Hey guys,

I’m writing this post to hopefully start a project that I’ve been planning for some time. Please bear with me and read it, because I’m sure some of you will have an interest in participating in it. Finding your way as a man in today’s society is difficult, as I presume it’s always been in a certain sense, but with traditional masculine values falling more out of favor in the general eyes of society (at least, as it seems to me) I spot more and more young men having difficulties establishing themselves in society and living a healthy, self assured life.

Groups like this one try to teach men about success in different aspects of their life like dating in this case, or finance, or health and I think that is an absolutely wonderful thing, however the information is somewhat fragmented and scattered in posts that reach back many years. Young men that are unsure of themselves are in danger of drifting into multiple states of being that are harmful to themselves and people in general.

What comes to mind to me first is the Incel community for example. Anyone of you who has looked into these kinds of forums (or maybe has been one themself) knows that some of these boys and men (not all of course and probably not even the majority) are unfortunately in a very dark place, which can lead to a lot of problems. In today’s times the gaze on society seems more focused on women and their problems, which are equally important, but not the reason I’m writing to you here today, but I’ve rambled on enough.

In this Subreddit and many others there are wonderful people and mentor-esque characters, that share their wisdom to help other men become a little bit better than they were yesterday. Since we all have a bit more time on our hands at the moment I want to propose a project to those of you that want to help. I would like us to write a guide together written by men for other men to help them find their way in this world with honesty and integrity. Topics I want to include are many but some examples would be

How to confront life with integrity and honesty How to develop a sense of worth and confidence How to find hobbies and discover your interests How to educate yourself and get away from the constant polarization of today How to engage in meaningful relationships with women and people in general How to keep yourself healthy and fit How to develop a style and sense of clothing

Now some of you might think that some of these things are very subjective and one should discover them for oneself and I absolutely agree, what I would like us all to contribute to is a document that shows the way, not necessarily the answer. A guide a lost young man can pick up and find strength of purpose in.

Nowadays there’s so many “gurus” and “pick up artists” that prey on the insecurities of these young men and it pisses me the fuck off. I hope together we can make something free, a community project that anyone can pick up, whether they lack in one department or multiple and have a guide that helps them develop to be the best version of them they can be.

That being said I really dislike the idea of shortcuts and I don’t want his to be one of them “get girls quick” or “get ripped quick” type of things. This is supposed o produce real results tied to real work.

I know that there are some books out there that touch on some of these points, but where I see the difference is that this knowledge will be drawn from communities that have great knowledge in these fields. Also some of you have read these books, applied them in your life’s and found the strengths and weaknesses.

I really hope we can get the ball rolling with this and create something truly great. Again I want this to be as objective and bias free as possible, so anyone can pick it up and it can be given to anyone.

Thank you tremendously for making it this far. If you’re interested drop me a message, so I can see how many people would like to participate. If we get this ball rolling I want it to be a community effort in every aspect. Should we see a success here I also plan to involve other reddit communities that have useful knowledge or this project.

Thank you so much.

I may post this again depending on engagement because I need as many people as possible to see this. I’m not planning on spamming It, just wanted to touch on this point just in case.

tl;dr: I’m proposing a community project, writing a comprehensive guide that helps men develop and find their way in the world and I could really use your help.