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[–]fezzesarecool4768 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I would listen to your gut. Don't text her, and just try to recover on Sunday.
[–]PEbeling 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yea that's what I figure. Try and recover sunday and next week and if things look good ask her to coffee or something(in person obviously).
[–]lacksfish 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even go one step further and get another girls number in the coming days before Sunday. Puts you in a good spot emotionally I'd say.
[–]jefffffffff 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't even try and ask her out on Sunday imo. Sounds like she's already gotten cold. She's not icy cold yet. Last thing you want to do it heat her up too fast. Play it cool. You need to be unneedy in your interactions with her at work. Don't expect that she will want to talk to you the whole time and that you should value every second with her. Just approach work like she isn't there. Be more casual about it. Your on your path to 1itis town. And There are no return trips.
[–]PEbeling 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wasn't going to ask sunday haha. I meant possibly in the future if things don't go south. And yea that is the plan just go to work like normal like nothing is different and go from there.
[–]DeadShot91 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
This is why it's so important to continue talking to other women even when you like one. All of us have been in the position where you find that girl you're genuinely interested in and mess it up because you become overly invested too soon. Don't feel bad. Listen to your gut and don't text her. The most important thing to do is TALK TO OTHER GIRLS. If you focus all your energy trying to recover with this one girl, you will continue to become more and more invested while also pushing her away. Hope this helps.
Thanks! Yea I have a couple other girls I have been talking to at work as well, and am going to try and focus on them so I'm not limiting myself and messing up because of it.
[–]TakingNapsAllDay 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes!! This is exactly what OP needs to do. If you can, do some light fun flirting at work but keep texting to a minimum. If you can help it don't even text her back sometimes
Ok cool! Yea luckily I should still be able to flirt in person and such since I caught myself before things might have taken a turn for the worse haha.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good advice.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Man I did this with a chick I met about a month ago. We actually started dating and THEN I got way too needy and texting back too much and too fast. This pushed her away and She lost interest. I deleted her number and am trying to not contact her at all with the hopes she texts me sometime. I really liked her.
Edit- thing is, before we started "dating" and we're just flirting and talking and stuff, She was the one sending tons of texts really fast, and I was actually getting annoyed and tired of texting and told her this. She understood and stepped back a little, but after we started dating and I starting liking her a whole lot was when I got needy and she started barely texting no back or with short responses. I fucked it up
[–]Eagleshadow 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Man I did this with a chick I met about a month ago.
Wow, you're basically me. Same timeframe and everything.
[–]AliasSomerset 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
While I agree that you should definitely be open to talking to new girls, I'd also say that you shouldn't get so hung up on her impression of you through texting. It could totally be in your head. What you should have done was ask her out when you got her number. Made your intentions clear if you didn't. If you like her, make sure you set up a date.
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