This is probably a more generic question regarding basic social interactions than it is a question regarding seduction, nonetheless, I wanted this subreddit's input. This question has PUA implications so here goes. My (17M) question is regarding the difference between acting "immature" and being spontaneous, enthusiastic, and fun. I am not referring to immaturity regarding emotional control, but immaturity in the sense that my actions are perceived as "inappropriate". Here is an example. Today, I went sledding with a mixed group of guys and girls. Upon arriving, we gathered at the bottom of the hill. I yelled, "Race ya to the top!" and proceeded to sprint to the top of the snow covered hill, knowing full well nobody had joined in. I viewed this action as spontaneous and fun: a simple expression of my enthusiasm for sledding. I would have found legitimate pleasure in racing someone up that hill, but did not truly care whether or not anyone joined in (outcome independent). Many of my male friends in that group proceeded to poke fun at my "childish" antics and insinuated I had severe mental deficiencies. Initially, I brushed it off. Why bother ruining a great time by even acknowledging the negativity? But their reactions stuck with me all day. My friends have been responding in this manner quite often lately, that, or I have become more aware of their negativity. It seems the more outgoing I become, the more my friends "poke fun at me". The thing is, they take it too far and I get legitimately offended. These are my friends; I should be able to completely let my guard down and have some fun without the fear of being ridiculed. Its as if I make myself vulnerable and they take advantage of it.While this particular occurrence was not a very heinous account of my friends being assholes, it is a recent example that I can easily reflect on. I honestly try to not give a shit too much about petty things like this, but I feel like in doing so I'm avoiding a bigger issue. Here are my questions: Was this "race" immature? If so, should I work on this? I view this action as an indication of a genuine part of my personality, and am very hesitant to change it. How should I react when my friends are being assholes? Call them out on it right then and there? The difficult part would be to retain control of my emotions whilst acknowledging their assholiness. In the past, they proceed to make fun of how "butthurt" I get. In reality, I feel I am making them aware they have taken their joke too far. Should I wait for another situation without females and call them out on it? Should I ignore it completely? I have been doing this but I feel that appeasing their behavior will just allow it to get worse.
I guess, in behaving "immature" and fun, I make myself vulnerable. Vulnerability is a powerful tool, and if used properly, can really bring people closer together. I am having extreme difficulty determining how to not let my asshole friends walk all over me when I am vulnerable, whilst not being oversensitive to harmless jeering. Help would be appreciated.