just realized something

joshsway · 2013-10-18T18:33:18+00:00

I'd guess 90+% of the people you are worried about judging you are going home to their left (or right) hand. Just remember that.

puntingbaxter · 2013-10-18T19:54:53+00:00

Here is something that everyone ends up learning at some point in their life.

No one gives a shit about you.

So go approach...

IntensePancakes · 2013-10-18T19:35:01+00:00

I could write a couple paragraphs that you probably wouldn't read, but instead I'll leave you this video. It really hits the nail on the head for what you need to know about self confidence/caring what others think.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64TFQpX5cM

rbz90 · 2013-10-18T20:42:25+00:00

I had a similar problem. Think about it this way. If you see someone hit on a girl unsuccessfuly do you stop and go "OMG what a douchebag." Most likely you forget about it instantly. Why do you think most people don't have better things to do then discuss what you've done? Particularly when it's something completely normal. You just have to fight through it and realize most people are too busy with their own lives to sit there and dwell on the minutia of strangers' getting shot down. Just go approach women a couple of times and you'll see it's not that big of a deal. It's not like everyone will sit there and point and laugh at you.

It's like everything else, you just have to do it enough times to get used to it. There's no secret shortcut (except booze and drugs but those have many cons that outweight the pro) Next time you care about what other people think try to remember that this shit won't matter in a week, a day or probably even 30 minutes.

LyingPervert · 2013-10-18T20:55:16+00:00

I have times like this where I can't get my self to approach for the exact same reason.

And then I think about it. None of these people give a fuck about you and you couldn't give less of a fuck about them.

Go approach

sharkacolypse · 2013-10-18T18:15:07+00:00

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InstantWpierdol · 2013-10-20T15:32:38+00:00

I have approach anxiety because the main reason is I care too much about what others think.

No shit, sherlock.

Title	just realized something
Author	erdirck
Upvotes	16
Comments	14
Date	October 18, 2013 5:40 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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