Hi Seddit!

So thinking about this year and everything that's occurred I'd like to shed my advice to those who seek ;p. I am not saying I'm an expert but I'm pretty sure this is something everyone could use.

I've been single for close to two years now, this event happened about a year ago in January. I would read a lot on this sub reddit, different books, and pick up videos. Reading and applying are two different things and I learned that pretty fast. At first, my initial approaches were pretty awkward. Looking down, nervous when talking, and just being overall a sucker with stupid corny pick up lines ;p.... btw it didn't work that often. It wasn't until I finally got sick of these corny pick up lines, and tried my hardest to "pretend" I had confidence and swag. Therefore I then walked up to a REALLY cute curly haired white girl while she was working at the bar.

Instead of walking up to her telling her how cute she was, we talked about random things. I "pretended" and tried so hard to use all the advice I've gotten from all the material I've been reading. I looked at her eyes talking to me, back straight and neck up, continuing the conversation, making sure to make physical contact with her, reading her body language to see how she's feeling. From all signs she was into it, I was making her laugh and smile, she was moving closer, so eventually the obvious thing was to ask for her number in which I did. This was honestly the FIRST time I've ever gotten a girls number after my relationship by me at FIRST intitiating conversation. It felt AMAZING, but you know what happened after this.... nothing. We went on a couple of dates, we made out, but NEVER escalated to anything further. I remember asking her what intrigued her about me and she straight up told me " well you are so sure of yourself. You were so confident and the way you looked at me really turned me on. I've never met a guy who walked up to me and made me smile and feel wanted as you did". That at first it was all a mask, I took what I learned and while I used it in my "pick up" I never applied it to my life. All of what I learned I used at surface level, never really implementing these ideas to my every day life or even MYSELF.

This is where it gets PRETTY bad. My insecurity got the best of me to the point where (you're going to LAUGH at me) I use to go to her house to "watch" game of thrones in which I actually watched ALL the seasons without ever making a move on her. YES, the most virgin thing possible. Instead of taking her to pound town, I was more intrigued by the god damn TV SHOW! I watched all seasons of GOT at her house by herself in her room without doing anything. After that our conversations dulled down and she realized I wasn't the guy I was pretending to be. I was so insecure, when I was with her I would doubt myself. Instead of saying " well she has me here, obviously she wants me", I used to say "I don't know, I mean she COULD want me.. but I think she just wants to watch GOT, right.... I mean I don't know...". This lead to the demise of this hookup, but taught me a valuable lesson. All those things I "learned" really were at surface level. While I used the advice given to me, I never really applied to to who I am. I never really accepted who I WAS therefore even though we've made out I never made a move further because I was too insecure in myself. Too afraid to REALLY do anything because I felt I WASN'T GOOD ENOUGH, THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART.

I think EVERYONE should realize this important fact that I came to after my most virgin moment. Work on yourself FIRST, and learn to accept YOURSELF. If someone isn't willing to accept you for 100% of who you are and forces you to change, FUCK THEM. Women are really good at picking on subtle things, especially insecurity. It wasn't until I was truly confident in the person who I AM, where I would walk up to anyone and think "if she doesn't like me, who cares their are plenty of other women out there". I think my issue was I would fall head over heels over EVERY girl I saw and put all of them on a pedestal, until I remembered this one FACT. There are billions of women in the world, why stress over one girl who doesn't like who you are, why PRETEND to be a guy she wants. I thought confidence meant displaying it, "pretending" was a lot of what I use to do. Now I'm confident in a different way and it works out A LOT MORE. I've noticed talking to women my success is at a higher percentage ;p. Women always tell me how I'm not like other guys, I've gotten compliments from women telling me how confident or passionate or intriguing I am. Never in my life have I been complimented the way I am, the best part is it stems to all aspects of your life. I have a great group of friends who accept my for me, I'm happy every single day with my career, and I've been able to talk to PLENTY of women and have love rejection as it's always a funny story.

My advice for ANYONE going in for the "pickup game" the most important thing to realize is accepting yourself and being confident in the person you are is the most important step. It wasn't until I displayed TRUE confidence did I start to have more success with NOT ONLY Women, but at my job.. and with friends. I think experience is the best way to start anything, from your failures comes success. From all those times girls either put their hand on my face, laughed at me, or told me to hop off I don't EVEN REMEMBER THOSE GIRLS ANYMORE. One of the hardest part of approaching is thinking "I'm going to get rejected". I don't remember any of those girls, and i'm sure they don't remember me. So I challenge you today! Stop making excuses and realize YOU have something to offer a women that another man can't. No matter how you look, what your hobbies, SOME GIRL WILL FIND you intoxicating, even if you're 4 inches hard! ;p.

Anyways!!! have a great day and the rest of 2015 you better approach on my behalf! Also thanks to EVERYONE on Seddit, my life overall IS 10000000000% better thank to your guys advice. Nothing cheers me up more to read the funny stories of approaching women or even the successes, deep down inside I feel like I won too ;p