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[–]StephenDawg 13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, because it's your first I would say it is. I think this is the time where you learn how to reset expectations.
[–]surgisub 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Reset expectations in what way?
[–]MattsIgloo 4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I guess he means like once you’ve had your first it opens you up to the fact that the other person your with has to be 100% into the idea of a relationship as well as you. And so the next time you hit it off with someone to not get carried away so easily as it may not end up going anywhere, I learned this the hard haha
[–]surgisub 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I see, my first relationship lasted 4 years. It taught me dont settle
[–]MattsIgloo 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Damn I can’t even imagine the pain after a four years let alone a couple months haha
[–]surgisub 5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Man I'm still hung up about it sometimes, but she cheated on me 2 months in. I stayed because I felt like I couldn't find someone again and she helped me alot, she showed me how to care for a woman honestly and im glad she left me because I'd never had broken up with her, she was good but at the same time she knew how to keep me around. I did love her but she always made me feel like I couldn't talk about emotions, she didn't make me feel weak or anything it was almost like they didn't matter, only hers. A relationship relies on 2 people willing to he there for each other forever. The people who say there's a honeymoon phase its not true. Your whole relationship will be happy. Unless yall have issues, i always feared shed cheat again which is why i didn't marry her. Ill find a real woman to love me and be loyal from the start. She cheated on all her exs too, blamed it on them.
Remember folks:
Once a cheater always a cheater.
[–]Jay_Bonk 5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It means you need more exposure to women so you don't get oneitis
[–]MattsIgloo 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What’s oneitis?
[–]Jay_Bonk 6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thinking that one woman is the "one" and the only possible way to be happy
[–]romdeodelta 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Normal? Today, yes. You've been programed, and you're sick. Healthy? Fuuuuuuuck no. So get some strange b5 whatever means necessary and build the empire that is you.
[–]oc974 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You and me both. It's been less than a month but we felt the connection. We both realized that my lack of maturity meant that our timing to be compatible was off. it was even confirmed by my therapist and it hurts a lot to know that if I just spoke with him sooner maybe things would be different.
[–]Aaron12345667 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You definitely need to go out and meet new people, it helps take your mind off it.. I was with my last girlfriend for 4yrs i was devastated when it ended for multiple reasons but i went out and my current(my wife together for 16yrs now) took me out and showed me how to live again..no matter how hard it is keep moving and go out, be around other people..
[–]Stoner_skateboarder 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
How did you meet her? What did you two have in common? What would you two do together? Some more details if you don’t mind sharing.
[–]MattsIgloo 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
We met on tinder, mainly it was music we had in common and tbh I can’t really think of much else that was a stand out we just got along quite well. We’d just chill in bed and mess around if u catch my drift and talk about random stuff yano. I mean I could tell after a few weeks that it wasn’t going to last because I was the one always asking if she’d want to meet or do something and texting became quite stale but I tried to salvage it because I’m a simp haha
[–]phillycheezesteak 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Sometimes women just want to bang. shrug Thinking she was on one page, and you were on another. Or on the same page and caught feelings quickly. It happens.
[–]romdeodelta 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Women always want to bang, with improving their social status in between if they can. Especially if it helps their offspring.
Boom, there you go: females.
[–]phillycheezesteak 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or creating offspring.
[–]Stoner_skateboarder 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn sucks dude lmao
[–]romdeodelta 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You knew it wasn't going to last.
You admit defeat.
And guys don't do music except to get chics.
So get back out there and score, or muddy the gene pool.
[–]Queen-of-meme 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is not love. I'm pretty sure you realize that too. This was Infatuation hook up/ attraction phase. She made you feel good about yourself as long as she wanted you. And now when she don't anymore, you don't like yourself as much.
So. You need to learn how to like yourself with or without a womans validation. Date yourself for a change Be curious about yourself. What passions do you have in life? What hobbies do you wanna be doing? What things do you value in life? What goals do you have for yourself? And think about bigger things outside yourself, outside impressing girls. That will ground you and make you okay with rejections further on cause when you see that you matter, no one can convince you any different.
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