Keep having negative thoughts when escalating

SemiAwesomeness · 2016-10-19T08:11:07+00:00

You don't escalate: You don't get the girl.

You escalate and she doesn't like it: You don't get the girl.

Nothing to lose.

2016-10-19T15:02:02+00:00

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quinntuplets · 2016-10-19T04:39:57+00:00

Know that you are always enough

TheXXL · 2016-10-19T09:23:50+00:00

You sound quite condescending on your friend, maybe it's just the frustration speaking from you, or you are that way. I mean this:

My friend, who is by no means an alpha male

and this:

I was objectively, better looking than my friend here

and i don't point this out to hate on you, i could not care less, but i think this has an influence on your fear of escalation. You might have the mindset that you have to have looks to attract women, which is obviously not true, since as you say your overweight friend was having much more success than you.

This must have destroyed your worldview, and this is good, because only when it is destroyed, and it seems like it was a wrong view anyways, you can build it up again with a more realistic perspective. So basically, what i recommend is to stop comparing yourself to others, stop putting all your effort in superficialities rather than personality, since this is what really matters to people, and women when it comes to attraction. Build up your confidence based on your personality traits, not your "objective looks" which is btw. not at all objective, but subjective. There is a slight difference, since what one person thinks looks good, another will think looks bad.

Next time you are out with your friend, and he is having tons of fun and gets girls left and right, stop being jealous about it, and just observe what he does! Learn from him, look up to him, rather than looking down on him for his outer shell, and let it push you to succeed also. Take risks, because every risk you don't take when it comes to escalating with women, is a loss of opportunity.

depredador93 · 2016-10-19T16:02:16+00:00

How do you overcome fear? By doing it despite having the fear... In time you start to realise that it's your own head messing with you and that fear becomes meaningless and sometimes even fades away.

Oh and looks don't matter broski.

Title	Keep having negative thoughts when escalating
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Date	October 19, 2016 4:33 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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