Hi all,

I've been having a great time socializing and working on my game, just embracing natural flow with some techniques in the back of my mind, but I've found a few situations lately that I'm trying to get my mind right about. I think this will help a lot of people who find themselves in my position, so here goes:

I'm an expat right now, not sure how long I'll be in Germany. I've recently gotten in tight with a bunch of people who play beach volleyball (I'm becoming the king of the court). Most of the people I first came in contact with are girls. Lots of really hot, bikini-wearing girls.

Here's the point of frustration that has come about there: I get IoI's and things that would be fantastic opportunities to flirt and escalate with these girls, but either ALL or ALL BUT ONE (who I can't think of right now) have boyfriends. Also, I have been a boyfriend before, and I've been cheated on. So I'm trying to decide what's right in treating-a-girl-with-a-boyfriend land. Literally today a girl let me rub her body clean of sand as we rinsed in the public shower, and she not once, but three times pulled her top away enough to let me see down. Pretty sure she was aware, and I even made comment about it.

So, from where I stand, it's all green lights except the fact of the boyfriend. I don't really want to make enemies or be a "home wrecker", but I realize I kind of have a victim's perspective here from past experience. I also hooked up with a girl with a bf before and she didn't keep it from him and I felt really bad about that situation and she and I don't speak anymore at all. What's good perspective on this issue that is self-respecting for me, but also socially responsible (good karma plus self-fulfillment)? I'm looking for something a little more helpful than "all's fair in love and war" or something.

Issue number two is a bit different entirely, but could also apply here. I am often out alone, since I am the foreign traveler here, and I get a specific kind of AA when out. Generally, this is when approaching groups or any time I have to pick a girl... even who to give eye contact to in the street if I pass two girls. My anxiety arises when I don't really have a strong singular preference, but I don't want to alienate the "best" opportunity. What are some tips for interacting with multiple girls that leave my options open without immobilizing myself from making progress? Is it just as simple as "shut up, pick one, isolate"?

Thanks in advance for your perspectives!