Hey all,

I've been an active member of a prominent closed seduction community for around 2 years now and it's been an incredible journey of personal growth and improvement.

I can still remember the first time I read Models (JK, I listened to the audiobook) and it all finally clicked for me. Game wasn't about being a different person, it wasn't about tricking people to sleep with you, but about self improvement, about improving your ability to connect with the opposite sex. All I had to do was become a better, more interesting person, and all my problems with women would be solved.

Well we all know of course that's not totally true, self improvement is important, but not the only element to success with women. Initially, when I first started going on lots of dates (thanks to seduction) I had trouble bringing women home, trouble connecting with these women, and trouble getting second dates. It was frustrating. So I practiced and practiced, I analyzed what was working and what wasn't, and I got better. While I'll be the first to admit I'm not the best at cold approaches or club game, I got really really good at dates. After hundreds and hundreds of first dates, I feel comfortable saying I'm an expert.

In this time, I shared my first date strategies with some of my friends who are not in the community, and they ended up giving me feedback on their effectiveness. It was fun! But most of all, I realized there's really a big opportunity to help people. When I left my job a few weeks ago, this gave me an idea. What If published an exhaustive ebook on these strategies, to help people who were struggling like I was initially?

What is it?

So that's what I'm doing - writing a "survival guide" if you will on first dates. After being on seddit and within my community for a few years, it seems there's really a dearth of information on how to be successful at first dates. Everyone focuses on approaching, "dating" in general, or simply how to sleep with women. But what if your goal is not to sleep with as many women as possible, but to connect with women and possibly find the right woman(women) for you? Dating is the only way to get there, and first dates are the most important because they determine if there's a second!

Currently, the guide will cover:

  • Defining what success means to you
  • Verifying the date and flaking
  • Logistics and venue selection
  • Importance of multiple locations
  • Energy
  • Power imbalances
  • Why drinking is important
  • Seeding a second date
  • The kiss
  • Novelty
  • Spontaneity and exceptionalism
  • Emotional connections
  • Closing

I'm around 75% of the way through on these subjects, but I'm always thinking of more information to cover. In general, I take a very much inner game, naturalistic approach to game and dating, so don't expect and "PUA" style tricks in here or red pill stuff, it'll be purely focused on holstic ways to improve your success when going on first dates.

I'm thinking of self publishing it on Amazon and selling it for a few bucks if all goes well. But fear not, fellow sedditors, I'll definitely be posting lots of content on here if I get enough interest. If this sounds like it's interesting to you, I'd love to get your feedback so I can make the guide as useful as possible.

Specifically:

What sounds most interesting to you and what would like the guide to cover if it's not listed above? Any other guides on this subject (first dates) you like a lot? How much would you pay for this as a digital download? Would anybody on here like to contribute stories or content?

Most of all, how can I make this guide totally awesome?

Let me know if you have any questions for me as well! Hopefully I can be some help to you all and people around the world.