Ok, I have a bit of a problem, even if it is a good problem to have. I've noticed with the women I've been with since I started dating again after my divorce, that it seems that once any touching at all starts, they're willing to go as far as I will take it. I'm not used to being in the driver's seat like this, as in my marriage I was in a dead bedroom situation for the last 10 years of it. The reason I classify this as a "problem" was that I told myself after the last time this happened, "ok, no sex unless it's in a committed relationship!". And then once again I failed to keep myself in check and I get caught up in the heat of the moment.

Any tips for reigning in the lust? Like I said, I can't count on assuming that I'll get a "Ok, let's just keep it here" signal from the woman because I just haven't gotten those yet.