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Just wanted to say thanks.

bixiedust102 · 2014-04-06T15:53:41+00:00

I've been lurking this sub for a while and taking pointers. The main thing I took away from the posts was "confidence is key" and you...

bixiedust102

April 6, 2014

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Title	Just wanted to say thanks.
Author	bixiedust102
Upvotes	17
Comments	8
Date	April 6, 2014 3:53 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/22cmjd/just_wanted_to_say_thanks/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/just-wanted-to-say-thanks.1294787 https://theredarchive.com/post/1294787

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[–]bixiedust102[S] 15 points16 points17 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

The old me was a generally unhappy coward who only did things to see other people's happiness. I was a pushover and I always ended up feeling sad and sorry for myself when things didn't go my way. I had no confidence and my mentality towards women was all about focusing on one girl at a time. Big mistake. Anyway, I woke up one day after a night of drinking at the bars with friends, and I finally realized how unsuccessful I was at playing my life the way I wanted it to be played. My friends asked me to DD, and you know I said "yes". I got turned down by every girl at the bars, and I went to bed sad and alone. I was tired of it, so I said "Fuck this shit. Life isn't going to hand me shit for free. If I want something, I need to be somewhat selfish, and I need to start being more aggressive, assertive, and demanding."

For women I used to think that if I was caring and dealt genuine compliments, then a girl would be able to see how interested I was in her. If she was interested too, I imagined it would all work out somehow like some damn fairy tale or something. So many failed attempts until there was a one BIG failure. This one girl was perfect. She was a beautiful, tall, blonde, really down to earth, super chill, and friendly girl. I felt like I was in a fucking Disney movie or something because her personality complimented mine in so many ways and it was just awesome idk... She even made it clear that she was interested in me. I thought it was gonna work out, but nope. I was way too forward with the compliments and I would always speak in a way that would let her have complete control. "Hey do you want to hang out today?" as opposed to "I'm free this afternoon. Let's hang out." would always lead to some excuse or she just wouldn't respond. I would just get obsessed and stress out about it, and she could tell that I was obsessed. She greatly distanced herself, and I can now understand why. I had an "Aha" moment. How would I feel if someone I didn't know too well was showering me with compliments and let me decide everything? What a fucking boring person I was. So I started to change my approach by being more aggressive. "You should give me your number." worked WAY better than "Can I have your number?" and I would talk with so much confidence that it was actually kind of funny.

CONFIDENCE IS KEY. WITHOUT CONFIDENCE, YOU HAVE NOTHING. I began talking to girls like I was the hottest guy on the planet, but in a way that would get them to laugh or smile because I'm kinda goofy and a lot of girls love that shit. You can't even say that I was pretending to be hot shit. I had to convince myself and BELIEVE that I truly was, and I am ;). If some shit head at a party called me out, I would keep up the hot shit persona, and after a while I got really good at getting everyone to laugh at that person for being a dick, cause keep in mind I'm obviously not the hottest guy on the planet. It was kind of a joke, but women loved it. They wanted to get to know me. And yea, sometimes you get a girl who's truly not interested. Her loss, and then I move on to the next one.

As far as being the pushover, it came to a point where I was completely stressed out and I was sacrificing time and effort in my already-thinly-spread day to make shit work for everyone but myself. So I just applied the same kind of rules to everything in life. I suddenly didn't have time to work with other people's bullshit. And maintaining a little cockiness makes you an interesting fucking person. "I'm the best in the world at insert current activity here" unless I actually didn't know what I was doing. Then my friend, then you ask for help. But don't be a pussy about it. "Can I possibly get your help setting up this printer?" NO. More like "You are fucking awesome at setting up printers, you should help me out dude." Anyway, after this new found confidence came into my life, everything is different. People respect me, ladies love me, and I'm getting better at everything I set my mind to. I've gotten more numbers and success stories in the past month than I had ever received previously in my life.

I'm rambling, but you can seriously change your life if you just man the fuck up and stop acting like a little bitch. You are an important mother fucker, so prove it. Do you have any idea what you're going to accomplish with your life? A lot of awesome and interesting shit because that's what you are, awesome interesting. Don't give me bullshit excuses, just fucking stop. You are the hottest piece of shit to hit existence, you are wasting your time obsessing over and worrying about shit that you KNOW is stupid. Grow a pair, go talk to that girl/guy that you see at lunch everyday and convince them that you're interesting and awesome, because you ARE. And if they don't give you the time of day, forget them because they're not worth your precious time. You're reading this right now thinking "Wow he's right, I am awesome and I need to get my shit together." I cannot tell you how many times I've been in your exact situation, thinking the exact same thing. Then tomorrow comes and it's back to the whole "I'm gonna be a little bitch today and try not to step on any toes." Don't do that to yourself. Would you treat someone as poorly as you are treating yourself right now?

I'm not sorry for the long response. You can take the time to read it. As far as answering your question, I didn't really rebuild myself. I just realized that I treat myself like shit, so I started behaving like the awesome person that I know I am.

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