It may feel stupid, but when you get yourself comfortable with looking people in the eye, start saying "Hello" as the next step to beat approach anxiety, and see what happens. Infield video

hamfraigaar · 2015-10-23T20:16:57+00:00

I'm actually writing an article about this exact problem for my blog. "Speak Now Or Forever Hold Your Peace". We are all social beings. If you feel like you can't be social, it's because you're not speaking. As soon as you start opening up your mouth, it becomes natural, instantly. There can still be a lot to work on, but it starts with opening your mouth.

Because as long as you're quiet, you're going to keep being quiet. Like when you're at a movie theater and the movie ends, everyone leaves quietly. Yet after a heated discussion in an interesting university lecture, everyone's always talk talk talking when they leave, even if it's before the break for the rest of the students. One group is allowed to talk but doesn't, the other isn't allowed to talk, but does. Why? Simply because one group is momentarily used to talking, the other isn't. It's like if you sit on your couch, you don't feel like moving. The moment you start running, you don't feel like stopping (unless of course when you run out of energy, but that's a discussion for another day).

flclimber · 2015-10-23T21:11:04+00:00

Always start with hello.

MasterPoiuy · 2015-10-23T18:36:27+00:00

Nice video. Truth is once you start doing that, you realize most people are nervous too and they'll try to look away.

bilgee0629 · 2015-10-24T12:19:23+00:00

Wow, my anxiety is on whole new level. I even felt uncomfortable for the guy just watching the video.

V4refugee · 2015-10-23T19:25:33+00:00

Nice video. From a behavioral perspective this should help you advance quickly.

xu7 · 2015-10-24T12:25:20+00:00

Looks like they are really HAPPY and want to share the FUN.

johnnymaddick · 2015-10-23T17:13:03+00:00

First complete step one - eye gazing.

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