Love for yourself?

LantumQuotus · 2012-06-04T00:50:58+00:00

One prerequisite to loving yourself is being happy. You need to really ask yourself if you're happy, and if you're not, ask yourself why. Much, much, much more often than not, people are unhappy because they force themselves to be as opposed to being unhappy for any deep-seeded reason. There are happy people who grew up poor, molested, and abused, and there are unhappy people who are wealthy, healthy, and successful. You can be happy, anyone can be happy.

Love that you're alive and that you have potential, whatever that potential is. Love the fact that there are things in life that you haven't done yet, and love the fact that you can wake up every day and do some of them. Love the fact that you are you and no one else, because if you were anyone else, you wouldn't be you. Love that you take up space and air and that you have a voice and that you can think. Love all of that, all the time. Then you'll be closer to being happy.

When you're happy, you will by definition love yourself. When you are happy and you love yourself, you'll love being with other people. When you love being with other people, they'll love being with you, and this will all make you happier and make you love yourself more. You'll then be caught in a run-away process that leads to loving every second of every day, meeting great friends and experiencing great things. Oh yeah, and then you'll get girls too.

EDIT: Added a very important "if".

kingcal · 2012-06-04T05:10:16+00:00

A smile is made or broken by your eyes. You have to show emotion in your eyes, otherwise the emotion looks "soulless" as you put it. Try touching your tongue to the back of your top teeth and laughing very slightly. It causes your cheeks to rise and squint your eyes, which makes for a very natural smile. I've been doing it for a couple years when I read about tips for holding smiles in pictures. Works great.

vaginitischlamydia · 2012-06-04T15:28:11+00:00

You said one thing that really hit home. When you try really hard to love yourself and be happy, it typically just gets harder. The ultimate is to just feel ease as you look at your self in the mirror, talk to yourself, whatever you need to do to feel better. Another thing you can also try is to get the love flowing first. An easy way to do this is to project love to an object (I know it sounds strange but try it) and keep projecting until you genuinely feel a connection with said object - could be plant, a water droplet in the shower, your puppy, whatever. The whole point is that you need to activate these dormant emotional regions of your brain, and if you haven't loved yourself for a long time, it can be easier to direct it to something else before conquering yourself.

2012-06-03T23:15:50+00:00

good point. Also try to be the perosn that you want to be. when you are on your way to becoming that person you will be glad to see your won smile . at least that is what i am doing

Title	Love for yourself?
Author	MonsieurleLoupe
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	June 3, 2012 10:28 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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