe about 75% effort. I wouldn't write it if I didn't think it would be at least worthwhile to get the ideas down in writing. I still want to know the last time you went up to a group of black people and called them niggers. How'd that work out for you? I bet you get a lot of girls by calling them sluts. They love negging, right? I've proved through years of work and schooling that I am rather smart, ambitious and a good leader. I also know that there are millions of othe… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 08:06 PM |
| 1 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillStruck a nerve? Like I'm angry? I have more disdain for people who are sure they are right no matter what than anger, I've learned that anger won't change anyone. I'm frustrated, a bit, because you refuse to even entertain the idea that you could be wrong. You have an utter refusal to change your views because they're so entrenched in your personal reality, which does not really coincide with mine. Whatever "truth" you think you've uncovered, I don't know what it is. I see you have little to arg… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 07:50 PM |
| 2 | What is your game plan once you're back at her/his place?Offer a drink, watch some lighthearted TV and make your move then. Start by sitting where you're touching her. Move to kiss her. | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Can someone clearly explain what it means to be self-amused?It's not in the glossary, so here's my definition: being able to entertain yourself regardless of the circumstances. You are able to BE the fun, you bring the party. You determine that you have a good time because you'll make sure that you do. It helps with outcome independence because if you're self-amused, you'll keep a positive attitude even in the face of bad vibes. | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 07:44 PM |
| 2 | I don't have approach anxiety, I just don't know what to say.Give her an honest compliment about something you could find even mildly interesting. For example, you could say something nice about her nails and talk about how some of your guy friends get manicures but you're not sure if it's for you and take it from there. | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 07:39 PM |
| 6 | What is your game plan once you're back at her/his place?Whatever your excuse was to go back to your/her place, go do that. You told her your shred on guitar? Play her something. Stay close to her, go in for the kiss early. The opportune time is when you make it the opportune time. If you really start making out, pick her up and carry her to your bedroom. The rest is pretty straightforward, I think. | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 07:34 PM |
| 1 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillFirst paragraph: I disagree. Second paragraph: Too bad you had to go through all that. I would take a step back and look at things from the woman's perspective and see if you're not 100% in the clear, because I'm sure fault lays in both parties. Sure there are women crazy enough to get knocked up just for money, but there are also husband/fathers crazy enough to commit murder/suicides with their families. That doesn't sound like "man loyalty" to me. Third paragraph: Let me ask you this, would yo… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 06:01 PM |
| 13 | "The Ultimate 'How To' Guide to Cocky + Funny"This community is also to teach people how to flirt, because so many don't. This is a great post of breaking down a way to flirt, and it only seems creepy because of it's detail. | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 05:36 PM |
| 1 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillBecause saying it doesn't take "the fire" out of them, it strengthens people's (including your) association of that group with derogatory statements. I seriously doubt you would refer to a group of black people as "some niggers". Why would you refer to a group of women as "some sluts"? | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 12:12 AM |
| 1 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillSo being derogatory and crude is the only manly way to talk? If I don't call women sluts who are only good for their cunts I'm not a real man? I'm going to be a cunt about language because it's powerful tool that can greatly influence the way people think. Why don't you just start calling black people niggers again, too, while you're at it? | /r/TheRedPill | 05/01/14 06:05 PM |
| 1 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillYou don't want respect? Fine. You don't have it, I know you don't care. I never said women weren't equally sexual. I agree with that. You're right about not everyone getting to reproduce, but there are people that don't want kids, too. Maybe watch your blanket statements? You're right about women and men being different, too, although I'd like to know how you think women are "differently loyal" than men, because I think your perceptions of male and female loyalty are largely based on modern medi… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/01/14 05:50 PM |
| 1 | When you are single, how often do you ask girls out on a date?If I got their number, I would try for a date. This was usually weekly, although the dates didn't happen quite that frequently. But I'm also mostly just in the college dating scene, so party hook-ups are a thing for me. Edit: Good question, by the way. While it's not always a good idea to compare yourself against other people, getting a feel for the stats can be really helpful in determining what you want or should try for. | /r/seduction | 05/01/14 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Question (kind of an FR)It's not too late. | /r/seduction | 05/01/14 02:12 AM |
| 2 | I'm going to go to the mall today and try and get some numbers. Any last minute tips you guys could give me?Yeah, be funny. And don't forget to ask for her number. Try not to walk in circles so the whole mall knows you're just there to try pick up. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 11:40 PM |
| 12 | Defriendzoning (Maybe not that hard)If he makes it through the whole movie I give up. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 11:38 PM |
| 15 | Tips for college parties?Not in a frat myself, but I've been to a number of frat parties. Pick up at a frat party is a joke, honestly. The girls that go to them want to hook up, all you have to do is not be a total sleezeball and you'll be fine. Talk to girls, be even a little funny, and pay attention to your and her kino. Kiss early, don't fuck her if she's too drunk. Don't worry about seeing a hook up again, because it doesn't have to be awkward unless you make it awkward. Have fun, stay safe! | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 11:36 PM |
| 2 | What red flags will cause you to (almost) immediately move on to a different target? [mini FR included for context]She doesn't keep good eye contact (looking around the room for an out) She doesn't want to engage in conversation Unwilling to give a phone number Doesn't reciprocate touching Responds poorly to teasing No smiling That's all I can think of off the top of my head. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 11:33 PM |
| 1 | What red flags will cause you to (almost) immediately move on to a different target? [mini FR included for context]Asking for your age isn't a shit test, something along the lines of "You look a little young for me" is. Shit tests seem like the female version of negging to me, and both parties can fail by giving a bad answer. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 11:31 PM |
| 2 | How is building social proof different from seeking external validation?You do want the validation of the group because it shows to the group and potential women of interest that you ARE important. What seeking external validation shouldn't be is letting your ego inflate from compliments or, even worse, go fishing for compliments. Your confidence shouldn't come from other people approving of you, other people approving of you should merely be a check so you know your inner confidence is coming out. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Advice?If your teeth are really an insecurity, they likely won't stop being one. It's an easy fix that can make a world of difference to you, and in high school (even college, where it's less common), braces aren't a big deal. So many people have had them that you'll likely get more sympathy than snide remarks. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 11:26 PM |
| -2 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillThe use of crude language doesn't lend well to trying to demand respect from the rest of reddit. From what I've read, there's little hiding contempt for "sluts" or, it seems, for most women. From what I've read, women in this community are seen far more as objects than people to be treated fairly. Even the PUA community over at /r/seduction has almost stopped using their woman grading system (HB#). The derogatory language is just one reason it's easy to shit on TRP. It defines the kind of people… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/14 11:20 PM |
| 2 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillHere's reality: Not every girl will like you. No matter what. Being a "good person" isn't always enough, but sometimes it is. Laws of probability probably better determine the rates at which people hook up or date each other than TRP or PUA rules and guidelines. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/14 11:16 PM |
| 1 | what are some general tips to help with 3 sets?Entertain the whole group, with a focus on the girl you're interested in. That means give her the most eye contact and any appropriate touching while trying to engage everyone about equally verbally. If done well, there's a good chance she'll make an excuse to get isolated with you. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 10:59 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Said "Hi" at the gym.No, you really don't need some bigger reason. She seems into you, that's enough for a number. You don't even have to say more than, "Can I get your phone number?" and she will most likely say yes. This interaction is not nearly as complicated as you think it is. If you feel like you need to say more, just mention that you'd like to get to know her outside of the context of a gym. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 07:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Said "Hi" at the gym.Next time you see here make sure to ask for her number! Great that you learned so much. | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 05:35 PM |
| 1 | "I'm not ready for a relationship."As mentioned in some of the other comments, when you get to the adult dating world there's no such thing as "I'm not ready for a relationship." It's "I'm not ready for a relationship with you." | /r/seduction | 01/01/14 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Do you really think you're seducing anything?You're partially right. That's all pretty much outer game: it's the secret language of flirting to show mutual interest and play the social games to make sex socially acceptable. I've talked to some girls that have stone walled me. Absolutely no interest in anything I have to say. But there are plenty of girls that are very interested in me immediately, and even more who have some basic interest but aren't sure if I'm worthy to hook up. If you walk into a room and look around and see girls, how … | /r/seduction | 01/01/14 12:39 AM |
| 0 | How long have you been single?Currently not single but I was for several months prior to this relationship and I felt those loneliness pangs. Keep your eyes open and you'll find a girl who'll complement you emotionally. | /r/seduction | 01/01/14 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Could use some friendly advice!Ask her out on a real date. You are always risking a friendship in a sense, but most of the time you really aren't. I've had awkward no's from several girls and we were still friends after. A little time and space after a rejection will clear things up. Sometimes you don't need much of either if you play it cool. If you stay cool with her there may be interest down the road and you can try again, but don't get hung up on just her. | /r/seduction | 01/01/14 12:28 AM |
| 9 | The Myth of Early Emotional Investment in DatingA canned line can work. They DO work, I should say, and I won't claim anything against it's effectiveness. I think you're dead wrong when you say that "personalization" is "much less effective". Making a comment about her book or her drink can do just as well as anything else. What makes that sound needy or "emotionally invested" (a term you should really define) is HOW it is said more than what is being said. A canned line can work, and repetition will build confidence if it works, but I know m… | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 08:25 PM |
| 1 | How should I react to someone complaining?"I understand how you feel, but I don't think it's good for you to dwell on these negative thoughts." That is a sentence of pure beauty. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 06:06 PM |
| 1 | I never find women when I go out looking to do pick upMy suggestion is to get a new hobby. Take a local class on something you think (or better, know) women your age will be at. You'll likely meet people you'll find attractive and you'll expand your horizons. You can work inner and outer game at the same time. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 05:57 PM |
| 6 | What is your personal goal with game?Mostly, I wanted to learn how to escalate touching. It's something I thought was counter-intuitive in high school, but seeing as I didn't get much action in high school I was obviously wrong. I feel like I've come a long way, and I've attracted enough women now to prove it to myself. I stick around, now, because I think I have a good handle on the subject and I like sharing what I've learned. Thanks for this question! I hope you get some insightful answers. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 05:47 PM |
| 8 | Seeking advice on what to do for a first dateYou can always continue the conversation by asking questions about her. Try to stay away from the usual small talk topics like "What music do you like", unless they come up naturally. The way you start talking about more interesting stuff is by asking specific questions about the things you're mutually interested in, and you can always go off on tangents to do this. I usually text something like "Hey, this is Sharkacolypse!" sometime shortly after getting their number, and then I'll text somethi… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Ending things - need help making the best of a bad situation hereSounds like you did end it over text, not sure exactly what closure you're looking for in seeing her in person. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 10:47 PM |
| 1 | 25 year old virgin here.Right, and once you clear your mind, you can approach. This is BEFORE you start talking to a girl, not during it. | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Girls that you just aren't feeling?I thought I really hit it off with a girl. When I asked for her number, she said "Of course". I thought it was in the bag. When I texted her, I got the most brief and boring responses. I'm talking one or two words to what I thought were fairly clever text messages. After six messages I gave up on her and haven't looked back, and have since found way more interesting girls. | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 07:41 AM |
| 1 | Starting a conversation - advice requestedI never said guys his age can't rock the long hair - there are a number of guys I know that do. But I know a lot more girls around that age that don't like long hair on a guy, and I've seen plenty of young guys with long hair that don't look good, or look a lot better with short hair. | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 07:38 AM |
| 6 | Starting a conversation - advice requestedNumber one: You're in high school. If it doesn't work out, you'll find at least dozens more girls you find cute and like their personality. Number two: No one is going to think you're a pussy for liking her personality. Number three: Do something to up your self-esteem. Go for a run because you can. Change your look to so that when you look in the mirror, you do think you look good. Have your best female friend help you in this department - girls generally fucking love makeovers. Number four: I … | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Question about "No More Mr Nice Guy". When do you listen to others?Like all things, it's about balance and moderation. If you have Asperger's, then you're definitely in a different situation than most people, and that's fine. You just need to learn to work with it. Let's take you being a smartass, for example. Your perception was that you're helping your friends, but if you don't use the right tone and words, it's going to sound like one-upping. Your friends are going to shape you, and by that I mean they're going to make you more like them. This isn't always a… | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 12:35 AM |
| 7 | Keeping tension in a new relationship alive while away from one another.You're in a relationship - you don't need to be going full on pick up on her 24/7. She likes what you've done, if you just call her a few times over that period you'll be fine. Enough to remind her you care, not so much that she thinks you're clingy as hell. | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 12:15 AM |
| 1 | 25 year old virgin here.I don't know what "blanking out" means, but if it means your mind is totally blank, then that's right. When you're not thinking, just start moving in the direction you need to go. It's starting the interaction that's really the hardest part, in most cases, but once you get the ball rolling it isn't that bad. As for the "need a friend" thing, no, you don't. You just need the girl you're going to kiss there. Have her count down, and then go in for it. Works in a similar way to saying "I'm going to… | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 12:13 AM |
| 2 | I recently read that men look more attractive when they do not smile, but somehow all the advice here is to smile. What is your take on it? Should I use combination or smile all the time?Did you read that men are more attractive when they simply don't smile, or when they're making a "concentrated face"? It seems to me that girls are very attracted to both smiling men and men with very concentrated faces. Go look through /r/ladyboners and see what faces the men are making in those pictures, it'll give you a good idea of what "looks" women find attractive. I'll give you a hint: it's mostly serious concentrated face or smiles. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 06:00 PM |
| 19 | Does having a big heart mean weakness or strength?I think if you feel like you have to be cold or apathetic, you're not reading these posts right or you aren't reading the right posts. In attracting a girl, I try to never come off as cold. I realize that something like "outcome independence" may sound like indifference, but it's merely allowing yourself to have fun no matter what happens. It's not letting yourself get down because you didn't hook up with the cutest girl at the party. My most successful method in attracting girls is simple: talk… | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 05:49 PM |
| 12 | 25 year old virgin here.Sounds like you have a mental barrier to overcome. I'd like to share few different techniques I've used to overcome mental barriers, hopefully one will help you. One thing that might help is pulling her into you for a kiss, instead of going to her or meeting her half way. This way you don't have to think of it as "going in for the kiss". To approach girls, I used to think about something completely unrelated to approaching, and then when I was immersed in that other thought I would turn and walk… | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Tips from a Russian on college game in the US.Either lots of context-appropriate touching or your words. Tell her you think she's cute/pretty. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Why women flake (post 1 of 2)She offered to reschedule, so yes. Then when we did sit down, we had a great conversation. | /r/seduction | 16/11/13 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Why women flake (post 1 of 2)Or she's legitimately busy. Had a girl flake on me twice before we had a coffee date because of work and other scheduling conflicts (working two full time jobs, plus a full time student). | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 11:52 PM |
| 10 | The PedestalNot asking her on a date puts you in the friendzone. Treating her like a friend builds attraction because I'm being outcome independent, fun, and I can tease her like I would any other friend. | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 11:48 PM |
| 1 | The answer to 50% of the questions on r/asksedditNumber 7, "she doesn't date you". So perfect. I've seen it so many times in college happening to all sorts of people. | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 05:44 PM |
| 1 | [Beginner] First date everI've noticed when I do a coffee date it's usually in the afternoon and we pay for ourselves. It's kind of a stepping stone date, because if that goes well you can do a lot more with subsequent dates. | /r/seduction | 30/10/13 07:12 AM |
| 1 | What are some good ways to turn the conversation to be more sexual?I try to not talk about sexual things, and let escalating touch do that part of the flirting for me. I use my words to make her laugh and smile, and I've noticed the more people talk about sexual things around girls they're trying to get with the more off put these girls are. | /r/seduction | 30/10/13 01:56 AM |
| 2 | [Beginner] First date everPeople here think dinner is bad because you can't kino, and if you're not kino-ing 100% of the time you're wrong. I think that's bullshit, I've had some great first dates going to dinner. Go somewhere in an open air mall (indoor mall is ok, too, especially if it gets really cold where you're from) where the focus can be on walking and nothing is as loud as a shitty night club. You can talk just find over dinner as long as you remember to chew and speak separately. Have some gum in your pocket fo… | /r/seduction | 30/10/13 01:53 AM |
| 3 | A woman can't make you happy. Only you can.YUP. | /r/seduction | 27/10/13 07:34 PM |
| 53 | A woman can't make you happy. Only you can.What hurdle is that? Hugging a girl? You're not miserable because you haven't had experience with the opposite gender, you're miserable because you think you should have by now. But your life is different from everyone else's, and you are different from everyone else. If you don't rank yourself against other people, you'll start to realize how you can make yourself happy. I hated myself in middle school for not having a girlfriend, because it seemed like everyone else had one and I was the only … | /r/seduction | 26/10/13 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Emotional expression/knowing yourself seems to be the key to connecting. How can I get better at this?You bring it to the table if you start the interaction. She may decide something you say is interesting and move forward, but the focus is on you. The vibes you're looking for are that she's still talking to you. If you want to connect emotionally, find topics that matter to you and her. Common ground is your friend, and if you both know a decent amount about the same thing, you can talk about that even if it isn't deeply philosophical and still get a great connection. If you don't know what to … | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 06:04 AM |
| 1 | Emotional expression/knowing yourself seems to be the key to connecting. How can I get better at this?As far as lighthearted openers; Yes. Yes. Yes. Observations are opportunities. She's wearing a Zelda shirt? Talk to her about it. Scenario you're in: I once opened on a girl by helping her remove toilet paper from her shoe with mine, and then making some dumb joke about how I "got her back". It worked. Oh, something sounds cheesy in your head? That's fine, actually. There are definitely girls who like something sounding a little cheesy, or sometimes even really cheesy. It won't make them uncomfo… | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 05:34 AM |
| 2 | Internalizing the confident / alpha mindset: entitlement is the link between actions and thoughts.I think this post is great, except the word entitlement. Google defines entitlement as: the fact of having a right to something. But what you're describing is not the same, I think, because what you describe is earned. It may just be arguing semantics, but I don't think something earned should give you entitlement, it should really be the opposite. From earning, you realize that you don't "deserve" anything, because if you just deserved it you wouldn't work for it. | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Internalizing the confident / alpha mindset: entitlement is the link between actions and thoughts.I hate to break it to you, but none of those things demonstrate high value. The GPA shows that you can work hard, as does your job, but your frat means nothing. Being high value isn't about what you have to offer yourself, it's what you have to offer others. If people want to be around you because you add value to their lives, then you're high value. Inner game doesn't just turn into outer game, you have to work on both. There are plenty of smart, successful people out there and they can't get w… | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 05:05 AM |
| 3 | What tips does /r/seduction have for gaining the affections of a more quiet, introverted girl?The same way you attract any woman: be interesting. I was sitting with two guy friends in my college's dining commons last year, and a very quiet girl sat at the far end of our 8 person table. I drew her into our conversation, and connected to her with movie references that only the two of us got. She felt more comfortable with me and my friends and was a real part of our conversation for that meal. My friend tried to get her number, but she was seeing someone. Point is, though, even with a boyf… | /r/seduction | 20/10/13 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Any guys here willing to look at some convos between me and a girl I lost a spark with and tell me where I went wrong?I'll take a look! | /r/seduction | 19/10/13 05:29 PM |
| 1 | just realized somethingThen realize this: No one is actually watching you. You know when they ARE going to watch you? If you drop a stack of dishes in a restaurant. Short of drawing attention to yourself on that scale, people in your background really aren't paying attention to what you're doing or saying, and if they are, they will likely forget about you within minutes. | /r/seduction | 18/10/13 08:42 PM |
| 1 | How do I cope with social phobia?but this being a public bus, I couldn't do it, simply because it's not something people do. Wrong. It's not something YOU do. Don't be concerned with what limits other people and placing those limits on yourself. | /r/seduction | 18/10/13 06:49 PM |
| 4 | just realized somethingThere's a reason people go to bars and parties to meet girls: alcohol helps get rid of AA, and for a lot of women, opens them up to actually flirting. So I wouldn't even say using drugs to get rid of AA is "cheating". | /r/seduction | 18/10/13 06:25 PM |
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