I want to start by thanking you guys. The posts in this sub have helped me tremendously specially working on my inner self.

A brief background: While in my first Sem in college me and one of my female classmates (Jay) started working at the same office on campus.

Initially we didn’t talk much, well, I didn’t talk much mostly because I was going through a rough patch in my life. I had lost my guardians and my wife.

But during the end of the semester I had found my grove back.

We started talking.

The current situation: We started talking with her hinting towards romance a lot. She isn’t my type, like at all, but through our conversations I found out she’s a lot more than her looks, she reads, sews, is a homebody, she’s super smart. She’s never been in an intimate situation let alone a relationship.

After a while the hints got a lot more frequent like constantly hovering around me, sneaking pictures of me and trying to grab my attention with stuff like purposefully dropping something near me or poking a pencil at me randomly.

I asked her out once but she said No. I didn’t sweat it and took it like a champ, didn’t make things awkward. But the hints are still there.

One day a girl came to me for help. While talking she started flirting with me. Apparently Jay was eavesdropping on us from a distance and immediately started to hover around and tried to make her presence known or rather tried to grasp my attention by handing me my Celsius can with a funny note on it and by passing funny on liners while walking past us. This behavior has been getting more and more prevalent in the past few weeks.

I have started to like her but I don’t know if I should pursue it more.

My friends tell me to keep on pursuing because she might be nervous the first time but will eventually warm up to it. I think I should just move on because she isn’t ready to move further.

What do you guys think? What should I do?