Pickup, seduction, gaming....

I'm used to stuck in the loophole that all this is a number games (which is true to an extend , you can't get every girl on this planet.) and it helped me in the past. I want to start dating higher quality girls, and I know it is detrimental that your game has to step up. Whether it be a better opener, a better tonality, better posture, better kino, better sense of when to pull back and tease, being more subtle in your communication, so forth.

I like to think things are getting better. At the moment I expect myself to see a breakthrough within next 2 week (either I'm being too optimistic or too much expectation of myself). But I'm going to push it.

So to put thing easier for myself, I like to break things down and only focus on some certain aspect of my game. I could list hundred what need to be fixed, but I'm gonna highlight some major hole in my game.

  1. Ejecting too early

Something I still want to get grips with, I realize I'm playing to lose instead of win, meaning sometime I prefer to protect my ego than go a step further to push to limit of my interaction to get the girls. When you playing to win, you might get rejected but you got better feedback of where went wrong. While ejecting early you lack the feedback of what could have done better.

Solution: Stay 2 mins longer than the girl casually want. This allow you to build thicker skin than before and chance to getmaybe-girl more often.

2) Pause

Something I learn from hip-hop dance, while big bouncy move with smooth body isolation makes you a great dancer, the occasional "paused and pose" when the beat switch, is what makes enable your dance to be delivered smoother. It shows confidence, it show coolness, and prove to people you know what you're doing. *In pickup*, sometime i talk too fast and not enough pause to let the girl invest. I had improved in this area but like to work more on it.

Solution: For the next hundred interaction, as I pause I want to consciously feel I'm breathing in my body as I maintained good strong eye contact. It also subconsciously allow me to talk slower. Science did say woman are more attracted to man that talk slow, it shows confidence and maturity.

3) Start approaching outside comfort zone

I come to realize that I consciously sway from group approaches, girls that are above 9 and whatever excuse when I start to warm up.

Solution: Like taking a cold bath in early morning, the first splash is gonna let you feel like dying, but the following cold splash on your body felt nothing. In short, approach the hardest set you see immediately, even if I look like a fool. Doesn't has to be number close or anything, just approach the hardest set.

4)Stop trying to look cool

A bit of paradoxical this one, while being cool as in socially aware what happening around you and be show humor and confidence kind of cool is...cool. But consciously try to look cool when approaching could be self defeating. Speaking personally when there's a lot of people in mall and if I know i approach I might get attention, I was thinking how can I make people mentally clap for me, some swag opener. I watched a video from a pickup coach he said it best. Real seduction isn't some fancy swinging girls across arm and fancy joke that make her giggler to no end. Though it may help, real seduction is building emotional connection.

Solution: stop trying to overthink and focus the 3-second rule.

This is the 3 main thing I will be focusing on for next few days , daygame/nightgame, I just gonna force myself to be better. If you guys are still reading this, thanks lol. Will post follow up to my experiment. Have a nice weekend