Long-term relationship seduction

norwegiandoggo · 2025-10-12T17:41:53+00:00

Ask him what he likes. If he has fantasies

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-10-12T22:52:01+00:00

Keep him happy and respect his independence. Let him be him. The sex drive for my ex-wife only dipped when I lost respect for her as a person and she refused to seek help for her mental illness/BPD. Otherwise, the key was to not be entirely predictable. Change everything up like where you get frisky, what time of day, how you do it and so forth. And continue to tease each other.

Just because you're a long term couple doesn't mean you can't enjoy each other for many years. The key in my experiences is if I'm happy and happy with her, then the intimacy will generally be great as well. Stay fit, eat healthy and continue to carry on the relationship while enjoying your life with and without your partner around. By that, I mean don't be afraid to have friends and hobbies that don't involve your partner for everything.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-10-12T16:47:49+00:00

Wear sexy outfits. Randomly drop on your knees and offer him a blowjob, especially in semi-public places or with the blinds up at home.

Talk about sex randomly with him. Tell him how sexy he's looking that day.

DirtySanchez8--D · 2025-10-12T18:59:02+00:00

Shop for toys

cmjaxon81 · 2025-10-12T21:45:14+00:00

Do a couples boudoir session

Matter_Still · 2025-10-13T22:19:21+00:00

The legendary psychiatrist had a brilliant solution.

The fire had gone out for a couple married twenty years. They slept in the same bed with pajamas and robes.

He said, "If I am to help you, you must do exactly as I say. Make the room a little warmer, and sleep without any bed clothes. Nothing. You must sleep naked. Here is the critical part: under no circumstances must you even allow your skin to touch. Not even for a moment. And it goes without saying, you must not engage in ANY intimate behavior--no touching, kissing, nothing of the sort."

A week went by and they returned.

"Did you follow my instructions?"

"We tried. But it was impossible--at least for longer than an hour. We wound up having sex like kids again. I just had to touch her, and she me. We're sorry if we disappointed you."

The psychiatrist said, it happens. "We'll try again. Perhaps in a different place. Can you spend a night in a hotel?"

They did, with the same result.

Finally, he said, "Let's try one more thing. The nights are warm. Try sleeping on your balcony. Perhaps if you feared being seen--or overhearing someone say, 'I couldn't help it. My apartment is across the courtyard, a few floors higher, and I saw Mark and Katherine having sex like wild animals--on their balcony', that would be enough to discourage you."

They returned one final time. "We were very concerned about being seen. I don't think we could have been. But we still felt as if we were doing something wanton, and that made it even more difficult to follow your instructions."

The shrink said, "Do you really need to talk to me any more?"

The technique is called "paradoxic intention". The therapist instructs the client to deliberately try to do the unwanted behavior. In this case, that behavior was humdrum sex. The shrink mandated they could have no sex, which triggered a desire to have some sex--and, incrementally, in more "taboo" places. Tell your kids, "You can have a cookies, a piece of cake, or ice cream, but you CANNOT have one of those brownies. They are for company."

What do you think is going to happen?

Title	Long-term relationship seduction
Author	desperateHouseUnwife
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	October 12, 2025 2:30 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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