It has to be perfect.

ithearrow · 2014-05-18T03:51:17+00:00

Focus on one thing at a time. Right now your education seems to be what makes you happiest and what you enjoy the most. Just meet some female friends right now, thats it. If you're comfortable with something, so will the girl.

Ebonic · 2014-05-18T06:49:02+00:00

Save your money for now. If you're looking for inexpensive/free dates you can find a ton of things just by googling it. By your major, I'm guessing there's not many girls in your classes, so I'm not sure what to do there. Good luck player.

throwaway8348309829 · 2014-05-18T16:26:34+00:00

Money and looks, when used incorrectly, negatively impact your value.

If I met a girl where would I take her?

Ask yourself this. When you have a good girlfriend, does she hang out with you because you take her cool places? Or does she hang out with you because she likes spending time with you?

You're setting your personal standards too high. You don't need to be some perfect idea of yourself in order to be attractive to women.

I'm not doing a fucking thing wiht my life and it's a Saturday and it's summer and this is fuckign stupid.

Go out and approach.

What I'm getting from this is, sure, you're doing a lot of beneficial things with respect to self-improvement. Focusing on education, exercising, all fantastic things. Seriously, I'm not trying to be condescending. The thing is, it seems as though you're still not approaching.

Potz666 · 2014-05-18T15:51:08+00:00

Sometimes we have to put our current wants on hold so that we can get what we really want down the road. It seems to me like you have realised this but are having a bit of a tough time sticking to it at the moment. This is normal! I don't think you arent "doing a fucking thing" with your life, rather look at it this way: You are working on improving your value as best as you can given the current situation. You can't always change the situation but you can decide how you react to it.

Here are some value based things I thought of which will hopefully help you out:

Moving out You might not be able to afford to move out of your parents house right now but start working towards it. The reason so many people suggest this (other than the obvious bringing a girl home logistics) is because when you move out you have to do things for yourself, this makes you self-reliant and is a huge confidence boost. You can begin to work towards this while you are living with your folks by doing the following, these things can suck but they pay off is worth it:

Do your own laundry - May as well learn this dark art now
Cook your own meals (or cook for the family if you can) - this is a necessary skill when you live alone, may as well start practicing now while you can get tips and tricks from whoever cooks at home
Keep your room neat and orderly - When you live alone and bring a girl home, you probably don't want her grossed out by your place, same applies here.
Pay rent - even if it's a small token amount, this will get you used to the concept of a budget.

Fitness You seem to have this covered, keep it up, it can only help you.

Money Don't sacrifice your future earning potential and career by sacrificing your studies for a current job. As long as your current job isn't interfering too much keep it up. There are probably a ton of blogs and resources out there on how to save as much as possible. When you go out, try not drinking. Your conversation can actually improve if you aren't trashed. You could even turn it in to a bit of a game and try get other people to buy you a drink.

Fashion It actually matters very little what brand name clothing you are wearing. Fit is king when it comes to clothing. Wear items that aren't very baggy and show that you take care of your body. After fit, you want clothing that is made of decent material. Stuff that isn't going to disintegrate in the washing machine or feels scratchy to wear.

Socialising/Game You have a limiting belief that you need to spend money on a girl to get her to like you/sleep with you. As long as your believe this it will remain true to you. Think about it this way, has a guy ever hooked up with a girl at a house/frat party? How much do you think he spent on her? You don't have to provide a girl with the most expensive date, she isn't going to calculate at the end of the night how much you spent on her and then if it's above a certain limit decide to sleep with you. It's all about the emotions she feels when she is with you, take her for a romantic walk/picnic in the park. Walk around the mall and have a good time people watching. Take a pack of cards while you are on campus and if you feel it's right play some blackjack/poker for kisses on the grass. There are tons of date ideas that don't involve much money, be imaginative! As for bringing a girl home to your parents place, it's up to you, talk to them about it first and make sure they are okay with it. Then if you are okay with it and don't make a big deal out of it the girl probably won't care. I have a friend who lives with his folks and regularly brings home new girls, he doesn't care that he lives with his folks because he is saving up money to buy a house. If the girl mentions it he tells them not to worry, if they have a problem with it, he moves on. In addition you never know if she has her own place for the two of you to go. If you aren't comfortable bringing a girl home who isn't your GF, the focus on expanding your social circle with both guys and girls. Work on your socialising skills and escalating to the point where she actually wants to go home with you. That way when you do move out you will have a bunch of skills ready to go.

Title	It has to be perfect.
Author	throwaway8348309829
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	May 18, 2014 12:44 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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