So I've been doing my best lately to get better at closing faster in person and online. When it comes to okcupid for example I'll try getting a date in 4 to 7 messages now.

When I ask now I'm getting a TON of "maybe"s and "probably"s which I never used to. I used to have fewer just say "yes", then half would cancel on me last minute (don't know which is better/worse).

I'm not asking qualifying questions as much but I'll find ways to imply that I have qualified them to save time.

I think the 2 problems I'm having are #1 I don't know how to build attraction that quickly and #2 I don't know how to react when they don't want to commit to meeting up. I'd honestly rather get a "no". This week I had this happen with 3 out of 4 dates I had scheduled.

Any ideas seddit? I can't even tell if this is an improvement or a step back.