..the issue is that it's largely inconsequential to picking up women.

The world doesn't owe you anything for being nice and it will take advantage of your best intentions. So if the only thing you're bringing to the table is that you're not an asshole, then women really don't have a reason to date you or fuck you. Because why do those last two things when you'll likely offer emotional support for free?

Now, as a (mostly) recovered nice guy I'm not saying just turn into an asshole and treat women like shit. I've had loads more success this year by remaining the same person but also being upfront with women, opening more sets and embracing my male sexuality. What I'm saying is to use resources like /r/seduction to become a better version of yourself. Don't become some huge prick just to get your dick wet. Just accept female attraction for what it is and enlighten yourself.

I remember a post here a year or two ago that referenced the Roman saying amor fati. The translation is "love your fate." The idea of this saying is that you should love everything, the good, the bad, the elation, and the suffering, because at the end of the day it makes you who you are and you don't want to be anything else. This even applies to immutable truths about the universe and more specifically to this subreddit, dating dynamics. Yes it sucks for shy guys and those that aren't terribly outgoing to have the onus put on them for approaching girls and collecting numbers. But, it's just the way it is. Accept it, move on, and evolve.